I can honestly say that I did not care. I just never knew anyone on a
personal level to get to that point. I waited on many people in chairs here in
Ocean City and found some attractive. I have always just wanted someone
who will treat me well. I never went for the best looking or who had the
best car either. That kind of stuff doesn't matter to me. I was
taught that way by my Mom. She is the same way. I have always been a very
caring person. I have always had a soft spot for people with mental
disabilities, children with disabilities. I actually started going to
college to become a special ed teacher. Problem was that I substitute
taught at a special ed school and took it home with me. I couldn't shake
it so I switched my major. That is not to get mixed up with a general
person in a chair because I never felt sorry for anyone. The point is if I
was to meet someone in a chair, they had a good sense of humor, somewhat
attractive (took care of themselves), and we had a good conversation then there
would be no reason for me to not want to see more of them. I always
thought that is how people were until I became in a chair. I guess I was
naive to think that. I was faced with a hard truth when I came home from
the hospital and had a chance to see how people really are.
Stacy
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, February 09, 2005 1:47
AM
Subject: [QUAD-L] about the quad dating
theory, (c7 quad former cop)
Ive read all your post regarding the quads having harder times getting
dates. I agree with this but we all must remem,ber that in the end all of us
only want to impress one person from the oppossite sex and make the most of it
, possibly a life partner. Just because billy bob para can get 35 more women
who really cares, that's 34 more than he needs. Lets fface it once your in a
chair for a few years we all arent as shallow as we used to be. But I will
tell you guys this funny little story about when I first had my injury in the
hospital. I was a new cop at the time dating a female cop in training. I had
my accident 8 weeks after I started. My gf stayed by my side for about
two months then said she needed to get ready for softball and broke off the
relationship and left me in the hospital bed. I cried cussed and beat the
walls a little. But nearly a year later I saw her again, she asked me if I was
angry. I said no i understand what u did and why you did it.............you
were dating a mustang then it turned into a pinto...you dont want a pinto you
want a mustang. She just looked at me, then we continued a conversation and
went for a bite to eat. The moral to all this is theirs always someone lower
on the totem pole than you and always someone higher, it will be what you make
it..........at the same time put yourself in the shoes of the walking people ,
back when you were on your feet would you have dated a chair person quad,
para, stroke or any other?We are all in the same club now. Hope I made people
think...........
Ron c7
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