Hi Hosni, I agree whole-heartedly with Steve's answer. I have been struggling with how to answer your question, and could not have said it better.
Said a slighly different way, your attitude towards your injury and yourself will affect your relationships with people. If you feel sorry for yourself, you project a need for sympathy. If you can learn to accept your condition and realize you are not defined by it, it will be easier for you to show people --and for people to see-- what you have to offer them as a friend or even as a lover. No, it is not simple or easy, but it is worth the effort. Keep the Faith, bob quinn ________________________________ From: Steve Oldaker <[email protected]> To: Hosni Al-khatib <[email protected]> Cc: [email protected] Sent: Monday, April 27, 2009 7:37:32 PM Subject: RE: [QUAD-L] LOVE Hi Hosni, I think being disabled is not the problem when it comes to finding love. It is more a matter of confidence in yourself. If you believe and project that you are available and worthy of a loving relationship, it will be more likely the someone will respond to you. If you expect only sympathy and kindness, it may be all you will get. Think about what attracts you to someone and do what you can to adopt those traits. I wish you all the best in your quest for love. Steve – C4, 20 years From:Hosni Al-khatib [mailto:[email protected]] Sent: Sunday, April 26, 2009 5:41 PM To: quad-list Subject: [QUAD-L] LOVE Hi My name is Hosni, I’m from Jordan, I am a C 4/5 quadriplegic since 2001, and I am hoping somebody on this list will be able to help me. I want to ask if a quadriplegic person can find love, because I think he will find only sympathy and kindness. Thank you God bless you ________________________________ What can you do with the new Windows Live? Find out
