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I have been speaking with my mum about Lars life.
Her generation (she 60ish) didn't have the power (or so they thought
) to question the recommended management of 'complications', 'in
their day' . She has loved to hear of his life. Whenever I see
her she asks about his condition. She, in
turn updates her 'grandma girlfriends', Just goes
to show how many souls are thinking and praying for this boy.
Regards and Love,
Christina.
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This family must be going through so much emotionally, joy that they
have Lars with them , but knowing that the time is limited. When I told my
husband their story, he asked what was keeping him alive, without thinking I
croaked out "love". What an amazing gift this baby is,
just for being alive hundreds of people over the world know and think
of him.
My
thoughts are aslo with you,
Megan.
Hello
Rhonda,
Lars is still with us. He looks fine, he is growing and
very alert. There are no signs that there is something wrong. I go there
every day and we chat about a lot of things. Life is going on for the
family, but the knowing of what will come is there. We phoned again to
the university hospital. The pediatric cardiologist could hardly believe
that he was still alive, but didn’t give any hope, it had no
reason to do a new echo.
Nele came to the birthcentre for the
postnatal talkgroup last Thursday. It was a lovely day and we were
outside in the garden. For us it is springtime and we have a marvellous
month of march with temperatures of 20 degrees, what is exceptional for
the time of the year . It was so nice to see how she was surrounded by
the other mothers. One by one they came sit near her to talk and to
admire Lars. It was really a day out for her.
Thanks for all your
support and warm thoughts. I will keep you
informed.
Lieve
On 31-03-2003 07:06,
"Rhonda" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
wrote:
Dearest Leive,
You have
been in my thoughts for the past two days and I am just writing to
let you know that i am thinking of you and too see how things are
going.
Hope all is well
Regards
Rhonda
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From:
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Date: Saturday, 22
March 2003 08:52:37 PM
To:
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Subject:
[ozmidwifery] Story of love and warmth
Dear
friends,
Thank you all for your replys, I read them all
carefully and I really feel
supported by them.
Lynn, my
heart is with you and the family of the stillborn baby. During
the
pregnancy I had a lot of conversations with Nele and she felt
very
supported and comforted when I told her that I believe that
no life is
without purpose, how long of how short it will take.
Nobody knows what
lessons we have to learn, but maybe for those
little baby's that are so
welcome but do not have much time, the
feeling of being welcome is the only
thing they have to
learn.
Julie, you spoke af a sad pathway, I don't feel it
that way. When you can
see what happens in these family, the
changings of the peoples thinking
about quality of live and the
gratefullness of every minute they have
together, I feel not sad
at the end. There are moments of tears but the
great picture is
happiness.
Pinky, I gave your text 'the child God lent' to
the parents and they were
touched by it. They give him to read to
every visitor. It explains very good
what they (and I) feel, even
they are not very religieus.
Debby, I think the memories of
your own child come very clear again when
reading all those
postings. It's so good you can now celebrate the being of
your
son in stead of grieving the loss.
Thanks Tina, Janet, Sally,
Sandy, Marilyn, Denise, Margie, Mary, Aviva,
Megan and Robin,
also for your warm replys full of support and
usefull
advice.
Rhonda, I kept you last. Thank you so much
for the poem you wrote. I gave it
to the parents and they were
very touched and they let it read to everybody
that comes near. I
truly hope that the lovecircle that Lars created will
be
counterweight against all the violence of the war.
I plan
to write his story for the Flamish journal for midwifes. I would
ask
you if I can use your poem to illustrate my
story?
Meanwhile, Lars is happy and triving. He already
passed his birthweight. The
parents went walking to the cityhall,
with Lars in a sleng to make his birth
official. They are really
greatfull for the moments they have, every day is
a milestone.
Some reactions of people are not so nice to the parents. There
are still
people (thos who didn't see Lars) that wonder if an
abortion wasn't been a
better option. But Nele and Frederik are
laughing with those reactions, they
know they made the right
decision.
For me, the week was hard, but also very rich. So
many people are around us
to support. The mothers of the
birthcentre are very involved. They are
visiting Nele and they
call me to ask how I am. It's a real circle I dreamt
of when I
started the birthcentre. The midwife that cares and the
mothers
that care for the midwife, it creats a balance for
everybody. When you wrote
a book about it nowbody would believe
it can be real :-))
Warm
hugs
Lieve
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