Right! Right! Right! Kids these days are spoiled rotten and nag so they
wear the parents down and get what they want!! I have had sooo many
attendants that give their kids cell phones, cars etc but cannot pay the
bills! I have an attendant right now that could not wait to get cable so
she could have the cartoon channel to sit her ADHD kids in front of! Makes
me sooo mad!
My son lived with his father after we divorced (at the same time my accident
happened--would not recommend that either) and he gave him a car for his
16th b-day. Actually it was one they already had, but still, he had to get
a job to pay the insurance. His grades were terrible and he and the
step-brother were trying their best to make things miserable for each
parent. His grades got worse, he started hanging around with the wrong
people and several years later found out he was doing drugs.
When Rusty came on the weekends he was fine, he learned real fast that 'no'
meant 'no'! Plus his father was taking "him"to counseling! Not family
counseling, just my son. He never spent any one on one time with him and
did not keep up his manners or respect for his elders.
I could write a book, but do not give in tonagging!!! Give him a limit of
how many times he can ask for something--like once--then take a privalage
away. And "time outs" are for the birds!
If they want a designer shoe or clothes, make them earn the money to make up
the difference you would pay for a regular brand, say, Target.
Start these rules early! They learn to manipulate almost before they can
walk. I have reprimanded young kids with their parents sitting right there
and they don't seem to even notice.
I had better get off of here or I'll get higher and higher on my orange
crate! Somewhere I heard that children from the age of 12 to 18 need as
much parenting as they did from when they were born to 12 years old. I
think its absolutely true!
take care,
Dana and Rocco
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----- Original Message -----
From: "River Wolfe" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "David K. Kelmer" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Cc: "~LittleQuad~" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; "Quad-list post"
<[email protected]>
Sent: Saturday, August 13, 2005 9:53 AM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] question for parents
I don't have kids, but I have a 5mo german Shepherd puppy. When he
doesn't want to do something, he bites, barks and acts up. If I'm
consistent and don't give in no matter what, he stops and complies.
It's important I think to never let your boy think that his griping
will get him out of something. kids nowdays are spoiled rotten and
don't appreciate what they have and how hard we have to work to give
it to them. I think it's good that he works for money. My neighbors
have two adult children that live with them. The son is very heavy
and NEVER helps out his mom and dad in the yard etc...His dad
recently told me that the kid was going to move out but decided he
wanted a new car (nothing wrong with the old one btw) instead. He
doesn't pay rent, but he works part-time. So dad said ok and the kid
bought the car !!!!!!
unbelievable.
Hand in there and be firm, even if he drives you batty, it will be
worth it in the long run.
River
On Aug 12, 2005, at 6:43 PM, David K. Kelmer wrote:
Hi LQ,
Funny how kids are. My boys would drive my wife crazy with
complaints, but when they were with me they were real good. It
might have been the fact that they lost privileges if they
complained to me about trivia things and their Mom just 'said' to
them that they would lose their privileges. They knew I acted and
Mom talked. Kids understand action. Good luck!
With Love,
CtrlAltDel aka Dave
C4/5 Complete - 29 Years Post
Texas, USA
~LittleQuad~ <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
do you have probs with kids griping 24/7?? my 7 yr old son does on
everything....the commercials, the pc won'tt go fast enough, his
toys won't work right, bed at 8pm is too early... i didn't have any
of that when his age.....just unbelievable...
i think i'm going to tape him to a chair as if he were disabled
like me for a day and see if that clears it up?? you think??
he has no appreciation for anything. i have tried to make sure he
learns to value everything, well it ain't working anymore!
he worked yesterday out in the yard and earned 5 dollars, today he
won't do anything without griping, back tackling or mumbling under
his breath. all of which i used to do until i got backslapped one
good time (age 15).....i don't want to have to do that..
HELP PLEASE!!!???
