Re: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas

[Joy Cocks]

Oh, also a memory garden can be created further down the track if they are interested in gardening, or special plants.  Roses are especially good as you can often find ones with names that are particularly meaningful for the family.  For instance, there is the ABA 'Mothers Love' and also one called 'Angel Face'.  You can have a plaque made up 'In memory of.....etc' and put that with the tree or plant that has been chosen.  I think it's a nice way to remember, at least it is for me, but anything the family chooses is fine.  (Our family also decorates the grave at Christmas - Santa even visits and leaves a small gift - and sends balloons up to Tilly on her birthday and anniversary.)  Writing a song or poem for the babies could be a possibility in the future.  It's very early days yet, there's no need to rush anything.  Let them take all the time they need. Joy     Joy Cocks RN (Div 1) RM CBE IBCLC BRIGHT Vic 3741 email:[EMAIL PROTECTED] ----- Original Message ----- From: Kate &/or Nick To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, November 25, 2004 20:37 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas Hi   I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas.   We've talked about:   �photos �foot, hand & lip prints �hair & nail clippings �body tracing �hospital bracelets cot name cards cord clamps tape measure blanket clothing anything that has come into contact with the babies memory box Any other ideas would be gratefully received.   Kate