True- there is a range of impacts and intents and often the other cannot bear the truth or is not ready to hear it. However, in the long run, "honesty is the best policy". Societal nicities are important but supressing the truth leads to resentment and sabotage of the relationship.
On Feb 6, 12:12 pm, restless <[email protected]> wrote: > Excellent point. I have met a few people who were brutally honest in > offering up their opinions towards others without conscience, not > fully understanding the impact their statements produce, were you to > be as honest in their direction they would think you were trying to be > mean to them,. Then I have met people who were honest only to get a > reaction out of someone, delighting in making others > uncomfortable. .,Living your life as honestly as you can within the > confines of the law can take courage depending on the circumstances of > the area you live in, as when the time comes to step out of our > comfort zone and deal with outside influences takes courage if your > going against the universal thinking of what is the status quo, > > On Feb 5, 5:41 am, rigsy03 <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > Those few with "unique and refreshing" ideas can get themselves into a > > lot of trouble as they are usually/often in conflict with their > > society and society runs on herd mentality- a means of survival/ > > coping mechanism which has mutated into many other forms of behavior. > > > How do you define a "hermit"? Isn't living a lie in relationships > > lonely? Is the "white lie" of social intercourse preferable to > > honesty? Is honesty a form of courage or hubris? Yes- we are "groomed" > > in many ways regarding behavior and choices but the ancient myths are > > built on and fascinated with disobedience against authority and they > > remain with us today on the therapist's couch in the form of guilt and > > anger- hopefully to be resolved. > > > Cameron (Britain) is fed up with diversity! :-) This, from the > > remnants of the British Empire! > > > "If you don't like the heat, stay out of the kitchen."- Harry Truman, > > I think- or was that about where the buck stopped? At any rate, > > logical consequences should be explored to prevent depression and > > shock. And- there are societal taboos- though filtered by various > > cultures and religions. > > > On Feb 3, 1:11 pm, restless <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > I think in reality we are not free. We are constricted {thinking} wise > > > by who raised us up with their beliefs right or wrong, with societies > > > beliefs foistered on us by all manner of media, school, job etc > > > dictate appropriate actions to fit into society, unless we become > > > hermits but then we are still prisoners of other peoples thoughts and > > > beliefs, It is a constant struggle to break out of the contraints and > > > obtain our own visions and ideas apart from the masses, that is why it > > > is so rare to find someone with unique and refreshing ideas. > > > > On Feb 3, 7:42 am, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > > A person thinks , feels , acts and reacts consciously so to all > > > > intents and purposes he is a free agent even though he may be bound > > > > completely by God's will. And as such he is accountable for his > > > > actions. That's what matters. > > > > > On Thu, Feb 3, 2011 at 7:35 PM, pol.science kid <[email protected]> > > > > wrote: > > > > > I know it was not gender specific.. U said 'that matters'.. Does it > > > > > matter to the individual..what does matter.. > > > > > > On 1/29/11, RP Singh <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > >> Whether everything is predetermined or everyone is free ---doesn't > > > > >> matter. A man thinks , feels , acts and reacts ---that matters. > > > > > > -- > > > > > \--/ Peace- Hide quoted text - > > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > > - Show quoted text -- Hide quoted text - > > - Show quoted text -
