From: "Christian Seberino" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
On Mon, March 26, 2007 4:16 pm, Gabriel Sechan wrote:
> As the only option, no it can't satisfy it. Not even close. A one
shot
> "til death to you part" chance to get it right does not satisfy the
> problem.
Yes being married to the wrong person would be a bad thing. We certainly
have to be careful about who we marry and yes there is a risk in it. Is
the alternative any better? There is risk in getting married but there is
risk in being intimate with someone without a commitment too. Avoiding
marriage doesn't protect you from risk.
There's orders of magnitude difference in risks.
Risk of a marriage only society: unhappiness to both parties and innocent
thrid parties (children) for the rest of their life. Increased rates of
suicide, depression, and homicide (the only way out is death, not
necessarily yours). Increased unhappiness among all non-married parties
Risk of the non-regulated society: more diseases, with the mitigating
factor of medicine and condoms. More unwanted pregnancies, with the
mitigating factors of adoption, birth control, and abortion. More single
parents, with the mitigating factor of court enforced child support.
The risks and costs of the marriage only society absolutely *dwarf* the
non-regulated society. Its laughable to even compare the two.
>> >> > Many people in this country have
>> >> > tried the sex without marriage route and it generally works pretty
>> >> well.
>>I think they'd prefer to be born into a home with married parents.
Don't
>>you?
> Quite frankly, no. If the parents don't love one another, they'll have
a
> better, happier home life with a single parent. I support child support
> laws to help fiscally raise the children, but a single parent home is
far
> better than a house where parents are forced together because of a
mistake
> made a decade ago, leaving everyone unhappy.
I think you are correctly pointing out a risk inherent in marriage. You
agree there is also risk & problems inherent in a society without
marriage? If the risk with marriage is being "stuck", the opposite problem
with no marriage is people leaving too quickly without really trying to
work things out.
I never said no marriage is a good thing- the option should exist. I hope
to someday find someone I want to take that option with. Restricting people
to that option is what is unacceptable- it doesn't work and its costs are
far too high.
Gabe
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