Dan (and [email protected]) said what I would have said. I would add also that if they objected, I'd know not to ask them again (so, if its someone in my employ, they may not be employed much longer if they can't nicely and without noise do what I ask). If they ignored my instruction/request (significantly enough, anyway), I'd be compelled to gently point it out (Not that I'm ungrateful, just that I want to impress on them that I really do know what I want and want nothing less).
Bottom Line: Yes, you need to be your own best advocate, but its a tight-rope walk: You can't always get exactly what you want everytime you want it, but you should not have to just always settle for what you can get, either. As a related aside: In my (quite extensive now) hospital experience, I've met two kinds of nurses: Those in it just for the money, and those that really want to help people. The latter are more likely the type to follow instruction graciously... regards, bob quinn c5/c6 9 years post ________________________________ From: Dan <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Thursday, March 19, 2009 2:24:39 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Food preparation question Hey Bobbie, God, I do that all the time. 'hey you wanna make me a p&j sandwich with lots of peanut butter and taste of shit jelly? Thanks.' I do this for everything - 'wanna wash the floor for me with Mrs Clean? Thanks.' You always have to put the wanna and thank yous in there. I also type up recipes for my favorite meals. 'You wanna make me this recipe? I love it made this way. Thanks.' If we don't tell them they won't know and we will be miserable. As long as we are pleasant about request and not dictatorial everything should be cool. Dan At 01:14 PM 3/19/2009, [email protected] said something that elicited my response: Hi All, OK, I have a question about food preparation. Let's say you'd like a peanut butter and jelly sandwich (or another kind of sandwich) that you can't make. Do you just ask for that sandwich and except it as it is made by the person making it? Or do you try and "instruct" how you prefer the sandwich? For instance; I like a lot of peanut butter, or I don't want that kind of jelly. Dose the person making the sandwich or meal, think you are being a pain in the butt by being so particular? Just wondering, Bobbie Humphreys C-5,6.7 motocross jumping accident in 1973 at 17 Married to Sweet Pete Living in Parsippany, New Jersey ________________________________ Great Deals on Dell 15" Laptops - Starting at $479
