Re: [lace] lace Tools

2008-02-19 Thread Carol Adkinson

Hello All,

Daphne's post made me think of one of Tupperware's gadgets, which has been 
adapted for lace use! Many years ago, I hosted a Tupperware party, and 
was given, amongst other things, for my trouble, a miniature of one of their 
lidded poly salad saver thingys.It was attached to a keyring, but as I 
wasn't a lacemaker at the time, I had no idea what to do with it - but, when 
I became a fully-paid-up, addicted lacemaker, I melted the beeswax into it, 
and it now lives in my lace box, ready for pricking action at all times.


Carol - in Suffolk UK

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Sent: Monday, February 18, 2008 7:15 PM
Subject: [lace] lace Tools



A little brush made by Avon, which is very good for brushing pillows.



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Re: [lace] Lacemakers Helpers, kind of!

2008-02-19 Thread Carol Adkinson

Hello Jenny et al,

I was very lucky some years ago!I worked for ICI, who make film for all 
sorts of uses, and was able to purchase several whole boxes of the film - 
these will work on a home computer/printer, and are invaluable!I have 
worked loads of the Debbie Moller initials and, as they are worked so that 
they are the right way up, I photocopied all of them onto the film, turned 
them the other way up, and photocopied them all so that they are worked, so 
that what you are looking at is the rear view.The finishing off can be 
done so that it doesn't show on the right e, so I am a great believer in the 
photocopying film!


Carol - in Suffolk UK

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I go to the photocopy shop and get them to make a copy on normal paper and 
another copy of photocopiable acetate.  You can then turn over the acetate 
copy and place it over a plain piece of paper and prick that for the 
second half of the pattern. 


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Re: [lace] Re: lacemaking helpers

2008-02-19 Thread Anneke Reijs

Jo wrote:
scrapbook spines to keep the bobbins in a row 


What a smart idea! I will try the scrapbook spine this afternoon. I am 
working on my Withof pianorunner and for the keys I need lots of bobbins!


Anneke Reijs

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[lace] Errata (was: Mat pricking)

2008-02-19 Thread J. Falkink
Being just a happy user I would recommend LibraryThing to register errata
and other details about (lace) books.
The site lets you link messages to books and the other way arround. See for
example 
http://www.librarything.com/work/1190846/conversations
http://www.librarything.com/talktopic.php?topic=19113
If every spider would just catalog a handfull of books not yet catalogued by
someone else, and tag these books with lace, bobbin lace, tatting or
whatever is apropriate... We would get a giant bibliogragpy on lacebooks.
With easy access to anything any of us has to tell about these books. 
Other advantages of the site: 
- Creating an account is as easy as siging in, no questions asked, not even
an email address
- If you catalog all you books and follow group discussions, the system
signals for you wether you have the book in discussion. So you can see at a
glance you might be able to answer questions.
A disadvantage: to catalog more than 200 books you'll have to pay a fee. 
 
 I've been working on the pattern 'Manuela' from the book 
 Ristnippu by the Lace Study Group Manuela.  I ran into a snag 
 when I arrived at the '11:00 o'clock'
 scallop on page 8 - I took it back three times and finally 
 counted dots - the pricking has one too many dots!  I'll be 
 prepared for the next time I come to it :)  I just thought 
 this might save someone else some trouble.
 
 Jane
 in Owen Sound Ontario

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RE: [lace] Re: lacemaking helpers

2008-02-19 Thread J. Falkink
Don't overlook a detail: I used it on a bolster pillow, not on a flat one
http://www.xs4all.nl/~falkink/lace/hang-EN.html
But if anyone also sees its use on a flat pillow I'd be curious.

 Jo wrote:
 scrapbook spines to keep the bobbins in a row 
 
 
 What a smart idea! I will try the scrapbook spine this 
 afternoon. I am working on my Withof pianorunner and for the 
 keys I need lots of bobbins!
 
 Anneke Reijs

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Re: [lace] swinging young lacemakers

2008-02-19 Thread David in Ballarat

Dear Anneke,


I love that boy's attitude - that's exactly how I make my lace - 
especially the whack on the thigh!! :)

David in Ballarat



Last week, our two youngest grandchildren (both 9 years old) were over for a
couple of days and wanted to have a try at lacemaking.
They finished a snail and have now started on a mouse!
They loved the lacemaking and did not even have time to get dressed. And all
the time they were listening to swinging music!
I simply had to get my camera and video them!

If you want to see it:

http://nl.youtube.com/watch?v=eSMfRepZAB0


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[lace] Re: lacemaking helpers

2008-02-19 Thread Joy Beeson

On 2/17/08 10:28 PM, Tamara P Duvall wrote:


Yours, still trying to figure out (8 weeks later) some
lacy use for scissors with a semi-circle taken out of one
blade... The doctor did some snipping with them and then
said here, want them? They'll only throw them away. So
I took them, but still don't know what the advantage is
(or might be)


Circle cutters are good for trimming claws, but I gather 
that you haven't any claws.


