There's insecurity, true. But, as I asked in my long post to Adrianne, if a straight person were to get into a relationship with a bi person, is it realistic or fair to expect that bi person to be happy forever? Let's leave judgement and prejudices about gay or bi promiscuity out of it, as I don't subscribe to those thoughts. What I'm saying is, if my mate finds women as attractive as men, can she really be happy with just me for the rest of her life? I believe in marrying for life; again, not a judgement or moral standing. It's just my preference. I absolutely think marriage isn't for everyone. But if I'm in it for the next 40 or 50 years, can I be assured my wife, who is bi, will be cool living the straight life only for that long? Isn't that asking her to deny a whole half of her needs?
----- Original Message ----- From: "Mr. Worf" <hellomahog...@gmail.com> To: scifinoir2@yahoogroups.com Sent: Friday, April 2, 2010 8:39:59 PM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern Subject: Re: [scifinoir2] "True Blood" Star Pacquin Comes Out on Video What you are talking about is insecurity. The fear is that the person who is bi will leave the other person for someone of the same sex. (ie. they are really gay) That is a myth. The flip side of that is there another myth that the person that is gay is secretly straight. Both cloud the real issue of insecurity. The cure for insecurity is trust. I don't expect folks in this group to totally understand what I'm talking about because this group isn't an alternative sexuality one, but I know what I'm talking about. On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 2:30 PM, Keith Johnson < keithbjohn...@comcast.net > wrote: Sorry, not mine. I've never understood why anyone would want to be with someone who's not totally "committed". It's hard enough to have to keep tabs on an attractive, famous person being faithful to you on one side of the fence. I wouldn't want to be worried about someone being attracted to both sides. But I hear what you're saying. By the way, I've known some guys who've been involved in those situations, and no matter how cool and with-it they claimed to be ahead of time, they always had issues when the women sometimes enjoyed each other without the dude. It was a combination of things. One, once the dude's passion dies down and he's thinking again, he always freaks out a bit when realizing this person is actually enjoying being with someone of the same sex. And two, they actually weren't as cool about sharing their mate with someone as they thought, even though they thought it would be less difficult with another woman. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Mr. Worf" < hellomahog...@gmail.com > To: scifinoir2@yahoogroups.com Sent: Friday, April 2, 2010 3:00:17 PM GMT -05:00 US/Canada Eastern Subject: Re: [scifinoir2] "True Blood" Star Pacquin Comes Out on Video She's bi. Not gay. She still does men. Why would they be disappointed? This would fuel some men's fantasies of a 3way. :) On Fri, Apr 2, 2010 at 10:27 AM, Keith Johnson < keithbjohn...@comcast.net > wrote: Didn't know or even suspect this about Pacquin. I'm sure there will be a lot of disappointed men out there now! As for Ricky Martin: file it in the "Worst Kept Secret" folder. I think Clay Aiken's dossier was already in there... *************************************************** 'True Blood' Star Anna Paquin Uses Surprising Medium to Reveal Sexual Orientation By Mike Ryan | Thursday, April 1, 2010, 5:04 PM Anna Paquin Jordan Strauss/WireImage Hot on the heels of Ricky Martin's announcement on his personal blog that he's gay, " True Blood " star Anna Paquin used an unusual medium of her own to announce that she is bisexual. Alongside celebrities such as Elton John , Clay Aiken , and Wanda Sykes , Paquin declared her sexual orientation in a public service announcement for Cyndi Lauper 's Give a Damn Campaign , which promotes equality for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community. Two videos were shot in Los Angeles on January 30 and were released April 1 at 9 a.m. EST. What makes 27-year-old Paquin's spot particularly surprising is that, unlike some of the other openly gay celebrities involved in the campaign, the actor had never before discussed being bisexual. According to RadarOnline.com, even people at the shoot were surprised when Paquin made the revelation. A second PSA features " Sex and the City " actor Cynthia Nixon (who came out in 2006 ), Jason Mraz, Kim Kardashian , and Sharon and Kelly Osbourne . Paquin follows an interesting trend of celebrities forgoing the traditional "coming out" People magazine interview -- à la Clay Aiken and Lance Bass -- and instead controlling the message themselves. Ricky Martin buried his announcement at the bottom of an otherwise banal blog post, and now Paquin is using her announcement to drive attention to a cause she supports. So much attention, in fact, that servers at wegiveadamn.org crashed shortly after the news broke of Paquin's statement. Paquin -- who at age 11 became the second-youngest Oscar winner in history when she won for best supporting actress for "The Piano" -- has been notoriously shy about discussing her private life and has never before discussed her sexuality. In 2007, she was romantically linked with actor Kieran Culkin . In August 2009, she and "True Blood" costar Stephen Moyer announced their engagement. The Give a Damn campaign is part of Cyndi Lauper's True Colors Fund (named after her popular 1986 song and album). Lauper is currently promoting the cause during her turn on the Donald Trump -judged show " Celebrity Apprentice ." -- Celebrating 10 years of bringing diversity to perversity! Mahogany at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mahogany_pleasures_of_darkness/ -- Celebrating 10 years of bringing diversity to perversity! Mahogany at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mahogany_pleasures_of_darkness/
