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Dear Irene, I don't mean to but in, but is your son seeing a psychiatrist or psychologist? Getting used to this drastic of a disability can be too much for most folks. Nursing homes can be real hard on any emotional recovery. He wasn't the only one affected by his injury. You are suffering from his injury, too. Seeing a shrink helped me stop with the self pity and move on. It is not a simple process and professionals can help a lot. Best wishes, john   In a message dated 3/18/2006 3:02:51 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Hi Dana,   So nice to hear from you.  My son is 38 and living in a nursing home because I’m yet working the maze with healthcare, social agencies, etc. ($$$) to get him home where he can find a quality life style.  He’s miserable in nursing home and I ache and pray to make things better for him.    He’s yet to accept or somehow adjust to living as a quad, not too open to sharing his thoughts/feelings with other quads—despite fact he needs desperately to do so.  I continue to seek ways to find the correct “nudge.”  I’ve told him about this group and how valuable it’s been for me, etc., hoping he’ll soon act to join.    Overall, it’s been very hard for both us, but we are compelled to work at it daily.  Life is very different now.  Most of our family members, friends and associates are no longer a part of our lives as before; but I honestly believe the experience is making each of us wiser, stronger humans. Beneath and within all the anxiety, frustration, fears, and anguish, I truly believe he feels the same.  We are learning a deeper and wider meaning of love; a truer connection with Spirit...with ourselves.   Thank you so much for your compassion.   Irene