Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-23 Thread Ajay Minocha 
Preeti Ma'am,

You nailed it!

On 10/23/16, Mahendra Galani <gal...@chello.at> wrote:
> very well explained, Preeti.
> At 06:36 AM 10/23/2016 +0530, you wrote:
>>Very interesting! Why do we have to marry
>>disability or non disability? We must not forget
>>that we need to marry human beings! They can be
>>disabled or no9t! To find happiness in any
>>relationship as in marriage, it is important to
>>have valus, intrests and values alined with each
>>other. If you want mainstreaming, then give
>>value to the society  and be proactive in
>>mingling with  society, and you will soon find
>>yourself mainstreamed! And friends, we are
>>already in the mainstream, because our families
>>are not all disabled! It is also largely in our
>>own minds, we also keep away from all mainstream
>>activities and reject any opportunity to get out
>>and mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and
>>subconsciously worried about what people will
>>say or think about our disability and therefore
>>keep ourselves away from society, and get left
>>out! So friends the world belongs to all of us;
>>disabled or non disabled, so get up and start
>>mingling with all and get yourself into the
>>mainstream! Even people who do not have
>>disabilities  get left out if they don’t make
>>the effort of becoming social from their side!
>>They also get up and go into society to
>>participate, and believe you me, if they don't
>>get out and make that effort, they too get
>>excluded from  society! No society comes to your
>>doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you
>>have to make the effort and bring value to
>>others with whom you wish to connect and
>>interact! Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga - Chief
>>Executive Officer Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering
>>DIGNITY! Mobile : 91 9871701646 Landline : 011
>>22781446 E-mail :
>>preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org
>>/preeti.mo...@gmail.com Website :
>>www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Recruitment
>>, Trainings- Unique Motivation Programmes,
>>Diversity & Inclusion, Prevention of Sexual
>>Harassment Connect With Us : -Original
>>Message- From: AccessIndia
>>[mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in]
>>On Behalf Of Ajay Minocha Sent: Sunday, October
>>23, 2016 00:28 To: AccessIndia: a list for
>>discussing accessibility and issues concerning
>>the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh
>>reports for the Statesman: Delhi University:
>>Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life
>>partner Seems to be just hiding his own
>>discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming. On
>>10/21/16, avinash shahi
>><shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: > A visually
>>impaired teacher of Delhi University has
>>expressed his > disillusionment at being unable
>>to marry a physically 'normal' woman > because
>>of societal constraints. >
>>http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
>>
>> > He said marriage between disabled and normal
>>persons is an 'effective' > way to incorporate
>>the differently abled into the mainstream and
>>end > discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an
>>assistant professor of > political science at
>>DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he >
>>has turned down several proposals of marrying
>>differently abled girls > in his quest to get a
>>physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I >
>>will marry a normal girl," he stressed.
>>Chaurasia said society acts > with an
>>'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it
>>easily gives > sanction to matrimonial ties
>>between two normal persons but looks down > upon
>>marriage of a normal person with a disabled
>>one. > > "I had vehemently refused to accept
>>several proposals of marriage with > physically
>>disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned
>>down many > such proposals in the past and I am
>>really annoyed at and bewildered > by those who
>>approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh.
>>He said he > has no reservations in marrying a
>>physically disabled girl but wants > to set an
>>example that physical disability cannot be the
>>cause of > 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a
>>person. He said there is no support > from his
>>family members either who also cannot think 'out
>>of box', > "Even my parents are of the view that
>>I should marry a disabled girl, > but it's my
>>personal view that marriages between differently
>>abled

