Re: [QUAD-L] A question more for the ladies

[Stacy Harim]

It's not so much the physical problem.  I guess women are more sensitive.  You guys were ready to get in on as soon as you hit puberty and most or a lot of girls liked to wait.  I promised myself when I saw a 13  year old girl pregnant on the first day of middle school that I would wait until I graduated. Not only did I wait until I graduated, I was almost 20 because I was not ready.  I sure didn't want to get stuck and when my Mom and 'the talk' with me, she made sure to let me know she will not be taking care of any babies.  That is something I didn't want to handle.  She said she wouldn't, but I know that she would.  At 19 at least I waited until I was responsible for my first time and it was a really big deal for me.  We went out for a while before we had sex and the same with my second boyfriend.  I made him wait as well.  I started  having more fun in my mid 20's when I started not finding it such a big deal, but now I find it another big deal.  I don't want  someone that I kinda like to have sex with me when I don't know what I will or  will not feel and if I don't feel, I better like him a lot if I want to make sure I make him really happy.  Thank God I have an understanding man now that will work with me on it because it is a big deal.  So there, I rambled your ear off,,  I'm sorry, but I hope you understand where a lot of ladies (at least me) are coming from.     Stacy (The SCI virgin and proud)   "True happiness lies not in everything you want, but rather enjoying everything you have" ----- Original Message ----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Saturday, July 31, 2004 4:47 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] A question more for the ladies In a message dated 7/29/2004 1:19:06 PM US Mountain Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Hi Lori,   Thanks for your email, I really appreciate you being so open and honest with me, it really does!!!    Well the situation with my boyfriend has now changed, Nathan, the guy I was with wanted a lot more than what I want right now - sex being one of the subjects.  Anyway I told him things aren't as straight forward as they seem and he didn't like it so I finished with him.   Good news though is that I've met another guy called Steve, who I think might be the one!  His name is Steve, his 12 years older than me and I met him whilst doing the Sittingbourne carnival!  The beauty is, is that his a paramedic, and he understands that things are tricky, but his attitude is that he loves me and that he wants to stick around.  If I can successfully have sex fantastic, but if I can't then we will talk about other ways around it.  The difference is, is that I feel really comfortable around him, and I get butterflies everytime I'm about to see him or speak to him!  Was you like that when you first met Tod?  Did he have a similar attitude as Steve has got?   Take care,   Love Smurf xxx i'm curious as to what the sex problem might be with 1 person being ab?  my guess psychological - "she/he just lies there"  no surprizes there. dave  c3/4 1967  dad of 3 - i just lie there.