Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
Very well said Nikita! I like the parts of going and asking people what they are wearing and finding out why everyone is complimenting them! Also the social obligation one! Actually there is a lot of arrogance in men blind or not, therefore they are a little worried when it comes to marriage. If you swant to have a successful and happy marriage, you need to learn to become humble! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of nikita vaid Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 11:14 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Hi all, I have been reading this discussion on and off on the move but could finally now get time to share some of my spontaneous thoughts. I would only like to share some of my personal experience as a born blind individual and as a wife of a sighted person. I have been married 3 years now it was a love but more like an arrange marriage. Trust me its no big deal when a blind person getting married to a sighted person. What is more important here is that how the blind person makes his/ her sighted counterpart very comfortable. I am very particular about all the work, house hold responsibility my duty towards my husband and the entire family just as any other sighted laidy is suppose to be. I always ensured that I workout the alternative ways/ arrangements by which my husband should never feel that his wife is any different person and that he is require to take up more responsibility . Its important for a couple to work on captalising upon each other's strengths To tell you frankly, though I cannot see, but majority of the small fights/ nok jhoks between me and my husband is pertaining to keeping the house clean, keeping all the things up to date, including his upto dateness in terms of his dressing where I keep on telling ye thik nahi hai and ye thik hai. Some time he jokeingly asks me also tumhe dikta nahi hai ese mujhe nahi lagta Its important that we as blind person are adequately confident about our selves and having this attitude of blind hai toh kaya hua really helps. In my family, both maiden side as well as in the inlaws side, I am taken as an example for the way I manage my house and also dress up my self. Bhawani ji was mentioning here that we as blind person cannot complement other on their dressing etc. but trust me its not difficult. If you can't complement on a person's - a color of the dress, may be u could complement on her perfume, her handback, jwelry etc if you are able to touch it. 1 very honest trik that I use is if say in my office 1 person is getting complements from other for her looks or dress, from others, I also go up to her and tell her that mam I am feeling good and happy that a lot of people are complementing you today I am sure u r looking good, can u describe the color of your dress to me if you don't mind, I am sure this is suiting you very much. There are ways to do so. And by and large people also realize that it may not always be possible for you being blind to complement them always. Many a times, just by touching, I tell my mother in-law. mummy this saree is good or this saree is not as good as your that saree so you change it. And to tell you, when ever my husband is going for an important meeting or occasion, its me who actually choose his clothes from the cubbord He also understands me but empathizes rather than sympathizing with me. One important thing I feel that we as blind individuals must be very rigid about and ensure that in no situation our sighted counter part should be under this impression that he has done a social obligation, or a great favor by marrying a blind person. Trust me if we are really confident and free from all fears, we are just no different and the opposite person has to understand this else he / she does not deserves us. I will keep on sharing my thoughts in this discussion no on. Thanks and warm Regards, Nikita V. Raut, Senior Manager [HR] Baroda Corporate Center, Bank of Baroda, On 7/1/14, Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in wrote: These days very few young people look for permission to marry! So there is nothing much you can do if your son wants to marry anyone! My current
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
Nikita, I would have shouted and jumped with joy had you been giving a speech! I confess that before reading your email I had little ideas how can a blind woman become a perfect life partner for a sighted man. You are superb, madam! I salute you and your rigid spirit of doing the impossible! -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of nikita vaid Sent: 01 July 2014 11:14 To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Hi all, I have been reading this discussion on and off on the move but could finally now get time to share some of my spontaneous thoughts. I would only like to share some of my personal experience as a born blind individual and as a wife of a sighted person. I have been married 3 years now it was a love but more like an arrange marriage. Trust me its no big deal when a blind person getting married to a sighted person. What is more important here is that how the blind person makes his/ her sighted counterpart very comfortable. I am very particular about all the work, house hold responsibility my duty towards my husband and the entire family just as any other sighted laidy is suppose to be. I always ensured that I workout the alternative ways/ arrangements by which my husband should never feel that his wife is any different person and that he is require to take up more responsibility . Its important for a couple to work on captalising upon each other's strengths To tell you frankly, though I cannot see, but majority of the small fights/ nok jhoks between me and my husband is pertaining to keeping the house clean, keeping all the things up to date, including his upto dateness in terms of his dressing where I keep on telling ye thik nahi hai and ye thik hai. Some time he jokeingly asks me also tumhe dikta nahi hai ese mujhe nahi lagta Its important that we as blind person are adequately confident about our selves and having this attitude of blind hai toh kaya hua really helps. In my family, both maiden side as well as in the inlaws side, I am taken as an example for the