Is this space closed to moments of contraction? Erik
On Fri, 20 Nov 2009 11:12:32 -0600, Denise Tennen <[email protected]> wrote: >Thank you so much for your comments, Wendy > >Denise >On Nov 20, 2009, at 4:51 AM, Wendy Farmer-O'Neil wrote: > >> In my experience, truth is relative. It depends essentially on my >> perspective. The vaster my perspective, the more many-faceted >> truth appears. Until the very notion of truth becomes more of a >> living process than a static fact. >> >> I have experienced contraction in the resonant field of OSList >> throughout this conversation. To me that signals the presence of >> aggression. Aggression can be very subtle or very blatant. Either >> way, it stimulates hurt, often in those other than its target. >> >> I am a student of Aikido, so violence, non-violence, aggression, >> its evocation, its arising, and its transformation are my daily >> bread. I still have a lifetime�s worth to learn about it. I >> believe that the purpose of conflict is harmony. What I have >> learned so far, is that aggression is a destructive, life denying >> vector in that equation. And that clean heart anger is a >> generative life affirming vector. >> >> I have yet to hear clean heart anger in this conversation. I have >> heard a lot of aggression in a variety of forms and guises. I have >> also heard hurt, pain, sadness, confusion, frustration, to name a few. >> >> I will share what my experience has been in service to transparency >> if it serves no better purpose. >> >> I feel contraction when I hear OS and NVC spoken of as tools >> because for me, they have become profound ways of being in the world. >> >> I feel contraction when I hear pain in Chris Corrigan�s voice when >> he wonders why this conversation needs to unfold this way between >> people he cares about. >> >> I feel contraction when I hear blame, shame and name-calling. >> >> I feel contraction when I recognize the operation of a poisoned >> well argument. >> >> I feel contraction when I hear someone caught in the steel jaws of >> an old hurt. >> >> I feel contraction when i hear the pain of someone who has had to >> fight too damn hard for every inch and breath. >> >> I feel contraction when I see more unsubscribes in a day than I >> usually see in a month. >> >> I feel care, concern, pain, and sadness when I think of all of you >> in this circle who are listening or speaking. It is you who I most >> want to speak to right now. >> >> Here is my hand. >> >> I offer it in absolute commitment. I will never put you out of my >> heart. I will hold space with and for you through it all. Even in >> our most shadowed , unloved and disowned places. I�m game to face >> the monsters of the deep. I prefer them to the shallows. >> >> I will name that the use of violence and aggression cloaked as the >> servant of truth has been the strategy of many who would prefer to >> silence, persecute, oppress and discredit those whose opinions or >> choices were in conflict with their own agendas. It has been the >> root of much human suffering. I can feel suffering present on this >> list right now. I don�t like it. I won�t support it. I am >> saddened that people I admire and respect are behaving this way. I >> am requesting that it stop. I am also requesting that the back- >> channel story-telling stop. If you do not have the integrity to >> air your complaints directly, at least have the decency not to >> perpetrate slander. (And I am speaking about everyone involved not >> one person in particular, because I�m certain it�s going on in >> several directions.) >> >> I guess we have finally grown up. We are apparently big enough, >> brave enough, and ready enough to face a real dragon. Can�t wait >> to see what we do with the treasure. >> >> In deepest respect and with great love for you all, >> >> Wendy >> >> >> >> >> >> On 20-Nov-09, at 1:12 AM, Michael Herman wrote: >> >> Wendy Farmer-O'Neil >> CEO Prospera Consulting >> [email protected] >> 1-800-713-2351 >> >> The moment of change is the only poem. -- Adrienne Rich >> >> * >> * >> ========================================================== >> [email protected] >> ------------------------------ >> To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, >> view the archives of [email protected]: >> http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html >> >> To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: >> http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist > >* >* >========================================================== >[email protected] >------------------------------ >To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, >view the archives of [email protected]: >http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html > >To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: >http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist >=========================================================== ============== * * ========================================================== [email protected] ------------------------------ To subscribe, unsubscribe, change your options, view the archives of [email protected]: http://listserv.boisestate.edu/archives/oslist.html To learn about OpenSpaceEmailLists and OSLIST FAQs: http://www.openspaceworld.org/oslist
