Thanks mmp __/\__ <3 ________________ When the mind is quiet, the sun of your heart will shine once again, and you will be free of problems. - Robert Adams <http://www.robert-adams.info/>
On Mon, Apr 20, 2020 at 4:45 PM Michael M Pannwitz via OSList < [email protected]> wrote: > Dear Jake, > > after folks have gathered in the closing circle and announcements have > ceased and things have quieted down completely I: > > --- take about three minutes to go back to the beginning of the > gathering pointing to the phases of the event in the last 3 days > > --- show the talking stick (something I found outside earlier in the > day, such as a branch with leaves or flowers on it and if it is a > situation in which a mike is used that might be the talking stick) and > speak, sitting in the circle, about 2 minutes on this final process > (that it will be passed from one to another in a clockwise direction, > that one should not think about what to say while it is on the way, once > you receive it, hold it for a while, dont pass it on right away, and if > something occurs to you right then let everyone else know if you like, > say it and others listen, if you hold it and you dont say or do anything > we listen into the silence, and if you say something from the heart we > listen with our hearts). > > Since there is a closing time to the gathering, everyone knows how much > time is available for the closing circle, and usually it will take > place in the time still available. > > By this time the talking stick has returned to me and I say something > like "Thank you for the privilege to facilitate this event" and then > turn to the sponsor that is sitting next to me and ask him to close the > event and send us on our ways. > > The sponsor closes the event. > > Sometimes there also seems to be the need to have a ritual for the group > as a whole to celebrate the end of this process... there is a very short > intervention I learned from HO: > After the closing circle and the short speech of the sponsor I rise and > ask everyone else to get up and form a very close standing circle, wait > a moment and invite to have a last look at everyone, after a while I ask > everyone to turn outward, still noticing the circle "behind" me and then > leave the circle in all directions... usually this is the time when > people move around, hug, say goodbye, etc. > > Of course, there are different situations that call for other closings, > such as a gathering of more than 300 (up to 300 it works the way I > described), lets say 2000, then you need several mikes that are taken by > os-team members to those that signal that they want to say something... > not everybody gets to speak. > > This last phase is, except for the introduction to the process in the > beginning, the only time I am visible and speak to the whole group... > and I do not say anything more than what I mentioned. During the usually > 25 to 35 minutes in which participants listen and talk I say nothing and > do nothing. > > Greetings from Berlin where doing nothing is the expected mode in the > corona lockdown, a tough exercise for many... > > cheers > mmp > > > > Am 20.04.2020 um 17:31 schrieb Jake Yeager via OSList: > > Hi mmp, > > > > What's your preferred closing circle process? I am interested to know > > how you "do nothing" for the closing circle too. :) > > > > Thanks! > > > > All the best, > > Jake > > ________________ > > > > When the mind is quiet, the sun of your heart will shine once again, and > > you will be free of problems. > > - Robert Adams <http://www.robert-adams.info/> > > > > > > On Mon, Apr 20, 2020 at 10:35 AM Michael M Pannwitz via OSList > > <[email protected] <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > wrote: > > > > Dear Doris and you other tender and friendly folks out there, > > > > "Tend and Befriend" is always a basic response, crisis or not. > > > > But since crisis is a basic prerequisite for the unfolding of time > and > > space for selforganisation "Tend and Befriend" also unfolds more > freely. > > > > In os events that deal with urgent matters, "tend and befriend" is > > always present. > > In the context of such gatherings it is usually not perceived as > > something special by participants. > > > > Facilitators, however, busy with doing nothing, do observe it every > > time. There are even attempts to have the paricipants increase their > > awareness of this by ending an os event with reflections along the > > medicine wheel. Which, as I discovered, is a grand way of looking at > > such elements as vision, management, community and leadership... but > > rarely gets much attention by participants. They already know all > that. > > And I guess, they are more interested to get busy on the actions they > > just worked on. > > > > Greetings from Berlin, where I see "Tend and Befriend" abound... to > the > > astonishment of the folks in charge who see stuff happening they felt > > responsible for.... > > > > Cheers and enjoy tending and befriending and being tended and > befriendet > > > > mmp > > Am 20.04.2020 um 11:13 schrieb Doris Gottlieb via OSList: > > > Dear Peggy, > > > > > > Thank you for sending the article and for reminding me about > > Tend and > > > Befriend as one of the basic responses of humans in crisis and > > stress. > > > It is so valuable to expand my noticing in working in times of > > crisis to > > > include this frame and look for where and how it happens. > > > > > > With love and gratitude, > > > > > > Doris > > > > > > On Sun, Apr 19, 2020 at 1:36 AM agusj via OSList > > > <[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > Hi Peggy! > > > > > > Thanks for share this The psychologist, Shelley Taylor, > > working with > > > a team of women, found women tended to respond differently. > They > > > took care of the vulnerable and worked together. > > > > > > I love it! I knew in my profound self that there should be > > another way. > > > > > > Thanks a lot! > > > > > > Warm regards > > > > > > Agustín > > > > > > > > > On Thursday, April 16, 2020, 04:16:09 PM GMT-5, Peggy Holman > via > > > OSList <[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>>> wrote: > > > > > > > > > Hi Michael, > > > > > > Thanks for opening this conversation. I’ve been thinking about > > > something similar, with a slightly different emphasis. I’ve > been > > > struck by how frequently I’m hearing “we’re all in this > > together”. > > > So I’ve been thinking about how it is a time of both personal > > > responsibility AND a sense of the greater good that has never > > > existed in my lifetime. (We’re about the same age.) Even talk > of > > > sacrifice. Something I recall my parents talking about from > their > > > youth in World War 2. > > > > > > Something that has intersected this mulling has been watching > the > > > amazing amount of constructive journalism happening right now. > > > Practical, responsive, listening to the questions from the > > public. > > > And, of course, the generosity of people self-organizing to > > help others. > > > > > > One last element in my thinking about this: "tend and > befriend" > > > rather than "fight or flight.” In brief, in 2000, a woman > > > psychologist looked at the research that led to coining the > > phrase > > > fight or flight to characterize human response to threat or > > stress. > > > Turns out, like much of that early social science research, > > it was > > > done primarily with men. The psychologist, Shelley Taylor, > > working > > > with a team of women, found women tended to respond > differently. > > > They took care of the vulnerable and worked together. > > > > > > With nowhere to run, I see much of the response to Coronavirus > > > following the pattern of tend and befriend. It’s a trend I’d > sure > > > like to see made conscious and furthered. I wrote a 2-minute > > piece > > > about it: > > > > > > https://medium.com/@PeggyHolman/journalism-that-tends-and-befriends-in-the-time-of-coronavirus-1ec800ccf9ad > . > > > > > > I think fighting and fleeing less and tending and befriending > > more > > > encompasses both personal responsibility and the common good. > > > > > > Be well and stay sane, > > > Peggy > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ________________________________ > > > Peggy Holman > > > Co-founder > > > Journalism That Matters > > > 15347 SE 49th Place > > > Bellevue, WA 98006 > > > 206-948-0432 > > > www.journalismthatmatters.org > > <http://www.journalismthatmatters.org> > > <http://www.journalismthatmatters.org> > > > www.peggyholman.com <http://www.peggyholman.com> > > <http://www.peggyholman.com> > > > Twitter: @peggyholman > > > JTM Twitter: @JTMStream > > > > > > Enjoy the award winning Engaging Emergence: Turning Upheaval > into > > > Opportunity <http://www.engagingemergence.com> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >> On Apr 16, 2020, at 12:40 PM, Michael Herman via OSList > > >> <[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > >> <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>>> wrote: > > >> > > >> Hi all, > > >> > > >> I had a thought recently that might be interesting here, and > > that > > >> maybe you can add on to, as a story and conversation here. > And > > >> then in the world. This overlaps with some other recent > > threads, > > >> too, I think. > > >> > > >> As background, I'm exactly old enough that the moon landing > > is, as > > >> best I can tell, my oldest memory. I've seen pictures of > stuff > > >> that happened before, but I clearly remember the space toys > > being > > >> given away at gas stations, our family buying our first > > color TV, > > >> and (just like now) keeping our distance... in that case we > were > > >> supposed to stay six feet from the new set. > > >> > > >> From that global moment came all kinds of "big blue marble" > > >> photos, Bucky Fuller's "Spaceship Earth," and other images. > Now > > >> we had a picture of "all in this together" where "all" > > really was > > >> every human. And then, a few decades later, we've created a > > >> global network, a