way I manage my house and also dress up my self. Bhawani ji was mentioning here that we as blind person cannot complement other on their dressing etc. but trust me its not difficult. If you can't complement on a person's - a color of the dress, may be u could complement on her perfume, her handback, jwelry etc if you are able to touch it. 1 very honest trik that I use is if say in my office 1 person is getting complements from other for her looks or dress, from others, I also go up to her and tell her that mam I am feeling good and happy that a lot of people are complementing you today I am sure u r looking good, can u describe the color of your dress to me if you don't mind, I am sure this is suiting you very much. There are ways to do so. And by and large people also realize that it may not always be possible for you being blind to complement them always. Many a times, just by touching, I tell my mother in-law. mummy this saree is good or this saree is not as good as your that saree so you change it. And to tell you, when ever my husband is going for an important meeting or occasion, its me who actually choose his clothes from the cubbord He also understands me but empathizes rather than sympathizing with me. One important thing I feel that we as blind individuals must be very rigid about and ensure that in no situation our sighted counter part should be under this impression that he has done a social obligation, or a great favor by marrying a blind person. Trust me if we are really confident and free from all fears, we are just no different and the opposite person has to understand this else he / she does not deserves us. I will keep on sharing my thoughts in this discussion no on. Thanks and warm Regards, Nikita V. Raut, Senior Manager [HR] Baroda Corporate Center, Bank of Baroda, On 7/1/14, Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in wrote: These days very few young people look for permission to marry! So there is nothing much you can do if your son wants to marry anyone! My current husband's family were very against our marriage... but he ran away from home to marry me! Then in ten days all was well and now the family loves me perfectly! You just have to accept your children marrying anyone. The idea is to let them live out and find out. Just be there with them and there is a better chance of marriages to last if youngsters take responsibility of choosing their partners! You find partners for them... there is bound to be trouble at every spot! Because you will always be to blame for all the little/big things that may go wrong! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
partners for them... there is bound to be trouble at every spot! Because you will always be to blame for all the little/big things that may go wrong! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Ravindra Jadhav Sent: Saturday, June 28, 2014 5:10 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Ashida madam, Sorry for delayed reply due to my occupation. If my son interested to marry with blind girl. Really I will give the permission to him. I assured this is a white line of the black stone. On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners you are absolutely right, exception can not be a rule. -Original Message- From: ishita kapoor Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 2:40 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners First of all, I am against
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
Avinash, Let me try to answer from my prospective... We girls like to have a handsome man around! I would look at someone tall and well built with a fit and clean body... no bad body smells! Someone with a kind voice, gentel manners, sencitive outlook, chivalrous and intelligent, someone who can control his temper, does not fall into alcohol at a drop of a hat... no unnecessary flattering, keeps his hands in control, is a good dancer and can partner with me, can treat women as equals and has guts to keep his commitments! Girls, have you anything to add to this list? I think we should take this opportunity to educate our blind men as to what we may like them to be like? And mind you guys, sighted girls also would love these attributes in you! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of avinash shahi Sent: Sunday, June 29, 2014 2:04 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Pooha I've got something to say about beauty here. Many of my friends representing different genders on campus everyday are exposed to bodily beauty of varying kinds and get enmeshed for hours. But when they see me passing by any unknown persons unperturbed, one or the other often asks me Shahi bhai, how do you perceive beauty since you don't know how one does look like? 'What about your sixth sense how does it get activated'? I just cool them by invoking different interpretations of beauty from blind man's perspective. I enlighten them by causing surprise to them. You know how? Beauty lies in cuddling, it is found in one's tongue, it is well-captured from one's sublime personhood consisting of lows-and highs. They retort back 'come on gentlemen don't be too philosophical. Then the biggest arm starts yearning to be deployed, And I cunningly deploy it. Hello!? Your notion of beauty is racist from its very foundation, its temporary, lacks conviction, bound to fade one's she/he hits forty five and so on. And my notion of beauty is matured, duration guaranteed, it accords full recognition to the other one and simply more humanistic. Discussion ends there on such high note... I'd be glad to know how women with blindness perceive beauty in others? On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
These days very few young people look for permission to marry! So there is nothing much you can do if your son wants to marry anyone! My current husband's family were very against our marriage... but he ran away from home to marry me! Then in ten days all was well and now the family loves me perfectly! You just have to accept your children marrying anyone. The idea is to let them live out and find out. Just be there with them and there is a better chance of marriages to last if youngsters take responsibility of choosing their partners! You find partners for them... there is bound to be trouble at every spot! Because you will always be to blame for all the little/big things that may go wrong! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Ravindra Jadhav Sent: Saturday, June 28, 2014 5:10 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Ashida madam, Sorry for delayed reply due to my occupation. If my son interested to marry with blind girl. Really I will give the permission to him. I assured this is a white line of the black stone. On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
