"Development is fusion - individuation - differentiation - COMMITMENT. "
This tracks reasonably well with Erik Erikson's developmental theories. By tacking on "commitment" we start to see Erikson's stage of young adulthood which is... Intimacy vs. isolation - This development usually happens during young adulthood, which is between the ages of 20 to 24. Dating, marriage, family and friendships are important during the stage in their life. By successfully forming loving relationships with other people, individuals are able to experience love and intimacy. Those who fail to form lasting relationships may feel isolated and alone. (modified from Wikipedia) If we stop our development at individuation, we lose the essential sociological/anthropological step that has allowed for the successful propagation of the species. Chris -----Original Message----- From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]] On Behalf Of Dr. Ernie Prabhakar Sent: Saturday, November 05, 2011 9:27 AM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: love vs. freedom Re: this myth of rationality Re: [RC] Libertarian Logic Hi Kevin, On Nov 5, 2011, at 8:17 AM, Kevin Kervick wrote: > But if we are talking about adults here, and inter-familial connection then we should look at voluntary association rather than codependency or coercion. That's an interesting ideological perspective. But is it supported by the data, either historical or sociological? Historically, not very much. Early kingdoms largely functioned as extended families -- actually, clans *are* extended families. Early religion the same way. Yes, people can join voluntarily -- just like people join a family through marriage or adoption (well, semi-voluntary) -- but once inside, it is anything but egalitarian. Sociologically, virtually no associations are a pure "free meeting of equals". Every viable group has a functioning hierarchy, structure, roles, and rules. When we join the group, we surrender our freedom to act disjointly from those roles. Yeah, the modern of idea of a social contract between peers is a powerful one -- but it is still an abstraction, only useful in certain circumstances. And the issue of birth is hardly trivial. We inherit not just our culture, but vast amounts of resources from the society we are born into. Does that convey no obligation whatsoever? I would that that voluntary choices *modify* what we inherit, but what we are born into is actually far more critical in the vast majority of cases. You surely know that as a psychologist -- why wouldn't it be true socially? > In family therapy we promote psychological differentiation - the > capacity to be both seperate and connected simultaneously. Development is fusion - individuation - differentiation. That process starts at birth. So, I'd argue that individuality is a requisite capacity that enables true communion with others. That is why many community/religious traditions believe baptism into the fold can only occur after one reaches the age of consent - in most traditions that occurs in late adolescence or early adulthood. Baptism is great metaphor, which points out the flaw in your model. Development is fusion - individuation - differentiation - COMMITMENT. You can't ignore that last part, or you'll never create a next generation. Like I said, you sure sound like you don't have kids. I fear it is more than coincidence that most philosophers (starting with Socrates) were lousy fathers. Raising children puts all our philosophical theories to the tests -- and most don't survive. And if we can't even figure out how to raise our kids, how in hell can we figure out how to elevate civilization? -- Ernie P. P.S. Gotta go put my money where my mouth is -- my son just stole my iPhone, and my daughter is turning one today... -- Centroids: The Center of the Radical Centrist Community <[email protected]> Google Group: http://groups.google.com/group/RadicalCentrism Radical Centrism website and blog: http://RadicalCentrism.org -- Centroids: The Center of the Radical Centrist Community <[email protected]> Google Group: http://groups.google.com/group/RadicalCentrism Radical Centrism website and blog: http://RadicalCentrism.org
