I'm crying again. Will the weeping ever end?
More than a few tears were shed yesterday at our gathering in
Adelaide...tears shed for ourselves and all the women of the world.
Thank you, women of Adelaide who once again showed just how much birth
matters and how important it is that we do not give up! Power to the women!
On to Mildura...
Vicki
www.travellingmidwife.com
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jackie Mawson" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "Ozmidwifery List" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Sent: Monday, July 30, 2001 9:50 AM
Subject: Twenty-two years ago today.
> Hi all,
>
> Just wanted to share these memories with your all. This story was
> contributed for the next Birthrites magazine, and I feel so honoured to be
> including it. I hope posting it will help those on the List understand the
> emotional impact that caesarean birth can have on a woman, and her child.
> Take care,
> BB Jackie Mawson.
> ==============================
>
> It is July 18, twenty-two years since my son was born, and the pain is
> still there.
> Twenty-two years, and the tears still flow. Today my second child, my
> first son, has completed 22 years of his life.
>
> It was going to be a hot day, I thought, as I lifted myself from the
> bed. My body was swelled from the full term baby that was in my womb.
> Other than having an appointment with my doctor that morning, it seemed
> like it would be an uneventful day. I dressed myself and my 17 month old
> baby girl. We shared a breakfast, I began some laundry, and washed the
> dishes before we started out for our walk to the doctor's office.
>
> I was looking forward to this birth. I remembered how absolutely
> wonderful it felt when I pushed my new born daughter out of my womb. It
> was the most exhilarating thing I had ever experienced in my entire life.
> I looked forward with anticipation to birthing this baby. And I was
> longing to hold my second baby and offer him nourishment from my own
> body.
>
> Little did I know what was in store for me that day.
>
> As the doctor palpated the baby, I could see a look of concern on his
> face. He was an older doctor. I wondered how many grandchildren were
> blessed with this gentle, kind man as their grandfather. I went into his
> office after the exam and seated myself. His next words were enough to
> knock me on the floor. "Kathy, your baby has been breech for some time.
> I was hoping the baby would turn on its own. Since it hasn't, and you
> are so close to delivering, I'd like you to come this afternoon to the
> hospital so that we can do a Cesarean section. Your pelvis is
> borderline, and I think the baby should be born surgically." "No," I
> said. "I can't. I'm not ready for that." "OK," he said, "We'll
> schedule for 2 days from now. You can either have general anesthesia or
> a spinal. Which would you prefer?" "I want to be awake for my baby's
> birth," I whispered.
>
> >From then on, I was in complete shock. I was stunned. The rest of the
> day is a blur to me. I went home and sobbed. I cried all day, I think.
> I started feeling crampy and began feeling contractions. I hardly paid
> attention. I was so very sad. Soon the contractions got harder, so that
> my mind finally began to pay attention to them. I called my husband's
> work to have them call him at the job he was on, and my mother-in- law to
> pick up my daughter. My husband's cousin drove me to the hospital
> because for some reason, they had a hard time reaching my husband. I
> felt so alone, so isolated, so afraid. The tears kept coming.
>
> They began to prep me for surgery. The woman prepping me was rattling on
> about her boyfriend who was still living in the Philippines. She was
> going to call him tonight from the hospital, but I shouldn't tell anyone
> because she would be in a lot of trouble if they found out. All I cared
> about right then was trying to deal with my contractions which were
> getting more intense and closer. Where is my husband? Please, Lord,
> make the baby come out right here before they get me to surgery.
>
> The woman is wheeling my bed through the gray, cold, sterile hallways to
> the elevator. She bumps into a wall, I am contracting. Oh, what pain!
> Over the threshold--more bumping, more pain. I catch a glimpse of my
> husband. The tears flow again as the distance between him and me
> increases. I wave goodbye as the elevator door closes.
>
> I am now in the cold operating room. Everyone has the same uniform on,
> the same masks on their faces. I recognize my doctor. I sit up so they
> can administer the spinal. The needle hurts as it goes in, and next I
> feel a sharp pain going down my right leg, almost like an electrical
> shock, but oh, my leg hurts! Another needle injected. I'm so cold.
> I lie down again. I am shaking. I can't stop. Someone, please hold my
> hand. Someone, please, I am afraid! And I can't stop shaking. Please,
> someone hold my hand? Where is my husband?
>
> My arms are outstretched. They are tied down. Lord, this reminds me of
> how they crucified your only Son. Thank you for your presence. You are
> my Shepherd, and you promised to be with my as I walk through the valley
> of the shadow of death. I can feel your presence, and I can sense your
> sadness blended with mine, and I am comforted. You never intended for my
> baby or anyone else's to be born this way, did you?
>
> They tell me I have a baby boy. They are holding up a baby all wrapped
> up in a blanket about 15 feet away from me. They begin to leave the room
> with him. Please, let me see him again. They hold him up again, and
> then walk out the door. I'm still shaking. Where is my baby?
>
> For 5 days I can not get up from lying on my back. If I do, the pain in
> my head, neck and every muscle in my body is so very intense! My muscles
> lock up and are as hard as a rock. I can not move because it hurts so
> badly. I can not hold my baby. They place him on top of me. I try to
> maneuver him so I can nurse him while lying flat on my back. I can not
> see his face very well. I can't sit up and eat. In fact, I can't reach
> my food. Can someone please help me eat?
>
> Lord, thank you for the most wonderful son any mother could ever hope
> for. Thank you that he and I have such a close relationship in spite of
> our difficult first few weeks together. I love how he teases me and I
> him. We share the same sense of humor and can exchange knowing looks and
> smiles and laugh together. Lord, I love him intensely. Thank you for
> blessing me with him. Thank you that he doesn't remember those days when
> he was alone in the hospital nursery while I was lying in my hospital bed
> and my heart was sorrowing after him. Thank you for allowing me to bless
> him with fond memories of a happy childhood. But alone I will carry in
> my heart the pain of those first weeks together, always. He doesn't like
> to think about how he was born because he says he doesn't like that I had
> to be cut open for him to be born. He doesn't like to think that his
> birth hurt me. He told me with tears in his eyes that he wishes he was
> born
> the 'right' way and that his dad had been able to be with us when he was
> born.
> My tears today are for those lost weeks while I recovered
> until I could finally be a mother to him. Thank you, Lord, for today.
>
> Love, Kathy
> Mother of 12 children
> One vaginal hospital birth
> Three Cesarean sections
> followed by 8 wonderful home births
> July 18, 2001
> ________________________________________________________________
>
> Birthing Beautifully,
> Jackie Mawson.
>
> Convenor of Birthrites: Healing After Caesarean Inc.
> Visit our Website at: http://www.birthrites.org
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>
> Please note I am not a Professional Healthcare Provider, and all opinions
> given in this email are not to be taken as medical, or legal, advice.
Please
> seek such advice from the relevant professional service.
>
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> that wind and
> wind,
> When just the art
> of being kind
> Is all the sad
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