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Beautiful Words. Thank-you.
I do understand about the fears and the problems of foster care. It is a sad
situation. Thats why we wanted siblings so they would have each other and
not be seperated. We also agree only to long term care or what some call
permenant placement. We didn't want kids to be moved around anymore. We
didn't want kids in and out. We just want two girls who can finally settle
in and know they are safe. We are here to encourage their gifts and talents,
to raise their self esteem, to be a safe and secure haven in an insecure
world. We are here to have alot of fun as we love to do things like whale
watching, camping, hiking, beach combing, art projects, etc.
I know many foster homes are the pitts. Some are even abusive. We decided to
do this to make a difference. To be a nurturing and caring home. If I didn't
have a real heart for troubled teens...I'd never dream of doing this. But I
do. My husband is incredibly good with kids too. He is so patient and so
understanding. He came from a broken home. He knows how they are feelng. But
he says he wished when he was young that a good foster home had been
provided!
I guess nothing seemed worse to him then than staying with his parents! It
can work both ways. They were each married 5 times.
Perhaps thats why we've stayed married for 31 years! He never wanted to do
that to his kids!
But, I suspect I may be the only one in his life that ever truly loved him.
Now he has children and grandchildren that love him. We do have alot of love
to share. Like I said, I don't blame kids for running away before they even
get here or meet us. We don't know what all they've had to live through.
But, if they'd just give us a chance...they might find the acceptance and
caring they've been looking for all their lives.
Sincerely, Spiritdove ~v~
on 7/23/01 6:09 AM, [EMAIL PROTECTED] at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
In a message dated 7/23/01 9:56:47 AM Eastern Daylight Time,
[EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
Subj: Re: Another Letdown! :(-- prayers for Imburgia
SD
Running away has ALWAYS been very common for foster kids. And, in many of
their minds there is no point in meeting you. You might be as bad or worse
than the last place they were stuck in... or they may fear they will like
you and then just be uprooted again.
My sister is the superivising social worker//mental health coordinator for
the Salvation Army's congregant care and foster care programs in NYC. And we
come from and alcoholic home from which I ran away many times//was in
foster group care because of my own self.
So I'm telling you from experience... be patient and remember these
kids have had many disappointments and emotional roller coaster rides. Being
a foster parent is definetly tough. When you do get a child I know you will
make a big dofference to them. But serious patience is required on many
levels. Good luck :-)Peg LE
I agree with Peg, having been thru these systems on both sides over
theyear---theymove kids formone foster situation to another---sometimes the
reasoning is "so they won't get too attached" what the h--- kind of
baloney is that? Or the "personality clashes" translate, the foster
parents
didn't get the docile live in helpthey figured on---
chld abuse, both physical, mental, or sexual, the kids run away---and too
often end up in juvenile---when they are already victims.
I won't even get into the guradian ad litums some areas hire-- most of whom
have NO training, and more than a few use it as power plays. I have a
blood
cousin 2 counties over who shouldn't be in charge of a bowl of guppies---and
she's the county ad litum.
Think someone recently said "I'm the government, and I'm here to help you"
yeah right.
Firehair
"What you accept, you teach----the choices you make dictate the life you
--those you impact----lead"
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on 7/22/01 6:52 PM, [EMAIL PROTECTED] at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
>
> your Gift ito this child - and her children - and her children's childrens is
> your opening your home and your hearts and lives for them - - and for the
> healing which can only happen one moment at a time - sometimes, the
> difficult thing is to wait while the butterfly decides to land - for if we
> rush after it to grab it, we will crush the very peace that we wish the
> butterfly to know -
> prayers for the children (both who ran) - and for you - and for those who are
> looking for them - that each may know the quiet strength that will get each
> through these difficult times -
>
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
> We do not do what we do to honor ourselves, but to honor those who have gone
> before us and to plant seeds for those who follow after us. If we do not
> act in an honorable way in THIS moment, then we are bringing dishonor to
> those who went before and are planting a crop of dishonor for those who
> follow. If we ourselves do not bring peace, honor and respect to the
> situation, how will they arrive. Continuing the Struggle in an honorable Way
> educates those without Honor as to the meaning of walking and living -and
> dieing - with honor. Fighting each fight in an honorable way makes this day
> truly a good day to die. The struggle for Justice for all Peoples and to Free
> Leonard is not over. It is in how we struggle that unknown victories are
> won.
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