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From: Donna J. Binkley
Date: 13 July 2001 20:30:09
To: 'susan+rick'; [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: RE: joni on cobain
Sorry - but i have no sympathy for people who commit suicide.
It would seem you have been forunate in that you have never been in so much
pain that death seems the only way out.
The trouble is also that people do not want to know, ignore the person in
pain or make light of it. Other people's pain makes people very
uncomfortable so they ignore it or brush it aside. This is one reason why a
friend will cross the street rather than bump into their friend who is
grieving. Wehn a person kills themselves, they are not the only ones who
failed.Thus sucide is often the only way out.
HOWEVER, suicde does have a dreadful impact on those left behind. Guilt,
sometimes desreved, is a terrible burden. It is a fdreadful thing to inflcit
on others and in my darkest moemtnts, it has kept me from it. I couldn't
possibly do that to the man I love. Not that i wish to anymkore. years of
painful, extrememyl painful, work solved that one!
There's a
saying that goes "those who commit suicide don't end their pain, they leave
it on the shoulders of those who they left behind". The only man i ever
might have married shot himself right in front of me almost 20 years ago,
his family will never be the same, that night changed the course of my life
forever.
No doubt Cobain was a troubled spirit, but reality check, um let's see, i'm
a millionaire, i'm at the pinnacle of my career, i have everything that most
people don't even get in their whole lifetime - think i'll OFF MYSELF!!
Sorry if this offends anyone, that is not my intention, but i had to speak
up.
Donna
