Re: [ozmidwifery] Co-sleeping and older children

[megan davidson]

I have noticed a few people say that their kids "happily moved to their own room", and so I was wondering just how this happened. Was it adult or child initiated? Was there anything that you did to make sure that they were comfortable/secure etc? Any tips, advice or stories would be appreciated. I must admit that I am not looking forward to that stage. thanks, megan. ----- Original Message ----- From: Pinky McKay To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Monday, March 22, 2004 12:11 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Co-sleeping and older children yep - it works!! but dont leave it where they can get it- we had a cat smeared in vaseline once!! :) pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: Julie Garratt To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Monday, March 22, 2004 12:52 PM Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Co-sleeping and older children Apparently putting Vaseline on the door knob stops littlies from coming in to the bedroom at inopportune moments LOL.   Cheers, Julie Garratt a   -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Nicole Christensen Sent: Sunday, 21 March 2004 10:45 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Co-sleeping and older children   I loved reading your story Helen - thank you for sharing your experience.   I wonder how our sex life would be by now if we didn't have any children? Would we be less zealous because of familiarity, our age or pure comfort..... my guess with my husband and I - is that our sex life is profoundly affected by exhaustion and SEVERE sleep deprivation... and then marginally affected by the above factors also..... I know one thing... we wouldn't have to worry about being quiet... or checking for the pitter patter of footsteps... peering eyes.... or the baby waking for a feed!!! It's almost like we are back being teenagers again - not wanting to get caught!!!!!!!!!   kindest regards, Nicole   ----- Original Message ----- From: Graham and Helen To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Sunday, March 21, 2004 2:47 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Co-sleeping and older children   I have a personal experience to share about co-sleeping as a child.  My father died when I was four and I had 3 older brothers and sisters between the ages of 8 and 12.  I slept with Mum, without question, from the day that Dad died and continued to do so most nights until I was about 15.  Mum never ever had a relationship again which was very sad and hopefully not because of me!!!  I actually think Mum would have been comforted by my being there (as was I).  The others all stayed in their beds but soon after...the oldest 2 (boys) were sent to boarding school as Mum thought they needed a male influence...but that is another story.   I certainly don't class myself to be clingy/dependent as I have lived away from home and travelled extensively since I was 17 when I started nursing.    I still do, however, have a very close emotional bond to Mum who is now in her eighties.    I found out a few years ago that my older brother was a bit worried that I was still sleeping with Mum when I was fourteen.  At that stage Mum and I were living alone as my sister had moved out by then.  She didn't tell me at the time and when I heard I thought it was a bit of a laugh.    So anyway, when it came to co-sleeping with our child it seemed only natural, despite the fact that I had no preconcieved ideas about how we would handle it.  I did recognize that my situation with Mum would no doubt have been quite different if Dad had still been alive.  He used to let us get in to the bed in the night, but we were still predominantly in the cot when he was around.    We certainly find our child needs to co-sleep as part of his emotional security and it is predominantly a beautiful bond strengthening experience alround, but admit as per my recent postings on the subject, that it can be "challenging to say the least" and does, at times, interfere with our sex lives.  We don't seem to be as energetic, imaginative or motivated as we were early in our relationship.  I wonder if it is also an age/familiarity related thing...........again that is another story.    I too have really enjoyed the recent discussions on this subject and thanks those who have give us an insight into their lives when the sun goes down.   Helen Cahill