Re: [QUAD-L] Frustration

[THouston]

Frustration...   I am c5-6 complete and had a storybook marriage for 8 and 1/2, Chicago suburban home, two car garage, motorcycle, white picket fence, stocks, bonds, investment properties, beautiful wife that I was in love with forever, kids in private school,...broke my neck in '94 car accident, wife hung in for almost 6 years steadily complaining about the "good ol' days", went thru all of our savings, loss 2 of 3 of the investment properties and left me with our primary residence with a mortgage about $100 less than my Soc Sec check.  A nasty 2 1/2 years divorce (divorce final on 17th year anniversary), where I paid $35,000 in her credit card bills and not including equity in home and rental unit.  I got custody of our 16 year old daughter but my ex quit her job to prevent paying any child support, moved in with a man 20 years her senior who promises to take care of her.  I don't miss the sex so much as I do the caressing, hand holding and a close friend and confidant.  Most of my female companions since, I believe, are curious on what they think I have left and vanish after they determine its not enough to deal with my quadriplegia.  I could go on but the violins have stopped playing now!   Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!   tahouston ----- Original Message ----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, December 21, 2004 3:57 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Frustration I am a c/4 quad dealing with sexual frustration. I was with my high school sweetheart for 11yrs. married 7 and sex was great until I got hurt she got frustrated with everything which is a long story but  just recently a year ago we're divorced.  I know you guys out there know what i'm saying when some of my aides get me in and out of bed, you can see down some of their shirts. It doesn't help the frustrations. I have a quad friend that is a pervert and will say anything nasty to his aides to get them to sleep with him and i refuse to be like him no matter if I ever get it again. So I don't know what to do to control my frustrations either.