, June 28, 2014 5:10 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Ashida madam, Sorry for delayed reply due to my occupation. If my son interested to marry with blind girl. Really I will give the permission to him. I assured this is a white line of the black stone. On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners you are absolutely right, exception can not be a rule. -Original Message- From: ishita kapoor Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 2:40 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners First of all, I am against of playing such a big gamble with my life. I really don't believe that a non disable can willingly marry a disable person. If he or she doesn't get proper match in non disable world then only he or she will consider disable partner. Or if a the non disable is poor or uneducated and disable earns handsomely then the possibility of acceptance is there. Though exceptions must be there. After all marriage is question of entire life which has nothing to do with charity. i am failed to understand why we all are eager to marry non disable? my father won't allow my sighted, smart and educated brother to marry a blind girl willingly even my brother will not think in his dream to marry blind girl. so please accept reality and enjoy life. On 6/27/14, Shadab Husain shadab...@gmail.com wrote: Don't be anxious. Play the game. You've the chance to win. On 6/27/14, bhawani shankar verma bsvermad...@gmail.com wrote: ofcourse it is a gamble. -Original Message- From: Ravindra Jadhav Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:47 AM To: AccessIndia: a list
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
Dear Pooha I've got something to say about beauty here. Many of my friends representing different genders on campus everyday are exposed to bodily beauty of varying kinds and get enmeshed for hours. But when they see me passing by any unknown persons unperturbed, one or the other often asks me Shahi bhai, how do you perceive beauty since you don't know how one does look like? 'What about your sixth sense how does it get activated'? I just cool them by invoking different interpretations of beauty from blind man's perspective. I enlighten them by causing surprise to them. You know how? Beauty lies in cuddling, it is found in one's tongue, it is well-captured from one's sublime personhood consisting of lows-and highs. They retort back 'come on gentlemen don't be too philosophical. Then the biggest arm starts yearning to be deployed, And I cunningly deploy it. Hello!? Your notion of beauty is racist from its very foundation, its temporary, lacks conviction, bound to fade one's she/he hits forty five and so on. And my notion of beauty is matured, duration guaranteed, it accords full recognition to the other one and simply more humanistic. Discussion ends there on such high note... I'd be glad to know how women with blindness perceive beauty in others? On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners you are absolutely right, exception can not be a rule. -Original Message- From: ishita kapoor Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 2:40 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners First of all, I am against of playing such a big gamble with my life. I really don't believe that a non disable can willingly marry a disable person. If he or she doesn't get proper match in non disable world then only he or she will consider
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
A girl in her teens and 20s has a deep and urgent yearning to be praised. We're very well overlooking the fact that though we can't see her, we can listen to her voice, praise her joyful tone, bashfulness, excitement, fear, frankness, suppressed smiles and several expressions felt by the ears. See what perfume she wears and never miss to praise it or gift her the perfume or creams or shampoo you like. Feel her (you know?) the sense of touch and shower praises on her. They're damn flattered if someone praises their hair. How well she cooks, walks (many can make out the way of walking by footsteps: are they light? Heavy? Rapid? Slow?) We can be great admirers of women and can easily flatter them. bring them flowers, chocolates or whatever they're excited about. But never feel that you're substituting for your eyes. Just love your wife and enjoy and overlook her small mistakes and forgive big ones but don't do it because of helplessness. A gent knows how to make his woman happy! -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of avinash shahi Sent: 29 June 2014 14:04 To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners Dear Pooha I've got something to say about beauty here. Many of my friends representing different genders on campus everyday are exposed to bodily beauty of varying kinds and get enmeshed for hours. But when they see me passing by any unknown persons unperturbed, one or the other often asks me Shahi bhai, how do you perceive beauty since you don't know how one does look like? 'What about your sixth sense how does it get activated'? I just cool them by invoking different interpretations of beauty from blind man's perspective. I enlighten them by causing surprise to them. You know how? Beauty lies in cuddling, it is found in one's tongue, it is well-captured from one's sublime personhood consisting of lows-and highs. They retort back 'come on gentlemen don't be too philosophical. Then the biggest arm starts yearning to be deployed, And I cunningly deploy it. Hello!? Your notion of beauty is racist from its very foundation, its temporary, lacks conviction, bound to fade one's she/he hits forty five and so on. And my notion of beauty is matured, duration guaranteed, it accords full recognition to the other one and simply more humanistic. Discussion ends there on such high note... I'd be glad to know how women with blindness perceive beauty in others? On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
