-----�������� ���������----- ��: Boris Chikota <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> ����: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> ����: 17 ������ 2000 �. 11:39 ����: Re: 2 [RR] OCS >Hello Mike, > >I am not whole lot very old Sr Cdr. I started to be in RR program Sr Cdr 2,5 >years ago not knowing anything. That was very beginning of the Russian RR. >So I had to learn things the hard way, on my own experience. > >So I had different times in Royal Rangers. First success, with me doing >nothing. Then let-down in kids and commanders (I was younger than some of >them too). And then I started really to learn. > >Yes, there are good times and bad times. But I learned never to depend on >children, or adults. Of course I don't want to lose any kid or Cdr. But >really when people see you depend on them, they start to manipulate you. And >then you have a flesh-driven outpost with nominal commander. So I learned >to avoid that trap. If commanders don't want to follow the rules and walk in >disobedience, I warn them, work with them. But interesting thing, I never >kicked them out. They usually left by their own decision. It just becomes >too hard for them, to walk on two paths at the same time. > >The same with children. If children take control in the meeting, it's not >right. And it affects whole outpost, commanders, church. So commanders >should set the rules. If one kid is uncontrollable, he's getting warning, >and then go restrictions. I am trying to make them WANT to be in RR, not >just a place to spend time. If they don't want to be here, please leave. > >We usually choose the best ranger for a year. And one day the boy who >deserved it came to the Awards ceremony. He came with his mom. And he behave >bad with his mom. So I said "Today we wanted to award the best RR for a >year. But we decided not to do that because of his behaviour that is going >contrary to the Code of RR". And then in private talk I told him. It was him >to get that award. He learned the hard lesson, and today he is the best in >his opost, he's the leader of patrol... He's changed. > >You gotta show kids (and commanders - we all live by the same rules) that >the Code is the rule of the game. And you will not go compromise. Then they >will understand the value of that. And some will leave, some will live by >that rule. > >Of course you need to have pastors support here. Good to have parents >support. Yes, this cousins thing might be hard. But we have Great God. He >can help you. And when you establish this order, Godly order, you will have >a BETTER outpost. Where children want to come. > >It is hard work. It took 2,5 years for me to establish. But now I realize >it's a better outpost. And I have faithful commanders. And no one can come >and destroy my outpost just doing bad things and being out of control. In >doing this you will find faithful children. > >Yeah, one more thing. You will probably have to speak to your cousins >separately. PERSONALLY. In this way they will be responsible each for his >own deeds. You gotta split that party somehow. And again, all that should be >done in love. Never yelling on children. Always acting according to the >Code. > >I am glad if I been of any help for you. > >Boris Chikota >======== Royal Rangers ========= >National Training Coordinator, Russia >Sr.Cdr. RR Outpost 1, Ufa, Russia >[EMAIL PROTECTED] >http://russianrr.webjump.com > > >P.S. Maybe it is good idea to send it to the Rangernet. What do you think? >Maybe it will help some with the same problem. If you are not opposed. > > > _______ To unsubscribe, send "unsubscribe rangernet" to [EMAIL PROTECTED] "Eat the hay & spit out the sticks! - A#1's mule" RTKB&G4JC! http://rangernet.org Autoresponder: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