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-23 Thread Mahendra Galani 

very well explained, Preeti.
At 06:36 AM 10/23/2016 +0530, you wrote:
Very interesting! Why do we have to marry 
disability or non disability? We must not forget 
that we need to marry human beings! They can be 
disabled or no9t! To find happiness in any 
relationship as in marriage, it is important to 
have valus, intrests and values alined with each 
other. If you want mainstreaming, then give 
value to the society  and be proactive in 
mingling with  society, and you will soon find 
yourself mainstreamed! And friends, we are 
already in the mainstream, because our families 
are not all disabled! It is also largely in our 
own minds, we also keep away from all mainstream 
activities and reject any opportunity to get out 
and mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and 
subconsciously worried about what people will 
say or think about our disability and therefore 
keep ourselves away from society, and get left 
out! So friends the world belongs to all of us; 
disabled or non disabled, so get up and start 
mingling with all and get yourself into the 
mainstream! Even people who do not have 
disabilities  get left out if they don’t make 
the effort of becoming social from their side! 
They also get up and go into society to 
participate, and believe you me, if they don't 
get out and make that effort, they too get 
excluded from  society! No society comes to your 
doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you 
have to make the effort and bring value to 
others with whom you wish to connect and 
interact! Warmly Preeti Preeti Monga - Chief 
Executive Officer Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering 
DIGNITY! Mobile : 91 9871701646 Landline : 011 
22781446 E-mail : 
preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org 
/preeti.mo...@gmail.com Website : 
www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Recruitment 
, Trainings- Unique Motivation Programmes, 
Diversity & Inclusion, Prevention of Sexual 
Harassment Connect With Us : -Original 
Message- From: AccessIndia 
[mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] 
On Behalf Of Ajay Minocha Sent: Sunday, October 
23, 2016 00:28 To: AccessIndia: a list for 
discussing accessibility and issues concerning 
the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh 
reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: 
Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life 
partner Seems to be just hiding his own 
discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming. On 
10/21/16, avinash shahi 
<shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote: > A visually 
impaired teacher of Delhi University has 
expressed his > disillusionment at being unable 
to marry a physically 'normal' woman > because 
of societal constraints. > 
http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html  
> He said marriage between disabled and normal 
persons is an 'effective' > way to incorporate 
the differently abled into the mainstream and 
end > discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an 
assistant professor of > political science at 
DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he > 
has turned down several proposals of marrying 
differently abled girls > in his quest to get a 
physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I > 
will marry a normal girl," he stressed. 
Chaurasia said society acts > with an 
'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it 
easily gives > sanction to matrimonial ties 
between two normal persons but looks down > upon 
marriage of a normal person with a disabled 
one. > > "I had vehemently refused to accept 
several proposals of marriage with > physically 
disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned 
down many > such proposals in the past and I am 
really annoyed at and bewildered > by those who 
approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. 
He said he > has no reservations in marrying a 
physically disabled girl but wants > to set an 
example that physical disability cannot be the 
cause of > 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a 
person. He said there is no support > from his 
family members either who also cannot think 'out 
of box', > "Even my parents are of the view that 
I should marry a disabled girl, > but it's my 
personal view that marriages between differently 
abled and > normal persons will help in bringing 
Divyangs into mainstream of > society," said 
Chaurasia. > > "Physically disabled persons are 
also human beings and have desires > similar to 
those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a 
strong urge to > have a life partner but I have 
diverted all my energy into academics," > said 
Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be 
blind only to > have girls sympathising with 
them. "Many normal persons pretend to be > blind 
in metros , buses and public places and only 
look for > opportunity to inappropriately touch 
or feel young girls who come to > their aid out 
of sympathy, this has maligned the image of 
blind peopl

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-23 Thread Mahendra Galani 

normal? minimum5 times this word is used here.
 when we will change this word?
so long we think like this, we will never feel part of any society .


