On Fri, Feb 26, 2010 at 8:27 PM, Mary <[email protected]> wrote:
> Thanks to all who were brave enough to comment on my post. That is > something people don't understand about the tragedy of others. They really > want to talk about it. The next time a co-worker or someone else you know > has a tragic experience, remember that they would really like you to ask > them about it. Our society tells us to distract them or talk about > anything > but that, but our society is wrong. > Lu says: This has been true in my experience, also. People don't want to go there, though. I stopped talking about my youngest daughter to any but the closest people to me, because the death of a child is just simply something that most people don't want to think about. > Men are predators and women are prey animals. > I don't see it this way. Maybe it's the way we were raised, or differing life experiences, but I am NOT prey. I have never been preyed upon, I am not afraid. I had a kind, soft spoken, but strong father, who protected his children. I have a kind, outspoken husband, who would never hurt me, or prey on me. Why not say: Some men are predators? Men are also preyed upon by other men, and occasionally by women, too. More along the lines of women looking for money, but still... > Gav talks about living a free, unencumbered life without a home. I can > only > dream about such freedom. No woman would ever do that. Men can get away > with it, but we women would just end up as somebody's prostitute or rape > victim if we tried. There are many women who have ventured out alone, (such as Jane Goodall) who didn't end up in any of the scenarios you described. But a free, unencumbered life is not what we, as women want, in general. Biologically, we give birth, which means we want a home, security, and someone to take care of us in that very vulnerable state we are in when carrying a child. > My son comes home from school telling me stories about girls getting into > fights now days. I am disturbed by this. > For the one year that my oldest daughter attended public high school, I noticed this to be true. Some of the girls there were crass, loud, violent, and dressed very provocatively (I see it as sexual harassment against the boys, the way they dress). I would love to strike out on my own into the unknown and have dynamic > experiences every day, but I am a prey animal. It would be suicide. > I have known women who seem to be prey. I have always wondered, is it just a fluke, that I have never been a victim, and some women seem to be repeatedly victimized? Or is it something that is set up in a person - beginning in childhood, caused by bad parenting, lack of nurturing, abuse, whatever it might be, but it becomes part of the psyche, and leads to repeated incidents? My main point being, that yours is A reality, but it is not the only reality, it is not my reality. My theory being, that I can help prevent this being my daughters reality, by giving them a healthy launching pad, the right tools, and a sense of their own power. Lu Moq_Discuss mailing list Listinfo, Unsubscribing etc. http://lists.moqtalk.org/listinfo.cgi/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org Archives: http://lists.moqtalk.org/pipermail/moq_discuss-moqtalk.org/ http://moq.org/md/archives.html
