From: "Tanya Mayer Photography" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > naaah, Lasse, it's not worth the hassle, and I don't want to create any more > bad energy around here.
Well it's your decision, Tanya. However: Don't worry about bad energy on the list, it will pass. If bad energy evolves it's not your doing, but maybe of the person who sent you the email or of list members whose reactions can be disregarded from. >Plus, I'll be meeting the person at GFM and will > sort it out with them then. Or, you could sort it out now and you wouldn't have to go to the GFM feeling that you have an unpleasant personal matter to sort out when getting there. > I am sure it is just a case of mistaken identity but I really didn't deserve being > spoken to like that. This brings me to my point. You wrote: "an off-list email that not only blamed me for a post that was posted by somebody else, but also chastised me for "doing" it. "now receiving this email, I am going to be taking a break from the list for a few days." "I am really upset that the person in question would speak like that to me, and over something that I didn't even do." "this truly scares me that I can be come down on so hard for such a simple thing." To sum it up, if I understand you correctly: You received an unwanted email in private from another PDML list member who unfairly chastisized you, made you upset and truly scared you so much that it now makes you leave the list. You also feel that you have been spoken to in a way that you don't deserve. To me this is 1) a list issue, and 2) a possible case of harassment, which no member should have to put up with. My suggestion to you, Tanya, to the list and to anyone who has had similar experiences, maybe got scared and stayed silent, or even left the list: Post any unwanted emails emanating from the PDML directly to the list! That's the only way we can get rid of this kind of problem, which probably have affected many more people than Tanya. Should we, as the PDML, adopt such a general recommendation and practice, possible snipers would be held back, think twice about what they say and no PDML members would have to get scared to silence or leave in fear of getting subject to nasty "PDML" mails in private. That's why I think that you Tanya should post it to the list. It would in the end only be for the better for all of us and for what I think most of us would like the PDML to be like. Secondly I hope the person who caused Tanya to be upset will make sure this incident gets sorted out. Lasse > Anyways, its cool, I needed a break anyways before a hoard of angry clients > looking for their photos comes and lynches me! > tan. > > -----Original Message----- > From: Lasse Karlsson [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] > Sent: Thursday, 25 March 2004 9:51 AM > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Subject: Re: taking a break for a while... > > > From: "Tanya Mayer Photography" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > > Hi guys and gals, > > Well, i have just received an off-list email that not only blamed me for a > > post that was posted by somebody else, but also chastised me for "doing" > it. > > I am sad to say that after the events of the past few days on list, and > now > > receiving this email, I am going to be taking a break from the list for a > > few days. > > > > I am really upset that the person in question would speak like that to me, > > and over something that I didn't even do. After all of this time and the > > huge amounts of posts that I make, I thought that people would have much > > more of an idea of "who" I am by now. Obviously not, and this truly > scares > > me that I can be come down on so hard for such a simple thing. I honestly > > think that at the moment, my time is better spent working for my clients > > than wasting my breath/time posting messages that mustn't be "hitting > their > > target". > > Post it to the list. > > Lasse