At 03:02 PM 10/21/2016 +0530, you wrote:
A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University 
has expressed his disillusionment at being 
unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman 
because of societal constraints. 
http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html 
He said marriage between disabled and normal 
persons is an 'effective' way to incorporate the 
differently abled into the mainstream and end 
discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an 
assistant professor of political science at DU's 
Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he has 
turned down several proposals of marrying 
differently abled girls in his quest to get a 
physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I 
will marry a normal girl," he stressed. 
Chaurasia said society acts with an 
'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it 
easily gives sanction to matrimonial ties 
between two normal persons but looks down upon 
marriage of a normal person with a disabled one. 
"I had vehemently refused to accept several 
proposals of marriage with physically disabled 
or visually impaired girls. I turned down many 
such proposals in the past and I am really 
annoyed at and bewildered by those who approach 
me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he 
has no reservations in marrying a physically 
disabled girl but wants to set an example that 
physical disability cannot be the cause of 
'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said 
there is no support from his family members 
either who also cannot think 'out of box', "Even 
my parents are of the view that I should marry a 
disabled girl, but it's my personal view that 
marriages between differently abled and normal 
persons will help in bringing Divyangs into 
mainstream of society," said Chaurasia. 
"Physically disabled persons are also human 
beings and have desires similar to those of 
normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge 
to have a life partner but I have diverted all 
my energy into academics," said Yogesh. He said 
many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to 
have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal 
persons pretend to be blind in metros , buses 
and public places and only look for opportunity 
to inappropriately touch or feel young girls who 
come to their aid out of sympathy, this has 
maligned the image of blind people and girls now 
look at all blind persons suspiciously”, he 
said. Sympathy, no love "Most people help us out 
of sympathy but there is no element of love in 
it. Sympathy cannot be misunderstood for love," 
said the professor. "By sympathising with us you 
make us feel that as if we are some helpless 
creatures but we want to tell that we are also 
human beings who are desirous of love and not 
sympathy," said Yogesh. Another teacher said 
society should shun its prejudices and ould 
encourage those who want to marry 'out of box'. 
"In my view marriage between a disabled and 
normal person should be encouraged, as it will 
help in bringing them into mainstream and 
increase their acceptability," said DU teacher. 
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Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread akshun mahajan 
Today I would have discussion on same subject on radioudaan.
agreed with ajay bhai and preeti mam

On 10/23/16, Vyas Gajendra <vyasgajen...@gmail.com> wrote:
> absolutely right mam .
> if we are free from prejudices and preferences , we can be as natural as
> water  that has no limitation or discrimination of main stream or isolation
> . water can flow anywhere .
> we should learn to delete the past from our computer of mind .
> sab ko gale se lagate chalo .
> meet the people and join wherever possible.
> gajendra
> - Original Message -
> From: "Preeti Monga" <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org>
> To: "'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
> the disabled.'" <accessindia@accessindia.org.in>
> Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 6:36 AM
> Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University:
> Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner
>
>
>> Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We
>>
>> must not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled
>> or no9t! To find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is
>> important to have valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If
>> you want mainstreaming, then give value to the society  and be proactive
>> in mingling with  society, and you will soon find yourself mainstreamed!
>> And friends, we are already in the mainstream, because our families are
>> not all disabled! It is also largely in our own minds, we also keep away
>> from all mainstream activities and reject any opportunity to get out and
>> mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and subconsciously worried about what
>>
>> people will say or think about our disability and therefore keep ourselves
>>
>> away from society, and get left out!
>>
>> So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so
>> get up and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream!
>> Even people who do not have disabilities  get left out if they don’t make
>> the effort of becoming social from their side! They also get up and go
>> into society to participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and
>>
>> make that effort, they too get excluded from  society! No society comes to
>>
>> your doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort
>>
>> and bring value to others with whom you wish to connect and interact!
>>
>> Warmly
>> Preeti
>>
>> Preeti Monga - Chief Executive Officer
>>
>>
>> Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering DIGNITY!
>>
>>
>> Mobile : 91 9871701646
>> Landline : 011 22781446
>> E-mail : preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org /preeti.mo...@gmail.com
>> Website : www.silver-linings.org
>> Our Services: Recruitment , Trainings- Unique Motivation Programmes,
>> Diversity & Inclusion, Prevention of Sexual Harassment
>> Connect With Us :
>>
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-
>> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On
>> Behalf Of Ajay Minocha
>> Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
>> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
>>
>> the disabled.
>> Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi
>> University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner
>>
>> Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.
>>
>> On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
>>> A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
>>> disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
>>> because of societal constraints.
>>> http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
>>> He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
>>> way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
>>> discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
>>> political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
>>> has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
>>> in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
>>> will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
>>> with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
>>> sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
>>> upon marriage of a normal person with a