Ashida madam, Sorry for delayed reply due to my occupation. If my son interested to marry with blind girl. Really I will give the permission to him. I assured this is a white line of the black stone. On 6/27/14, pooja poojamittal8...@gmail.com wrote: there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training -Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting - Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners you are absolutely right, exception can not be a rule. -Original Message- From: ishita kapoor Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 2:40 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners First of all, I am against of playing such a big gamble with my life. I really don't believe that a non disable can willingly marry a disable person. If he or she doesn't get proper match in non disable world then only he or she will consider disable partner. Or if a the non disable is poor or uneducated and disable earns handsomely then the possibility of acceptance is there. Though exceptions must be there. After all marriage is question of entire life which has nothing to do with charity. i am failed to understand why we all are eager to marry non disable? my father won't allow my sighted, smart and educated brother to marry a blind girl willingly even my brother will not think in his dream to marry blind girl. so please accept reality and enjoy life. On 6/27/14, Shadab Husain shadab...@gmail.com wrote: Don't be anxious. Play the game. You've the chance to win. On 6/27/14, bhawani shankar verma bsvermad...@gmail.com wrote: ofcourse it is a gamble. -Original Message- From: Ravindra Jadhav Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:47 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested inmarryingblindpartners means marage is one type of gamble and about life patner? Now
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople intrestedinmarryingblindpartners
there are two aspects theoretical and practical. in theory, it is supposed that we should marry a man/woman not blind/sighted. no one is perfect so yes there will be one or another issue which can dissatisfy you. so everyone is equal from marriage point of view. but in practical terms, no matter how successful you are, blindness is our unique identity as it can be cast or religion in the sighted's case. I think in arrange marriages we can't even think to marry a sighted of equal status. as far as love marriages are concern, the success ratio is declining rapidly in case of both sighted partners also. I think feelings doesn't last long in tough ground realities. if you can afford the resources to compensate your blindness, then it can work. one tough reality is even a successful blind man/woman don't want to marry a blind then how can we expect a sighted to do so? in our blind field, we know each other so we can adjust bit easily. blind men can't appreciate women's beauty, and sighted men can't satisfy with the household work easily. I know acceptions are everywhere. usually blind want to Mary a sighted because of accessibility problems or say like helper kind of thing. but it doesn't come true for long. so don't think of a sighted intentionally, if it happens automatically in some cases, then its ok. don't apply on you. -- From: Preeti Monga preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:29 PM To: 'AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerningthedisabled.' accessindia@accessindia.org.in Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeopleintrestedinmarryingblindpartners One needs to step out of ones comfort zone... only then there is a chance of actually living life to its fullest! It is not the best idea to remain a frog of the same well for life, when there is such a big wide world out here! Every experience, good or bad, only enriches your life quality! It also gives you a chance to explore and to grow and evolve! I wonder why do we want rules for marriages Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training –Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting – Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of bhawani shankar verma Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 3:14 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issuesconcerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners you are absolutely right, exception can not be a rule. -Original Message- From: ishita kapoor Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 2:40 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrestedinmarryingblindpartners First of all, I am against of playing such a big gamble with my life. I really don’t believe that a non disable can willingly marry a disable person. If he or she doesn’t get proper match in non disable world then only he or she will consider disable partner. Or if a the non disable is poor or uneducated and disable earns handsomely then the possibility of acceptance is there. Though exceptions must be there. After all marriage is question of entire life which has nothing to do with charity. i am failed to understand why we all are eager to marry non disable? my father won't allow my sighted, smart and educated brother to marry a blind girl willingly even my brother will not think in his dream to marry blind girl. so please accept reality and enjoy life. On 6/27/14, Shadab Husain shadab...@gmail.com wrote: Don't be anxious. Play the game. You've the chance to win. On 6/27/14, bhawani shankar verma bsvermad...@gmail.com wrote: ofcourse it is a gamble. -Original Message- From: Ravindra Jadhav Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 10:47 AM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerningthe disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normel people intrested inmarryingblindpartners means marage is one type of gamble and about life patner? Now really I am very ancious what will happen in my future. On 6/27/14, bhawani shankar verma bsvermad...@gmail.com wrote: also take note that you can't throw this lottery ticket even if you lose it! -Original Message- From: Neeraj Singh Sent: Friday, June 27, 2014 9:15 AM To: AccessIndia: a list
