Dear Barb
Your thoughtful discussion of he b'feeding  issue is well-said and accords with 
what other LCs say I think. I am  not one to argue for simplistic and 
individualistic interpretations of  women's 'choice', eg to have elective 
caesars or  to bottle feed,  because all 'choices' are socially shaped. But I 
think it is very inappropriate and self-defeating to get on the moral high 
horse and  neglect  the obstacles  that women currently face in what Pam 
Carter's called the  'working conditions' of breastfeeding. 
 
It is not necessary to  attack a journalist personally nor is it 
'women-centred' to accuse people of making choices we disagree with when we do 
not know  what their personal story or situation is. Fiona Giles' Fresh Milk  
or Virginia Schmied's work show very well the variety of experiences and 
dilemmas women face, including cultural attitudes to the  body and  pressures 
from partners, mothers etc. Surely we should be focusing on the structural 
constraints such as poor birthing and postnatal care, lack of maternity leave 
and childcare etc that influence decision-making! Many women are simply stuck 
in a lousy system and deserve understanding and respect  rather than 
condemnation. 
 
As that wonderful wise woman Sheila Kitzinger wrote in the Preface to  my book 
Our Bodies Our Babies, 'If individual women are to find a voice, wherever they 
are coming from, their individual choices are valid. Those of us who find 
ourselves representing the  birth (and breastfeeding) movement need to listen 
and learn. Only then can we understand.' As she goes on to points out , some 
women seek epidurals because they have suffered sexual or other abuse, and who 
are we to judge? Also, pertinent to Justine's recent comment, are they then to 
be denied midwifery care? Surely not! 
 
For myself, I think we need some humility here and, as Barb recognises,  
understand diversity of needs and circumstances. As Sheila  K also comments, we 
face a tension between on the one hand  'helping individual women, enabling 
them to  have the a positive experience, whatever kind of birth it is. On the 
other, we are working to change the system... to respect the  normal physiology 
of birth and lactation. '  I don't think being  'Nipple Nazis', as people say, 
is very productive. Maybe we can share around the guilt of not yet making the 
world a fit place for mothers!
In struggle
Kerreen
 
 
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From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] on behalf of Denise Fisher
Sent: Wed 18/05/2005 5:32 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] FW: Breastfeeding


Hi Carina

You've brought up some points that are good food for thought. It was a tragedy 
the day that milk banks were closed in Australia due to the scare with HIV, 
despite pasteurisation easily killing HIV (I wonder why sperm banks weren't 
also closed??). I note that a new bank is opening in WA and perhaps one in 
Melbourne. I wish them success.

The incidence of physiological inability to breastfeed is somewhere in the 
order of  1 - 2 per 100 women. I don't believe with an incidence at this level 
that it warrants we guard everything we say to every woman. And then there's 
that really fascinating topic of 'guilt'. 
Can you induce guilt in someone? - maybe, if they really are guilty. However I 
don't feel guilty about something I have no control over. For example if I had 
no uterus I wouldn't feel guilty that I'm not adding to Australia's population, 
no matter how much Mr Howard exhorts me to. If I had no breasts or my breasts 
were not functional I would not feel guilty that I'm not breastfeeding 
regardless of how many people told me it was best.

My opinion is that some health professionals don't know how to support women to 
breastfeed adequately and in covering their own feelings of guilt about this 
they 'pretend' that it's the mother they are trying not to make feel guilty.

To give you lots of different opinions on guilt and breastfeeding do a google 
search using those terms.

Have fun
Denise

At 03:23 PM 18/05/2005 +0930, you wrote:


        Some food for thought,
        
         What about the women who simply cannot breastfeed and cannot produce 
enough milk???? The wet nurse is still in existence in many tribal cultures 
where formulary has no influence. It's very easy to be passionate about 
something and sing it's praises when you have experienced success, but what 
about those women who don't succeed despite months of trying and perseverance. 
I, like all many midwives of course believe that breast is best and should be 
promoted as optimum nutrition for a baby but sometimes I believe that in trying 
to get this message across we need to be careful not to make other women lose 
their 'confidence ands fall into the motherhood guilt trap'. 
        
        Carina

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