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread Vyas Gajendra 

absolutely right mam .
if we are free from prejudices and preferences , we can be as natural as 
water  that has no limitation or discrimination of main stream or isolation 
. water can flow anywhere .

we should learn to delete the past from our computer of mind .
sab ko gale se lagate chalo .
meet the people and join wherever possible.
gajendra
- Original Message - 
From: "Preeti Monga" <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org>
To: "'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning 
the disabled.'" <accessindia@accessindia.org.in>

Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 6:36 AM
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: 
Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner



Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We 
must not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled 
or no9t! To find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is 
important to have valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If 
you want mainstreaming, then give value to the society  and be proactive 
in mingling with  society, and you will soon find yourself mainstreamed! 
And friends, we are already in the mainstream, because our families are 
not all disabled! It is also largely in our own minds, we also keep away 
from all mainstream activities and reject any opportunity to get out and 
mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and subconsciously worried about what 
people will say or think about our disability and therefore keep ourselves 
away from society, and get left out!


So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so 
get up and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream! 
Even people who do not have disabilities  get left out if they don’t make 
the effort of becoming social from their side! They also get up and go 
into society to participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and 
make that effort, they too get excluded from  society! No society comes to 
your doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort 
and bring value to others with whom you wish to connect and interact!


Warmly
Preeti

Preeti Monga - Chief Executive Officer


Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering DIGNITY!


Mobile : 91 9871701646
Landline : 011 22781446
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-Original Message-
From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On 
Behalf Of Ajay Minocha

Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning 
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi 
University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner


Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.

On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:

A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
because of societal constraints.
http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.

"I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
"Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
society," said Chaurasia.

"Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
similar to those of normal persons. Som

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread Sudamani M 
Very well agree with your thoughts Preeti... whether you are normal or
special...you need to make efforts to mainstream yourself through positive
approach n not through such deficit claims

On Oct 23, 2016 6:40 AM, "Preeti Monga" <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org>
wrote:

Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We
must not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled or
no9t! To find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is important
to have valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If you want
mainstreaming, then give value to the society  and be proactive in mingling
with  society, and you will soon find yourself mainstreamed! And friends,
we are already in the mainstream, because our families are not all
disabled! It is also largely in our own minds, we also keep away from all
mainstream activities and reject any opportunity to get out and mingle, for
we are ourselves ashamed and subconsciously worried about what people will
say or think about our disability and therefore keep ourselves away from
society, and get left out!

So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so get
up and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream! Even
people who do not have disabilities  get left out if they don’t make the
effort of becoming social from their side! They also get up and go into
society to participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and make
that effort, they too get excluded from  society! No society comes to your
doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort and
bring value to others with whom you wish to connect and interact!

Warmly
Preeti

Preeti Monga - Chief Executive Officer


Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering DIGNITY!


Mobile : 91 9871701646
Landline : 011 22781446
E-mail : preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org /preeti.mo...@gmail.com
Website : www.silver-linings.org
Our Services: Recruitment , Trainings- Unique Motivation Programmes,
Diversity & Inclusion, Prevention of Sexual Harassment
Connect With Us :



-Original Message-
From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf
Of Ajay Minocha
Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
the disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi
University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.

On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
> A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
> disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
> because of societal constraints.
> http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-
teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
> He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
> way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
> discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
> political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
> has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
> in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
> will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
> with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
> sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
> upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.
>
> "I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
> physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
> such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
> by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
> has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
> to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
> 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
> from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
> "Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
> but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
> normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
> society," said Chaurasia.
>
> "Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
> similar to those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge to
> have a life partner but I have diverted all my energy into academics,"
> said Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to
> have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal persons pretend to be
> blind in metros , buses and public places and only look for
> opportunity to inapp

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread umesh kasab 
This gentleman seems to be very individualistically selfish. Not
pausing to think about the plight of physically disabled women. Above
all, such an instrumental approach to marriage is discomforting for
me! Marriage for the sake of main-streaming yourself!

