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> Finally after a week I have a chance to post a few comments about last week's
> NY fest at Judy's Chelsea in NY. I had other plans cancelled, and late in the
> week realized I really ought to go and meet some JMDL'ers, so I got in touch
> with David Lahm by e-mail, confessed my lateness to and ignorance of the
> party plans, etc, but he extended a warm welcome anyway, and I was starting
> to feel I would be right at home, and sure, I could bring my guitar even
> though I wasn't prepared to play anything formal. I figured it was really
> nice of him to go out and rent space in Manhattan for a gathering like this,
> so that we could all get together and meet each other and play some on an
> informal basis, etc. He must have thought it was pretty cute, and figured
> he'd play along with my naivete'  by not telling me JC's was his place. So, I
> find out when I get there Saturday afternoon, and right off the bat I get to
> listen to him play a few songs and oops - no wonder it's his place (or is it
> really Judy's - I know they're in this together, but in my family I have
> limited rights of ownership) - he's a real musician ! And David's real nice,
> and asks me if I plan to play, and I say not really, but if someone wants to
> sing California I'll try to put on a JT style accompaniment that I started to
> figure out last night, if the timing is right or whatever. So, for the next
> six hours I get to meet a bunch of JMDL'ers in person (my first such group -
> it was exciting for me to meet you all -   especially David, Rose, Sue,
> Nikki, Kay (?), Debra and Roberto - another musical talent). I also have the
> honor to meet Judy, who has a few opinions of her own, I gather :-), and who
> wasn't too interested in the fact that I was a Joni Mitchell fan, but warmed
> right up when I mentioned I had enjoyed seeing Peter Allen in a cabaret about
> 25 years ago - and then proceeded to remind me where I had seen him (at a
> place called Reno Sweeney's, in NY). "How'd you know that" I asked, and she
> smiled sweetly (but with perhaps just the slightest hint of deserved
> condescension)  and replied "well, I am in the business". ;-)  And, I really
> enjoyed all the music, as well. And at night, there are real patrons as well
> as  us JMDL'ers, and near the end David nudges Alison up there to sing
> California and then  tells her that I am going to accompany her on the guitar
> (pretty sneaky - I assume Alison thinks David's going to put some pretty
> piano line on the song). Anyway, Alison sings the song so well it distracts
> me, and I miss about half the notes, I think :-(  - yeah, that must have been
> why ;-)  -  but everyone seems to agree with me about what a nice job Alison
> did, so there is applause at the end anyway.  Alison - if there is a next
> time, I promise to get it all right, now that I have finished learning it.
> Anyway, you were terrific.
>
> Which brings me to the other stuff. Sue McNamara (of JMDL guitar TAB creator
> fame - great job there by you, Sue, and by the other tab posters - and
> "doesn't it feel good" ;-) to get a little public recognition for the really
> wonderful job you  have done), in an earlier post, said
>
> "As far as Joni is concerned, if she had said I am not a feminist, I'm a
> humanist, it might not have hurt so much, but as much as I love the
> woman, Joni is a Joni-ist.  Her goal was/is to further the art, so
> that didn't leave too much time to support other women (read
> competition).  Her philosophies seem very power-oriented (in an
> individualistic way [dogeatdog]).  David Crosby said she was as shy
> as Mussolini and Dylan called her a man!!  :-) ha ha.  She is
> definitely not a feminist (in my opinion). "
>
> Well, I agree and yet I disagree. Joni does appear to be an egoist (there's
> that label thing again), by which I mean she has a big ego, and that is not
> in my mind's eye a negative. It is, rather, a necessary evil of sorts (sort
> of  like captialism, in my opinion). It is a driver (not the only one, of
> course) of performance, creativity and excellence, but it can be destructive
> if allowed to get out of control and dominate. And she knows it. She has
> confessed over and over of her wrestling with it, of her struggle for higher
> achievement, etc. etc. Need I quote the lines ? I don't think I have to for
> this list. However, is that necessarily mutually exclusive with being a
> feminist ? Again, this may depend on definitions and semantics, but I don't
> think so. Surely the self anointed leaders of the feminist movement have been
> egoists - or worse, in my opinion - and talk about a philosophy oriented
> toward power !  If feminism is "the doctrine advocating social, political and
> all other rights of women equal to those of men" (Random House Unabridged),
> then Joni probably is a feminist if that term is defined as 1) one who agrees
> with or morally supports the doctrine. If to be a feminist 2) one must be
> politically active in support of the doctrine, or must agree with political
> extensions of the doctrine - such as separate as well as equal, or better
> than equal, or entitled to affirmative action to impose some sort of supposed
> statistical equality, or entitled to preferential treatment in the job market
> because of such status - then I suppose she is not. When she said she is not,
> I suspect she was applying the second definition to the term, rather than the
> first. And I suspect that you may have been, too. Anyway, I prefer the first
> definition, myself, so that I can pretend to think of myself as a feminist,
> despite my aversion to and disassociation with many aspects of the second
> definition. Anyway, we all agree that ongoing atrocities against women are
> abhorrent - but we seem to be not sufficiently motivated to collectively take
> action against it. Is this cowardly or wise ? This may be a more difficult
> question than it appears on its face. Is it worth waging war over ? Will
> there be more pain, or less in the short run ? In the long run ? That Yeat's
> poem variant "Slouching" haunts - 'the best lack conviction, given some time
> to think, and the worst are full of passion without mercy".
>
> Speaking of which, Colin, I agree with you that sex offenders, and others
> whose crimes are of such a type that recitivism is likely to be the norm
> rather than the exception, need to be locked up and kept away from the rest
> of us (not to mention from their earlier victims, if they are still alive).
> And there is no reason for you to feel conflicted about this. The criminals
> put the rest of us in a position where we must choose from the lesser of two
> evils - 1) to allow the perpetrators to go unpunished and/or continue to
> terrorize the rest of us, or 2) debase our spirits by locking them up, or
> executing them in certain cases, acts we also find abhorrent.  Well, I for
> one do not think this is a difficult choice. Just a rotten one.

its called 'being between a rock and a hrad place'! I agree with what you wrote.
The ideal of being able to be forgiving, lvong etc to all is a noble one but
first and foremost must always be the protection of the young and vulnerable.
Unfortunately, not uppermost in most people's minds.

> The answer is
> simple - stop committing atrocious crimes. And like you said - be a good
> parent.

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