This
family must be going through so much emotionally, joy that they have Lars with
them , but knowing that the time is limited. When I told my husband their story,
he asked what was keeping him alive, without thinking I croaked out "love". What
an amazing gift this baby is, just for being alive hundreds of people over
the world know and think of him.
My
thoughts are aslo with you,
Megan.
-----Original Message-----Hello Rhonda,
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]On Behalf Of Lieve Huybrechts
Sent: Tuesday, 1 April 2003 1:00
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Story of love and warmth
Lars is still with us. He looks fine, he is growing and very alert. There are no signs that there is something wrong. I go there every day and we chat about a lot of things. Life is going on for the family, but the knowing of what will come is there. We phoned again to the university hospital. The pediatric cardiologist could hardly believe that he was still alive, but didn’t give any hope, it had no reason to do a new echo.
Nele came to the birthcentre for the postnatal talkgroup last Thursday. It was a lovely day and we were outside in the garden. For us it is springtime and we have a marvellous month of march with temperatures of 20 degrees, what is exceptional for the time of the year . It was so nice to see how she was surrounded by the other mothers. One by one they came sit near her to talk and to admire Lars. It was really a day out for her.
Thanks for all your support and warm thoughts. I will keep you informed.
Lieve
On 31-03-2003 07:06, "Rhonda" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Dearest Leive,
You have been in my thoughts for the past two days and I am just writing to let you know that i am thinking of you and too see how things are going.
Hope all is well
Regards
Rhonda
-------Original Message-------
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Date: Saturday, 22 March 2003 08:52:37 PM
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: [ozmidwifery] Story of love and warmth
Dear friends,
Thank you all for your replys, I read them all carefully and I really feel
supported by them.
Lynn, my heart is with you and the family of the stillborn baby. During the
pregnancy I had a lot of conversations with Nele and she felt very
supported and comforted when I told her that I believe that no life is
without purpose, how long of how short it will take. Nobody knows what
lessons we have to learn, but maybe for those little baby's that are so
welcome but do not have much time, the feeling of being welcome is the only
thing they have to learn.
Julie, you spoke af a sad pathway, I don't feel it that way. When you can
see what happens in these family, the changings of the peoples thinking
about quality of live and the gratefullness of every minute they have
together, I feel not sad at the end. There are moments of tears but the
great picture is happiness.
Pinky, I gave your text 'the child God lent' to the parents and they were
touched by it. They give him to read to every visitor. It explains very good
what they (and I) feel, even they are not very religieus.
Debby, I think the memories of your own child come very clear again when
reading all those postings. It's so good you can now celebrate the being of
your son in stead of grieving the loss.
Thanks Tina, Janet, Sally, Sandy, Marilyn, Denise, Margie, Mary, Aviva,
Megan and Robin, also for your warm replys full of support and usefull
advice.
Rhonda, I kept you last. Thank you so much for the poem you wrote. I gave it
to the parents and they were very touched and they let it read to everybody
that comes near. I truly hope that the lovecircle that Lars created will be
counterweight against all the violence of the war.
I plan to write his story for the Flamish journal for midwifes. I would ask
you if I can use your poem to illustrate my story?
Meanwhile, Lars is happy and triving. He already passed his birthweight. The
parents went walking to the cityhall, with Lars in a sleng to make his birth
official. They are really greatfull for the moments they have, every day is
a milestone.
Some reactions of people are not so nice to the parents. There are still
people (thos who didn't see Lars) that wonder if an abortion wasn't been a
better option. But Nele and Frederik are laughing with those reactions, they
know they made the right decision.
For me, the week was hard, but also very rich. So many people are around us
to support. The mothers of the birthcentre are very involved. They are
visiting Nele and they call me to ask how I am. It's a real circle I dreamt
of when I started the birthcentre. The midwife that cares and the mothers
that care for the midwife, it creats a balance for everybody. When you wrote
a book about it nowbody would believe it can be real :-))
Warm hugs
Lieve
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