I would like to hear more about your story. I am 24 years old. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, we got married May 29, 2004 and 4 weeks later he was injured in an ATV accident and is now a quad. I did not leave his side for all 4 months in the hospital. We had to sell everything, including the house we just bought a month before our wedding. We moved in with his dad and stepmom. I turned from wife to caretaker. I did really good the first year (I was still in denial) then it all hit me and I got really depressed and it got pretty bad. So I moved out and in with my mom to get myself better because if I am not well then I can not help him or our relationship. After I moved out I then realized and looked back on everything and did not realize how unhappy I actually was. I am only 24 and I lost everything in a matter of seconds and I am now trying to cope with everything and try to dec! ide if I should go back or not. I have no one to really talk to and no one understands until they have walked in your shoes or done the same thing. If we were older and married a lot longer it might be different. I think we messed up because I turned into caretaker instead of wife. Any suggestions or advice? How did you manage and cope with everything?
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My life as a incomplete quads wife
First of all let me say I w! ould do it all over again, although it is not easy being the man of the house. lol
My husband and I traded off the responsibilities, ie: while I did chores that normally a hubby would do he would in turn do household chores that he could manage. I even learned to fix minor repairs on our car. Of course he was there telling me how to do it. ![]()
He was a very good teacher.
When our children were babies he would hold them with one had and push with the other alternately. I almost fainted upon returning from an appointment to discover he managed to get our first born infant into the living room. After that I was completely comfortable with leaving the youngsters with him.
Between the two of ! us we managed without outside help until the year of 2000. He is now in failing health and keeping me busy. Sometimes it is difficult, but I always remind myself what a great husband and Father he is and what a wonderful marriage we have. Fifty two years this past August. He is 77 and I am 71.
Now that u know a little about me how about some of your stories!!!!
take care
Honic