global economy, and global epidemics. Not > > >> everyone made a direct, conscious connection about those > images > > >> from space, but somehow we all grew up participating in the > > >> creation of these global structures and phenomena. > > >> Now I think we might have a chance to accelerate our swing > back, > > >> to the micro, the local, the individual in equally strong, > > >> long-term ways. It took us a while to get there, but the > > message > > >> coming clearer now is "wear a mask," for instance, "to > protect > > >> others..." And inside of that, this seems like a visceral > > >> reminder that "what you, the little individual does -- does > > >> matter." It matters with masks and the virus, but it can > > be, and > > >> I hope it will be, quickly translated to the plastic we use, > the > > >> miles we drive, the other things we purchase and reinforce > with > > >> our money, the way we manage emotions in groups, and so on. > It > > >> matters for everyone to manage their own "stuff," their own > > >> behavior, purchases, words, and other choices. > > >> > > >> This is what I hope we might be learning, anyway. And > > within all > > >> of the possibilities, choosing to take responsibility for > one's > > >> own experience, actively choosing to be learning and > > contributing, > > >> seems to me about the best choices we could focus on, each > > of us, > > >> individually and personally. What we've been saying all > > along, in > > >> various ways, that individual agency and actions matter, > seems > > >> more important and understandable that ever. > > >> > > >> This makes me curious if and how what is happening now with > the > > >> virus and what we've all been teaching and practicing and > > inviting > > >> "in open space," might shape the world over the next few > > decades. > > >> I wonder what kind of a world might emerge from increasing > > >> awareness of personal agency, responsibility, learning and > > >> contributing, in meetings and everywhere else. > > >> > > >> This is one good thing I have imagined could emerge from > this. > > >> This is the view I'm testing as I watch the news and talk > with > > >> clients these days. > > >> > > >> What do you think might come out of the current situation, > > on any > > >> scale? > > >> > > >> And is there anything else to do about helping it along, for > > now, > > >> wherever we are? > > >> > > >> Michael > > >> > > >> > > >> -- > > >> > > >> Michael Herman > > >> Michael Herman Associates > > >> 312-280-7838 (mobile) > > >> > > >> MichaelHerman.com <http://michaelherman.com/> > > >> OpenSpaceWorld.org <http://openspaceworld.org/> > > >> > > >> > > >> _______________________________________________ > > >> OSList mailing list > > >> To post send emails to [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > >> <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > >> To unsubscribe send an email to > > >> [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > >> <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > >> To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > > >> > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > >> Past archives can be viewed here: > > >> http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected] > > > > > > _______________________________________________ > > > OSList mailing list > > > To post send emails to [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > To unsubscribe send an email to > > [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > > > > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > > Past archives can be viewed here: > > > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected] > > > _______________________________________________ > > > OSList mailing list > > > To post send emails to [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > To unsubscribe send an email to > > [email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]> > > > <mailto:[email protected] > > <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > To subscribe or manage your subscription click below: > > > > http://lists.openspacetech.org/listinfo.cgi/oslist-openspacetech.org > > > Past archives can be viewed here: > > > http://www.mail-archive.com/[email protected] > > > > > > > > > > > > -- > > > Doris Gottlieb > > > Consultant | Facilitator | Mentor > > > > > > *T * +31(0)6. 29.23.27.12 ** > > > *E * [email protected] <mailto:[email protected]> > > <mailto:[email protected] <mailto:[email protected]>> > > > *Skype * dorisgottlieb > > > *W *www.dorisgottlieb.com <http://www.dorisgottlieb.com> > > <http://www.dorisgottlieb.com/> > > > > > > > > > *Upcoming events and Genuine Contact™ program (GCP) training you > > can > > > find a complete listing of training offering here > > > <https://www.dorisgottlieb.com/workshops/>* > > > > > > > > > *Cross-Cultural Conflict Resolution* | Online, 1,2 and 3 April > 2020 > > > > > > *Working with Open Space Technology *| Heeze 1 - 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