In a message dated 9/24/2009 3:13:01 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, [email protected] writes:
It’s also got a lot of great info on the best way to raise your kids. Not what to teach them but how to teach them so they learn what you want. For example, if the punishment is too weak, people won’t change their behavior, if the punishment is severe then people don’t do something because of the fear of the punishment alone, a measured punishment will give say 80% of the reason not to do something and the person needs to fill in the other 20% - it gets filled in with “because that’s the correct way to behave”, thus too lax or too strict don’t work – it’s the middle ground that makes us better. People respond to REWARD, not so much to punishment. That's why there are thieves, because thieves TAKE reward. Sure, there is punishment if they're caught, but that doesn't seem significant enough to prohibt the seeking of REWARD. REWARD your kids for doing something right and they'll continue to do what you feel is right. Punish them and they'll only remember the punishment for a short while, or they'll become a psychopath, which is all the rage these days....
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