I really wish I could help you out, but it looks to me like you need the aid of a good social worker. I recently faced some issues with my mother, but not nearly to the extent you are experiencing right now. My heart goes out to you and hope someone else on here will have a better idea of how you can contact the social worker or any other ideas. Quadius
On 3/21/08, Stacy Harim <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > Hey all. I am having problems and serious concerns. My mom recently got > two of her toes amputated due to bad circulation She isn't walking well on > top of that due to the circulation. I am the only kid that is tepping up to > the plate with her. My younger brother is in prison so has no way to help > and my older brother isn't even calling us after several attempst to call > him. > > Every morning I get a call from her all upset about something. I am > working on getting her medical assistance and hoping I can get help with her > rent since she doesn't have an income and hopefully she will be able to draw > disability. > > On top of the toes she has an ulcer on the inside of her leg. I talked to > the doctor telling him that I cant physically help her and now he is getting > her to rehab. She is freaking out bc it is a nursing home/rehab. > > I am at a loss of what to do. She has car payments, phone, electric, > etc. We have talked about letting the car go but she lives out in the > middle of nowhere and she can't stop onto my van. I'm doing everything I > can tp keep her from living with me again. I can't take her negativity and > if you all remember, she chased away a guy that I was dating. On top of it > all I will need to get spinal curgery again soon and scared to death of what > will happen to my mom in the coming years when she wont be able to care for > herself at all. > > I did get my name back on the list for substuting with the board of > edication a few weeks ago so I can help pay her bills but havent been called > at all. I need to help my mom, but finding it so hard. > > I'm curious to know how you all have handled or handling the aging of > parents when you can't physically take care of them.. I always knew I would > be the one to care for my parents when they got older but now that I have > problems, I know I wont be able to do it and it breaks my heart to think my > mom will eventually end up on a home since my brother wont even call to see > how she is doing. > > It is so exhausting dealing with my mom now. She is a terrible patientand > is getting great care but she doesn't think so. Like i said before, she > calls me first thing in the morning every day crying about something and > doesnt seem to calm down unless I am there. the day she has surgery, she > had her heart rate well over a hundred and refuses anxiety medicine. She > didnt calm down until her friend that was visiting and I went to see her. > Her friend was on her way home so I was at the hospital all day into the > night to keep her calm. > > When I was in the hospital she constantly complained to me about things > going on at home and now is throwing things in my face but she didnt do as > much as she thinks because I had my dad helping me with my bills. I was > three hours away in baltimore and she wasnt able to come see me but expects > me to be with her all the time. I've missed a couple of days seeing her to > give my back a break which hurts all of the time bc of the screw moving that > popped through the vertabrae that I have to get fixed. > > I have my second opinion in april for my back and will try to put off the > surgery as long as I can so I can try to help her but cant put it off > forever. > > I knoq I rambled but I'm really upset over this situation and scared to > death of what is going to hapen. does anyone have any suggestions on how I > can get funds to save her car and apt.? Like I said, moving back in with > isn't something I can handle. Mostlh because of her negativity complaining > all of the time about everything and how she picks at me. Her own friend > cant deal with it. > > Any suggestions would be great and even a prayer wouldn't hurt. > > Stacy > > ------------------------------ > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! > Search.<http://us.rd.yahoo.com/evt=51734/*http://tools.search.yahoo.com/newsearch/category.php?category=shopping> >
