Hi Kate,

I like Joy’s ideas, and we did very similar things when our little one died in June, friends gave us 2 Angel Face roses, and a couple of David Austen roses, and we have planted a garden in memory of our little girl with each of our children having their own special plant for her.

The children and my husband also wrote either a poem or a letter to her and placed it in her casket with a family photo of us all and a rose.

There are so many wonderful ways of saying goodbye, and I guess with knowing ideas others have used they will then be able to choose their own special way of remembering their babies.

We also dressed our baby in a new set of clothes I had bought for her during the pregnancy, and my sister bought a beautiful shawl to wrap her in.We wanted to keep the clothing she wore before her burial so that is kept in her memory box along with her hospital name tag and card, photos and sympathy cards we received at the time.

Basically we kept everything so we can pull it out and remember whenever we like.

Photos were really important to us, and we have a special baby album with all the photos taken after her birth.

Were the couple in your care able to have photos taken?

Even if they don’t want to keep them in an album for all to see, they could just have them put away for themselves when they need to pull them out.

Amanda

 

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Subject: [ozmidwifery] Stillbirth memory ideas

 

Hi

 

I'm a first year BMid. A little over a month ago, one of my follow through women had stillborn twins. Because she is still quite ill (and in hospital), the funeral is yet to be held and we have just starting to talk about momentos. We've covered a lot, but I wanted any other ideas.

 

We've talked about:

 

        photos

        foot, hand & lip prints

        hair & nail clippings

        body tracing

        hospital bracelets

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               cot name cards

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               cord clamps

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               tape measure

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               blanket

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               clothing

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               anything that has come into contact with the babies

         memory box

Any other ideas would be gratefully received.

 

Kate

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