Well, I certainly agree that humor is incredibly important. the multiple little embarrassments and indignities of assisted sex-- or just sex that is "different" from what most people practice - - is much more enjoyable and sustainable with laughter.
I agree that women tend to be better communicators, but in the case of straight couples, I think this is actually an advantage for disabled men. When we are looking for a bed partner, disabled or nondisabled, I think more women are open to the experience and have the communication skills necessary to explore, experiment and find what works. Disabled women that are looking for a man are dealing with people that just can't seem to talk things through as well. I disagree about the importance of penetrative intercourse. It's something I engage in for my partners' pleasure, and less so my own. I don't feel much during it, so for me, it's something I do when she wants it and my enjoyment is principally vicariously experiencing her pleasure and the erotic visual of it all. With my previous partners, and now my wife, I'd say 70 to 80% of our bed play doesn't involve intercourse. making out, digital play, mutual oral sex, sharing fantasies, watching erotica, playing with toys... are much bigger part of what we enjoy. I've never really struggled with feeling less of a man because of this focus on non-intercourse play. in fact it's helped my self-esteem when so many women seem relieved about decreasing the centrality of penetrative sex and the sense of obligation to chase magical orgasms. I've been told focusing on clitoral stimulation/orgasms is more dependably pleasurable and more aligned with how their bodies really work as opposed to how most men want/expect them to perform. ed On Sat, Mar 31, 2018 at 5:48 PM, Bobbie Humphreys < [email protected]> wrote: > I'd like to say something to all you male quads. > My hat 🎩 is off to you guys for what you all endure to keep your manhood. > I believe, personally, that intercorse is more "important" to you guys then > to us females. > A in dwelling catheter for us females doesn't interfere nearly as much, > for intercorse, as cock rings and pumps. > Mentally I can not even start to imagine how you guys keep your saintly > while dating or having intercorse and keep your dignity. You must need a > great deal of a sense of humor. > Of course there is the physical aspect of not doing "Manley" labor or > physical labor. Men also have a much harder time asking for help then > females. > Women are also better communicators in every day life than men. > I realize ALL men , and women, are not the same. > It just seams to me , overall, that being paralyze would be much harder on > males then females mentally. > My 2 cents. > Bobbie > > "Be the change you want to see in the world". Gandhi > > > On Mar 31, 2018, at 6:38 PM, Ed Tessier <[email protected]> wrote: > > > > going >