On 10/23/16, Preeti Monga <preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org> wrote:
> Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We
> must not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled or
> no9t! To find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is important
> to have valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If you want
> mainstreaming, then give value to the society  and be proactive in mingling
> with  society, and you will soon find yourself mainstreamed! And friends, we
> are already in the mainstream, because our families are not all disabled! It
> is also largely in our own minds, we also keep away from all mainstream
> activities and reject any opportunity to get out and mingle, for we are
> ourselves ashamed and subconsciously worried about what people will say or
> think about our disability and therefore keep ourselves away from society,
> and get left out!
>
> So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so get
> up and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream! Even
> people who do not have disabilities  get left out if they don’t make the
> effort of becoming social from their side! They also get up and go into
> society to participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and make
> that effort, they too get excluded from  society! No society comes to your
> doorstep to drag you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort and
> bring value to others with whom you wish to connect and interact!
>
> Warmly
> Preeti
>
> Preeti Monga - Chief Executive Officer
>
>
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>
>
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> -Original Message-
> From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf
> Of Ajay Minocha
> Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
> To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning
> the disabled.
> Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University:
> Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner
>
> Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.
>
> On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
>> A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
>> disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
>> because of societal constraints.
>> http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
>> He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
>> way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
>> discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
>> political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
>> has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
>> in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
>> will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
>> with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
>> sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
>> upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.
>>
>> "I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
>> physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
>> such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
>> by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
>> has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
>> to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
>> 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
>> from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
>> "Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
>> but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
>> normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
>> society," said Chaurasia.
>>
>> "Physically disabled persons are also human beings

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread Preeti Monga 
Very interesting! Why do we have to marry disability or non disability? We must 
not forget that we need to marry human beings! They can be disabled or no9t! To 
find happiness in any relationship as in marriage, it is important to have 
valus, intrests and values alined with each other. If you want mainstreaming, 
then give value to the society  and be proactive in mingling with  society, and 
you will soon find yourself mainstreamed! And friends, we are already in the 
mainstream, because our families are not all disabled! It is also largely in 
our own minds, we also keep away from all mainstream activities and reject any 
opportunity to get out and mingle, for we are ourselves ashamed and 
subconsciously worried about what people will say or think about our disability 
and therefore keep ourselves away from society, and get left out!

So friends the world belongs to all of us; disabled or non disabled, so get up 
and start mingling with all and get yourself into the mainstream! Even people 
who do not have disabilities  get left out if they don’t make the effort of 
becoming social from their side! They also get up and go into society to 
participate, and believe you me, if they don't get out and make that effort, 
they too get excluded from  society! No society comes to your doorstep to drag 
you into the mainstream, you have to make the effort and bring value to others 
with whom you wish to connect and interact!

Warmly
Preeti

Preeti Monga - Chief Executive Officer


Inspiring INCLUSION! Fostering DIGNITY!


Mobile : 91 9871701646
Landline : 011 22781446
E-mail : preeti.mo...@silver-linings.org /preeti.mo...@gmail.com
Website : www.silver-linings.org
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& Inclusion, Prevention of Sexual Harassment
Connect With Us :



-Original Message-
From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of 
Ajay Minocha
Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2016 00:28
To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the 
disabled.
Subject: Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: 
Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.

On 10/21/16, avinash shahi <shahi88avin...@gmail.com> wrote:
> A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
> disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
> because of societal constraints.
> http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
> He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
> way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
> discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
> political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
> has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
> in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
> will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
> with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
> sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
> upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.
>
> "I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
> physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
> such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
> by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
> has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
> to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
> 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
> from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
> "Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
> but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
> normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
> society," said Chaurasia.
>
> "Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
> similar to those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge to
> have a life partner but I have diverted all my energy into academics,"
> said Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to
> have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal persons pretend to be
> blind in metros , buses and public places and only look for
> opportunity to inappropriately touch or feel young girls who come to
> their aid out of sympathy, this has maligned the image of blind people
> and girls now look at all blind persons suspiciously”, he said.
> Sympathy, no love "Most people help us out of sympathy but there is

Re: [AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-22 Thread Ajay Minocha 
Seems to be just hiding his own discomfort behind so-called mainstreaming.

