Michael:
Just 4 comments, woman perspective on this ok...
1. Remember you divorced your wife not your kids.
2. Eventhough you don't mention the kids' ages, I assume they aren't
twins so their needs could never be 50/50, real life doesn't work
that way.
3. You also don't mention if she works or not but anyway maybe she
aren't making enough to pay the mortgage, car insurance, etc. and
she need to have the kids sleeping under a roof, use the car to
travel with them to school, medical appointments, sports, etc.,
etc. etc. if she didn't have the kids, you also wouldn't have
the blessing of having kids, not everyone could say the same.
Maybe she have to pay for the same things if she was single but
could live in a cheaper apartment and take transportation
like bus or train. We always take everything for granted but there
are millions of people that want to have a child and cannot get
pregnant, I tried for almost 15 years, lost my firstborn at birth
and after that 1 full year passed... my two kids (now 15 and 10)
are two real miracles.
4. Realize that she needed you to have the kids, and in the end is
best to stop trying to control her or how she is using the money
the court assigned, I know is difficult and will be even worse when
she have another relation, if she ever get into one. Some men want
to get out of a relationship but want to control everything (not
saying that's your case). Anyway, just concentrate on your kids
happiness and expend quality time with them, so forget about asking
for receipts or explanations on how the money was expended it only
will bring confrontation. Place yourself in their place, is very
difficult for them not having you around like before the divorce.
Pardon me for the reality check.
AiR
Aida I. Rivera-Benítez, MSMIS
AiR Information Systems, Inc.
Medical Billing Software & Clearinghouse
P.O. Box 270152
San Juan PR 00927-0152
>I pay $nnn to my not-soon-enough-ex-wife monthly for my 2 kids' child
>support. I get pissed because I know she's not spending ($nnn times >2)
on the kids.
>Shouldn't it be a 50/50 thing, where she pays an equal amount on the
>kids?
>Also, I know that those monies go towards expenditures incurred
>because of the kids--school expenses, groceries, heating (oil),
>electricity, water, garbage, health insurance, clothing, etc. What I
>don't think should count are expenses my n-s-e-e-w would incur had she
>NOT had the kids--like the mortgage, car payment, auto insurance, etc.
>Would appreciate perspective from others, even if just to set me
>straight.
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