On 07/01/2016 04:02 AM, Erik Landvall wrote:
if I where Paul, I wouldn't respond neither. There is nothing for him
to defend. He is who he is, it's up to the community to welcome him
the way he is, or exclude him for that very reason.
The absolutism here is itself quite harmful to any human interaction.
People's behavior DO affect those around them, and it is incumbent on
anyone in a civil society to take reasonable steps to not piss off those
around him to the point that it is harmful to them or the community.
That's not about avoiding "heated" or "controversial" topics, it's about
not being a jerk to each other.
Paul is an intelligent adult. As such, my default position is that he
probably doesn't want to be a jerk to people, and doesn't want to
undermine FIG, unless evidence suggests otherwise.
Paul, do correct me if I am wrong in that.
If 20 people in a 39 person company complained about a specific person's
behavior, it would be a suicidally foolish company that would stand by
and do nothing. It would be equally foolish for FIG to do nothing as
one person stonewalls the process and drives people away, not on
technical grounds but through hostile behavior.
However, and I now address this directly at Paul, 20 of your colleagues
have now come forward, a majority of them by name, and said that you are
behaving in a way that is harmful to them and to FIG. A few have even
resigned as a direct result. Some have said they want you removed,
others have said they prefer some less terminal intervention. All have
said "there is a problem here with Paul that needs to be addressed."
Since you have replied on other threads here and on the Reddit peanut
gallery, we know you're reading this discussion. You know that there is
*widespread* disapproval of your behavior, and belief that it is harmful
to FIG. It's not just one or two people with sour grapes that disagree
with you on some technical point.
How are we to interpret your silence? That you don't care if your
behavior is harmful to people or to FIG? That the offense taken at your
behavior is beneath you? That the standard for a "thick enough skin" is
"whatever Paul is"? Are we to understand that you do want to be a jerk
to people and undermine FIG after all? Is your solution to the current
problem "let people resign until I get my way"?
If that is not an accurate way to read the situation, do correct us. As
your colleagues, we owe you the opportunity to respond to the claim that
your behavior is harmful. Frankly, I think you owe us the courtesy of
at least an acknowledgement of our experience.
--Larry Garfield
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