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Ditto Houston
I used to be very aggressive b/4 now I'm very passive. Any
little line I used to take it and flirt but now I take it as someone just trying
to be nice.
tahouston
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Tuesday, January 04, 2005 1:49
PM
Subject: [QUAD-L]
Frustration/sensitive
Andrea,
Were you referring 2 any quad men that I
know? :) Some of us quad men don�t know how 2 read signs anymore & since
we have the reverse situations with women we are a little hesitant of our
advances. Rejection hurts a lot more now than it did prior 2 SCI ... I used 2
be hard as they came now I�m really sensitive but try 2 portray a hard shell
on the outside, when people are around. Than find myself hurting and depressed
when alone. So don�t mis-understand the actions of men with SCI�s because they
may be feeling exactly the same way as I. We�d rather be safe than 2 be hurt
:) :) :)
On 1/3/05 9:35 PM, "andrea murray"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Stacy,
I'm a par and I also can't feel my
leg. But I had sexual feelings. Exp rely if I'm with someone I really
want to be with. My trouble is that men treat me and see me as there friend
or sister. In fact quad men are the same way. It really bothers me I'm hot
and their not. Now that is frustration!
Wheelchair
Warrior
[EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
Thanks
Stacy,
I appreciate your honesty, thanks
Stacy
Love Smurf xxx
In a message dated
01/01/2005 04:07:42 GMT Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED]
writes:
I do have those
feelings yes. I don't understand it though because I don't have feeling
in my legs, but I do in those areas. I'm not sure to what extent because
I haven't 'been' with anyone since I got sick. Of course I have
experimented, but don't really have any desire to and I think when or at
this rate if I am with anyone, that is when I will know. I
do have a sore on the bottom of my foot and that hurts me as well.
I don't get it. My doctor said that the nerves to your
pelvic area are the most protected on the spine so if I were to feel
anywhere, it would be there. I do get sporadic sensations on my
legs but never in the same places all the time. My doctor also
told me that with my disease, it makes things very strange. No SCI
is the same, but I am very much different because of the way it
happened. I don't know if I ever explained it but my spine is very
atrophied because of the disease and the damage! left over
from the inflammation the spine is still very much intact. I still
sweat below my injury level, but the swelling is quite bad and I have
more spasticity than most spinal cord patients.
I'm having
a hard time going through the holidays single. Most of my friends are
married and/or have children. I don't have hardly any family and
didn't have them here for Christmas and now alone for New Years. I
find myself very left out because I don’t have anyone. One of my
best friends pretty much only does things with other couples. Like
going out to dinner, playing cards, etc. She helps me through the
waiver program, so the time we spend together is when she is here
helping me out with something. She just got in an accident and her
car got totaled plus she got a broken arm. I can't get into her
new car because it's too low and awkward to transfer out of, so we don't
really do anything together anymore. It's been difficult getting
through the holidays and will be glad when they are over. I'm just
not looking forward to the next 6 weeks while everyone is making their
valentines day arrangements.
I am happy that everything is
going well for you and Steve. When the time is right, everything
will happen naturally. It's wonderful that he isn't pushing you
into anything you are not ready to do. Keep taking it
slow.
Sorry for the
book,
Stacy
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