On 10/21/16, avinash shahi  wrote:
> A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
> disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
> because of societal constraints.
> http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
> He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
> way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
> discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
> political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
> has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
> in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
> will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
> with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
> sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
> upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.
>
> "I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
> physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
> such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
> by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
> has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
> to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
> 'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
> from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
> "Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
> but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
> normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
> society," said Chaurasia.
>
> "Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
> similar to those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge to
> have a life partner but I have diverted all my energy into academics,"
> said Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to
> have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal persons pretend to be
> blind in metros , buses and public places and only look for
> opportunity to inappropriately touch or feel young girls who come to
> their aid out of sympathy, this has maligned the image of blind people
> and girls now look at all blind persons suspiciously”, he said.
> Sympathy, no love "Most people help us out of sympathy but there is no
> element of love in it. Sympathy cannot be misunderstood for love,"
> said the professor.
>
> "By sympathising with us you make us feel that as if we are some
> helpless creatures but we want to tell that we are also human beings
> who are desirous of love and not sympathy," said Yogesh. Another
> teacher said society should shun its prejudices and ould encourage
> those who want to marry 'out of box'. "In my view marriage between a
> disabled and normal person should be encouraged, as it will help in
> bringing them into mainstream and increase their acceptability," said
> DU teacher.
>
>
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> Doctoral student at Centre for Law and Governance JNU
>
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[AI] Abhinav Singh reports for the Statesman: Delhi University: Visually Impaired teacher seeks normal life partner

2016-10-21 Thread avinash shahi 
A visually impaired teacher of Delhi University has expressed his
disillusionment at being unable to marry a physically 'normal' woman
because of societal constraints.
http://www.thestatesman.com/news/delhi/visually-impaired-teacher-seeks-normal-life-partner/169088.html
He said marriage between disabled and normal persons is an 'effective'
way to incorporate the differently abled into the mainstream and end
discrimination. Yogesh Chaurasia, 42, an assistant professor of
political science at DU's Maitreyi College is still unmarried as he
has turned down several proposals of marrying differently abled girls
in his quest to get a physically normal life partner. "If I marry, I
will marry a normal girl," he stressed. Chaurasia said society acts
with an 'orthodoxical' and 'prejudiced' mindset as it easily gives
sanction to matrimonial ties between two normal persons but looks down
upon marriage of a normal person with a disabled one.

"I had vehemently refused to accept several proposals of marriage with
physically disabled or visually impaired girls. I turned down many
such proposals in the past and I am really annoyed at and bewildered
by those who approach me with such proposals," said Yogesh. He said he
has no reservations in marrying a physically disabled girl but wants
to set an example that physical disability cannot be the cause of
'rejection' and 'neglect' of a person. He said there is no support
from his family members either who also cannot think 'out of box',
"Even my parents are of the view that I should marry a disabled girl,
but it's my personal view that marriages between differently abled and
normal persons will help in bringing Divyangs into mainstream of
society," said Chaurasia.

"Physically disabled persons are also human beings and have desires
similar to those of normal persons. Sometimes I have a strong urge to
have a life partner but I have diverted all my energy into academics,"
said Yogesh. He said many 'normal' men pretend to be blind only to
have girls sympathising with them. "Many normal persons pretend to be
blind in metros , buses and public places and only look for
opportunity to inappropriately touch or feel young girls who come to
their aid out of sympathy, this has maligned the image of blind people
and girls now look at all blind persons suspiciously”, he said.
Sympathy, no love "Most people help us out of sympathy but there is no
element of love in it. Sympathy cannot be misunderstood for love,"
said the professor.

"By sympathising with us you make us feel that as if we are some
helpless creatures but we want to tell that we are also human beings
who are desirous of love and not sympathy," said Yogesh. Another
teacher said society should shun its prejudices and ould encourage
those who want to marry 'out of box'. "In my view marriage between a
disabled and normal person should be encouraged, as it will help in
bringing them into mainstream and increase their acceptability," said
DU teacher.


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Doctoral student at Centre for Law and Governance JNU


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