Been There done that. I am 58 and I was the first grandchild. My aunts and
uncles and Mom still treat me that way. Yes, it is aggravating, but it is
FAMILY. A lot of other people wish they had someone to watch over them. It
is done in love, or they wouldn't do it. Frapper's mom does the same thing.
When you get old like me, you learn to pick your battles and roll with the
punches. I understand fully how you feel. It is not that they think you are
stupid, they just prefer to think they still have influence in your life and
still have good advice to give. Heres how you handle it. Certainly pray but
not for them, for yourself. Life is too short to worry over what is said to
you. Worry is a waste of time and energy. You are not going to change them
at this late date, so smile, thank them for their concern and give 'em a hug
remembering that the basis of this is love for you. That way, no one walks
away from the conversation hurt. Be honest if it really hurts, but there is
no need in sending someone away from you wounded. Get what I mean? My Dad
tried to reason with my sister about something, ( she was only 23) and they
had words. Harsh words. She went off with her friends for the day furious
with him. All he asked of her was to spend Sunday at home, he had not seen
her all wk. She had plans, they had words. That night, at 48, he died of a
massive coronary brought on by a doctor who pulled the wrong pills off the
shelf for pain in his knee. Suddenly, Daddy was gone. That was in 1971 and
she is not over it yet that her last words with him were harsh. Please,
weigh your words and think about why they are doing this. It helps soften
the brunt of their words. Kindness breeds Gentleness. An original saying by
me) Good luck, and much loving prayers, Janet the peacemaker <G>
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