I'm not so sure that it is more difficult. What I think happens is that too many of us fail to change as we age. For example, I have friends who are now in their 50's and 60's, who have and let's be honest, put on weight and are still looking for 20 to 30 year olds, who are going to the "cha-cha" palaces and dancing the night away. You know how we look out on the dance floor in our 50's and 60's next to the 20 and 30 somethings. It's not pretty. I will be the first to say that "ageism" may be an issue for us in the gay culture. That is not to say that there are not those younger men who appreciate the finer qualities of age, wisdom and maturity. But let's face it, I don't think they are in abundance and I might add, were you looking at 60 year old men when you were in your 20's? I don't think so, I know I wasn't.
Hopefully as we age, our attitudes, our outlook on life and some of the values we hold near and dear, rise to the level of our maturity. This includes seeking out relationships with men closer to our own age. I see all too often, efforts to relive our youth through the young. It may be desirable, but not very practical or likely. I have found that I prefer men who are at least 50 years or older. They are closer to my age, and I feel I have more in common with them than I do the 20 and 30 somethings. I also believe that if we looked more in our own age range, we will find lots of sex, lots of it. Because we are all out there looking. Its time we start looking at each other. We just need to change our way of viewing relationships, define what we want out of it and match those desires to the available pool. A few thoughts..... cooltroy4u ----- Original Message ----- From: "Rasslin Bear" <[email protected]> To: [email protected], [email protected], [email protected], "gay-orgies" <[email protected]>, [email protected], [email protected], [email protected], [email protected], [email protected], "male_orbs" <[email protected]>, [email protected], [email protected], [email protected] Sent: Monday, August 2, 2010 10:27:39 AM Subject: AUGUST DISCUSSION TOPIC OK guys before I give you the topic let me remind you this is a CIVIL discussion - not a forum for personal attacks. If someone says something you disagree with - be polite. If your tired if the discussion - do not open the posts. Be polite and others will be polite to you. The topic this month was submitted by DONSPORT to the bears group, but it intrigued me so much I decided to use it in all the gay groups. The topic is - WHY DOES IT GET HARDER T FIND SEX AS WE GET OLDER. Now discuss - but politely. -- Nothing motivates a man more than to see his boss putting in an honest day's work. -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "HOT ORIENTAL -MEN" group. To post to this group, send email to [email protected]. To unsubscribe from this group, send email to [email protected]. For more options, visit this group at http://groups.google.com/group/hot-oriental--men?hl=en.
