Im 36 now and was 23 then. Interesting story....I would go watch my little brother bowl on wednesdays to pass the time and started talking to this older woman up there. As the weeks went by she told me , "you should meet my daughter", and gave me her email. I emailed the womans daughter and we started talking and exchanging pictures over the net. She invited me to her house that she lived with her brother at the time for dinner. I told my dad, "im going to have dinner with a girl i met". He was like boy your a cripple, what do you think your going to find over there. I went anyway and eat dinner, kissed the girl upon leaving to seal it up. We had a relationship for about a year when she informed me she was buying a house and was going to adapt it. She ripped all the walls down and turned a 3 bedroom two bath into a big accessible bathroom and two big bedrooms with large doors. I had two more years with her and she was loyal, cooked and was a pretty good person overall but started getting pretty controlling of me. If I wanted to go eat with a buddy she would say no and I would usually go anyway. regardless we had alot of good times, but she finally gave me an ultimadum, either I move in permanently or we were done. this was a pickle for me because I was pretty new to the injury and knew my dad would write me off completely if I moved in with my lover. So gradually it fizzled out and we drifted apart. One other point to this story was she wasnt much of a looker and I guess in my mind at that time I wanted a feminine woman. At 36 now, I can see that i made a mistake. because i stayed in my situation Im not the guy I was anymore, feel defeated, losing hope, replay the past. I guess the good news is its not over yet. Still time for something to happen.
Ron c7 ________________________________ From: Bobbie Humphreys <[email protected]> To: RONALD L PRACHT <[email protected]> Sent: Fri, November 23, 2012 1:17:07 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] holidays Ron, This has been one HELL of a year for you! Can you get in touch with the kind woman who converted her house? How long ago was that? I'm so glad your brother came over for awhile. ((((HUGS)))). Bobbie On Nov 23, 2012, at 3:05 AM, RONALD L PRACHT <[email protected]> wrote: i made alot of strides in the beginning........got driving on my own, went back to school, found the swim program, dated a hand full of women, then things slowly regressed......got a syrinx, quit school , appendix burst, hernia, lost the gfs, dad ran everybody off. I have talked to people at paraquad and they are full of info, but they are mostly for city residents and Im in the county. The whole reason Im failing now is I stayed in my current living situation and didnt move on. I was a fool, I had a woman convert her house to be accessible for me and loved me to death but I was 23 yrs old at the time and couldnt commit to her. what a fool I was, lol. anyway i ate good for thanksgiving and my momand brother came down for awhile, im thankful for that. Finished it all off with some cherry pie. > > > > > > ________________________________ From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> >To: [email protected]; [email protected] >Sent: Thu, November 22, 2012 7:49:46 AM >Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] holidays > >Ron, have you joined your local group in St Louis called ParaQuads? in St >Louis? >Best Wishes > >In a message dated 11/22/2012 2:16:58 A.M. Central Standard Time, >[email protected] writes: >Thanks dana for your thoughts. I live with my dad and hes home for the >holidays, >he has had the belief that the last holiday my family had when i was on my >feet. >he has so much resentment towards my disability he has ran everyone off. I >should have got out years ago but i didnt. Things could always be worse, ill >be >thankful for the small things. This year has been a challenge recovered from >the >burst appendix then a hernia surgery.........then broke up with my girlfriend >and had to quit my swim/workout program. hopefully in 2013 I will figure out >some ways to occupy my time. >> >>ron c7 >> >> ________________________________ From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> >>To: [email protected] >>Sent: Thu, November 22, 2012 12:48:15 AM >>Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] holidays >> >>Hi Ron, >>I'm sorry that the holidays are so difficult for you. Is your family gone or >>not >>available. >>I don't know if you believe in prayer, but I will pray for you. I am lucky >>that >>I have my mother still alive that I understands the difficulty of being >>paralyzed, as most persons do not even in your own family. >> >> >>God bless you, >>Dana >> >>I was thinking about the Bible verse , Cast your burdens upon the Lord and I >>found this while looking up that verse and I hope you may read something >>comforting to you. >>http://voices.yahoo.com/10-comforting-bible-verses-broken-heart-7633872.html?cat=34 >> >> >>In a message dated 11/21/2012 11:44:28 P.M. Central Standard Time, >>[email protected] writes: >> >>>i hope i have the strength to get through the holidays and onto January. >>>these >>>are the hardest and lonliest times for me each year. i wish i could escape >>>somewhere until its all over. well.......one day at a time >>> >>>ron c7.
