have you read How to Talk so Kids Will Listen? I recommend it for anyone with a 3 year old and up or a dh! LOL ----- Original Message ----- From: "Tami Spillman" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "bfing" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, December 20, 2004 10:57 AM Subject: [bfing] RE: crying babies
> I am a READER and haven't read either one as of yet. > But am seriously thinking of getting the toddler > version myself! I don't know how or why I didn't read > the first one.... may read it just to read it.... > knowledge never hurt anyone right?? <SMILE> DD3 is > still doing those horrible tempter tantrums and > NOTHING seems to work for her.... I am talking to the > ped. DR in January... maybe he will have ideas that I > haven't had yet.... LOL. I think that she is just > like her father and has a VERY demanding personality. > UG. > > MERRY CHRISTMAS to EVERYONE! > Tami > --- megan kerns <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > i loved dr karps 'happiest baby on the block' book. > > it has been a great > > help this first six months. has anyone read 'the > > happiest toddler on the > > block'? i am thinking about buying that one > > sometime this spring. thanks! > > megan > > > > >From: "ml obermaier" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >Reply-To: "bfing" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >To: "bfing" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > >Subject: [bfing] crying babies > > >Date: Mon, 20 Dec 2004 08:21:13 -0600 > > > > > >Someone sent me this from Dr. Phil's website, > > thought it might be of > > >interest > > >The Five Techniques to Calm a Crying Baby > > > > > >Dr. Harvey Karp is a board-certified pediatrician, > > associate professor of > > >pediatrics at UCLA School of Medicine and the > > author of the book and video, > > >The Happiest Baby on the Block. He dispels a series > > of myths about newborn > > >babies and shares the five techniques to calm a > > crying baby: > > > > > >Myth: The baby is ready to be born after nine > > months. > > > > > >Babies are born too soon. Sure, every mother is > > ready to have her baby > > >after nine months, but babies are not like horses. > > A horse is ready to run > > >the first day of life. Our babies are fetuses the > > first few months. They > > >are not ready for the world until three months when > > they are smiling, > > >cooing and ready to interact. Of course, they have > > to be born, it's not an > > >option. But what a parent has to understand is that > > for the first few > > >months the babies are like a walking uterus. They > > still need an environment > > >that simulates what they experienced in the womb. > > Ever notice how a crying > > >baby can sometimes be soothed when you drive them > > around in your vehicle? > > >The vehicle is like an imitation of the uterus. > > There is a rhythmic calming > > >sensation that turns on their calming reflex. Other > > ways to imitate the > > >uterus: holding, dancing, rocking, swinging, white > > noise or singing. > > > > > >Myth: Parents know what to do from the beginning. > > > > > >It's intuitive to want to calm your baby, it's not > > intuitive to know how. > > >Tha > > > >t'saskill.It'snotahardskill,butit'ssomethingthatrequiresskill.Babieshaveaca lmingreflex,likeanoffswitchforcrying,anditcanbetriggeredbydoingthefiveS's.BR BRSTRONGMythSTRONGBabiescrybecausetheyhavegas.BRBRBabiesdon'tcrybecauseofgas .Sometimesalittlegaswilltriggerthecrying,buttheydon'tgoonandonandonbecauseof it.Andyouknowitcouldn'tbe > > > > >gas if taking them for a car ride makes them quiet. > > Pain wouldn't come and > > >go like that. Pain wouldn't go away if you turn on > > a hair dryer, and yet, > > >that noise can calm them. > > > > > >The 5 "S's": How to Turn on Your Baby's Calming > > Reflex > > > > > >1. Swaddling: Wrapping makes your baby feel > > magically returned to the womb > > >and it will keep your baby from flailing his/her > > arms. If not done > > >correctly, the baby may cry even harder. Remember > > to swaddle snuggly. Loose > > >blankets may be a choking risk. Also, don't > > overheat your baby. (Babies > > >should never be sweaty and flushed.) > > > > > >2. Side/Stomach: Newborns are easier to calm when > > they're lying on their > > >side or stomach. This triggers the calming reflex > > by imitating your baby's > > >position in the uterus. Lying a baby on his/her > > back can sometimes trigger > > >a falling reflex and make your baby feel insecure. > > Keep in mind the > > >side/stomach position is great for calming crying, > > but babies should only > > >sleep on their backs. > > > > > >3. Shhhh: "Shhhh"ing your baby imitates the sound > > he/she heard in your > > >uterus, which was as loud as a vacuum cleaner. > > Place your mouth two to four > > >inches from your baby's ear and make the "shhhh" > > sound. It must be loud > > >enough to match the sound of your baby's crying, or > > he/she won't hear it. > > > > > >4. Swinging: Rhythmic moving imitates the jiggling > > your baby felt inside > > >the uterus and activates the calming reflex. Ways > > to use motion are: baby > > >slings and carriers, dancing, infant swings, > > rocking, car rides, bouncy > > >seats. > > > > > >5. Sucking: Putting a pacifier, finger or breast > > into a baby's mouth > > >satisfies hunger and turns on the calming reflex. > > > > > >For more information about Dr. Karp and his > > techniques for calming crying > > >babies, go to www.thehappiestbaby.com. > > > > > > > > > > > >--- > > >You are currently subscribed to bfing as: > > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > >To unsubscribe send a blank email to > > >%%email.unsub%% > > > > > > > > --- > > You are currently subscribed to bfing as: > > [EMAIL PROTECTED] > > To unsubscribe send a blank email to > > %%email.unsub%% > > > > > > > __________________________________ > Do you Yahoo!? > Read only the mail you want - Yahoo! Mail SpamGuard. > http://promotions.yahoo.com/new_mail > > --- > You are currently subscribed to bfing as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > To unsubscribe send a blank email to %%email.unsub%% --- You are currently subscribed to bfing as: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To unsubscribe send a blank email to [EMAIL PROTECTED]
