Hi Dana:-) Many many thanks for your many productive advice and also for telling a lot about you. I wish I could hear many others stories. When we hear these stories they reduce our loneliness. You are lucky in many way. You have some to spend some time with. I mean your mother and your friend. I have my mother staying under the same roof with me in a separate room. But she is reluctant about any of my problems. Her attitude is, it's better that God should take one away instead of putting him into a helpless situation. Although she never mentioned me.
Anyway, I tried dating4disabled.com, but alas... never got any interest from anyone. I think reason behind it is I am not from USA. Please take good care :-) Yours, Shahidul Alam On Fri, Apr 24, 2009 at 10:36 PM, <[email protected]> wrote: > It is correct that not many ab's want to deal with us. I have one really > good friends that is a wonderful person he takes me out twice a week on his > days off. I spent a lot of time with mother who lives a block away. I just > accept this and realize that that is the way most people are. It's nothing > against you, but the most A.B. are not acclimated on how to deal with > persons with disabilities other than sympathy. I meet people from time to > time that are. I had a really girl that took me to Bible study. When she had > family problems and could no longer take me to church, no one else from the > church would volunteer to do. When I lived in a smaller town, that church > took me to Sunday services and a Bible study in the home of the man that > took me to Sunday services. My best friend from high school still comes > about once or twice a year to visit from Iowa, which is four hours away. > > There are people that will but they are few and far between. Don't give up > hope. Try to get involved in going to church. > > I'm sure I would feel very alone without my best friend that takes me out > and driving to my mom house when the weather is nice. When he was married > for a short time, my mother lived in another city as a nanny. You just have > to keep busy and not value yourself through how abl click e bodied people > deal with you. It is their problem not yours. You can meet people through > websites such as dating4disabled.com. Some are disabled and some are not. > A lot of people will write. There is also a website called disabled > United.comI have met people through both sites. There are people from all > over the world and probably your country. I have never met anyone, just > talked to them. These sites are both free. > > I will pray for you about this. I believe the Lord will help us with > whatever we need, if we just ask him. I don't know your religion, that reach > out to with what it can offer. My faith really does help me cope. I have > just started reading the Bible and there is so much to learn. It's really > hard to feel alone. My best friend was absent for two years, when he was > married to a bipolar woman, which didn't last. Families don't often have > time for you. They are busy with their own families. > > Thank you for sharing your feelings. Hopefully others will have their ideas > as to how they cope with their disabilities and their feelings of isolation > from the world. > > Feel free to write me anytime. > > DanaHi Paul:-) > > Same here. Diving accident, C5/6. Just 2 years later in 1993. > > Was wondering, what kind of problems you are having at this stage of life ? > I am having serious mental problem while mixing with AB's. I feel that they > think me very different, a person who is only a burden. Their attitude says > "Ohh, poor fellow...". My old friends forgot and ignored me long time back. > I couldn't find any AB, who will talk to me normally. Any discussion always > lead to my disabled condition. I feel very lonely in this world. Is it some > kind of syndrome ? > >
