On Tue, Jun 12, 2018 at 2:42 PM, Brandon Allbery <allber...@gmail.com> wrote: > On Tue, Jun 12, 2018 at 3:38 PM Brad Gilbert <b2gi...@gmail.com> wrote: >> >> > The barrier is non-existent. >> >> I have only ever heard about speculated and imagined barriers. > > > This is not proof that such barriers don't exist. I hit the magic 20000 mark > and lasted less than a week afterward because the rules suddenly changed in > a way that induced severe social anxiety. Again, this is not something > "fixable", not on my end.
The rules did not change. It's just features that you didn't have before became available. You are free to ignore them. If you can't ignore them, you could try bringing it up on meta.stackoverflow.com, and maybe someone there could do something to improve it for you. > > You are not everyone. Don't assume what works for you necessarily works for > everyone. Or that there are quick and accessible workarounds for everyone. > The barrier is not with Stack Overflow. (←What I obviously meant) The barrier is within you. I should know I have some myself. For example, I have never gotten a job by myself. (Well there is the one time where they called on the phone, but I didn't pick it up because I didn't recognize the number.) I have also never been on a date as it gives me too much anxiety to ask. (There was one gal that I was absolutely smitten with, who I was also absolutely sure wanted me to ask her out, but was unable to.) Should I say that the barrier is with women (incel), or with myself? --- That's not to say there isn't something that other people could do to reduce the barrier. I don't think anybody can do that if they don't know it exists. If you at least tell me what changes could help, I could bring it up on meta.
