Thanks for taking the time and showing an interest. First, IMHO, the way one reacts to their disability has many factors which effect their life not only during recoverey but afterwards. The question of their reaction to a quick or sudden onslaught resulting in their condition IMO is based on their spirit (character) which is developed through life experiences and the culture they were raised in. In my case, I was 43 and on my way home, on a mountain top in the Blackhills of SD, when a mule deer jumped up on the road, on the drivers side with his head full of a large rack coming towards the windsheild. I had time for two words as I swerved and found myself leaving the road. Several moments later I knew better than to let a good samaritan move me, as I had no feeling below my shoulders. I'd been a stuntman, and an adrenaline junkie all my life. At the same time I was a Independent spirit who hated having to rely on others if it was something I could do myself. For me, my acceptence took less than 48hrs and I never had a pity party. But even the shrink questioned this (at first) and thought I was in the denial stage. 10yrs this April 19th and although I might feel nostalgic for some female companionship from time to time, as a C5-6 I don't expect to find any. I've learned that materialism is overated and that their are some great people who do care, although I'll never "like" having to rely on others. Stunt (aka Tim)
On 3/31/06, Ellen Jones <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Hi, my name is Ellen and I have a quick question that might seem a > little off topic, but I'm curious. Do any of you that became quads > "suddenly" (accident, etc.) think there's a difference between how you > approach your life and how someone whose acquired their condition > gradually looks at things? I am not a quad myself, but I'm an > undergraduate anthropology student researching the importance of > listservs as sources of support and I'm curious about how people might > (or might not) consider the ways in which people acquired their > condition... any answer would be great! > > take care > >