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FW: [lace] Re: lacemaking helpers

2008-02-19 Thread Daphne Martin
Sorry Joy. I sent to you by mistake. DaphneNorfolk England


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I would just like to add my two pen`th.You mentioned that the doctor did some
snipping.There`s your answer.The half circle is to lift a thread so it can be
cut.  DaphneNot foggy today Norfolk England

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helpers  On 2/17/08 10:28 PM, Tamara P Duvall wrote:   Yours, still
trying to figure out (8 weeks later) some  lacy use for scissors with a
semi-circle taken out of one  blade... The doctor did some snipping with
them and then  said here, want them? They'll only throw them away. So  I
took them, but still don't know what the advantage is  (or might be) 
Circle cutters are good for trimming claws, but I gather  that you haven't
any claws.  --  Joy Beeson http://joybeeson.home.comcast.net/
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[lace] Raffle

2008-02-19 Thread Alix Hengen
Dear Alessandra,

Your package arrived this moning, thank you.

The lavori a fuselli is just what I thougt it will be a lot of easy
pattern to work and relax a pause betwen 2 bigger and mor challenging
projects.

The Ricamo was an extra surprise, I have never seen one in a shop and it
is delightfull, full of white embroderie and punto antico, just what I
like. 

My list with things I want to do has grown a bit longer today.

Thank you and best regards

Alix
from cold and sunny Luxembourg.

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[lace] Display of lace

2008-02-19 Thread Lindy Taylour

What wonderful tips for lacemakers.  Thank you all for great ideas.

Now can anyone tell me the name of a sort of film which can be attached to a 
wall or board and used to display lace?  I am not sure if it is sticky (I 
imagine not) but it is easy to place and remove the lace.  Someone was 
talking about it at our last Lace Day and did not know any more details.


I am sure one of you well-informed and helpful spiders can help!

Many thanks

Lindy in cold and frosty Ireland 



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Re: [lace] thread divider

2008-02-19 Thread Joy Beeson

On 2/18/08 7:44 AM, Brenda Paternoster wrote:


Personally I use two small pieces of card.  I stand on
the landing and allow the skein to dangle freely over the
stairs then divide the plies as required then
simultaneously wind the two parts onto the separate
cards.


I used to separate one-ounce skeins of persian -- a
three-strand wool embroidery thread -- by pulling out a few
yards, tying a half-hitch around the skein, then dropping it
out a second-floor window.  (Windless day preferred!)  I'd
grab two strands with one hand and one strand with the
other, spread my arms apart, wait for the skein to stop
spinning, then pile the separated threads on the floor
behind me, repeat until I had the skein in hand again, pull
more yarn out of the skein.  Sometimes the half-hitch
slipped, and I'd have to go downstairs and around the house
to tie the skein on again.

If the cat is kept out of the room, and if you keep track of
which end was last down, it's quite easy to wind a skein or
ball from a pile on the floor.  But this is not a job to
start when you might be interrupted!  (I had a
more-elaborate scheme involving keeping the piles of yarn in
baggies that could be clothespinned out of the cats' reach
for separating four-ounce skeins.)

The whole procedure had to be repeated for the two-strand
pile, once it had been re-skeined.


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Re: [lace] Display of lace

2008-02-19 Thread clayblackwell
Lindy asked...
 Now can anyone tell me the name of a sort of film which can be attached to a 
 wall or board and used to display lace? I am not sure if it is sticky (I 
 imagine not) but it is easy to place and remove the lace. Someone was 
 talking about it at our last Lace Day and did not know any more details. 

Quilters use a design wall to arrange blocks before sewing them together.  This 
is made with a heavy-weight flannel, and it holds the light-weight pieces of 
fabric without pins or adhesives.  I am sure it would work very well for lace 
too.

The fabric for design walls is sold in quilt shops and by mail order (google 
quilting supplies).  It comes in various sizes.  I think it's always a 
natural color, but could probably be dyed, but you'd have to be sure the 
color was set so it doesn't bleed onto the lace.

I'd be judicious about where I would use this kind of display.  There is an 
advantage to having the lace attached to the display surface!! (It will not 
walk away as easily!!)

Clay

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[lace] separating embroidery thread

2008-02-19 Thread Janice Blair
I was taught to separate six stranded embroidery thread the following way:

Unwind the skein along the floor, or down a staircase, or in my case, hang it 
over the second floor balcony in my family room.  Hold one end of the skein 
loosely in the palm of your hand  with the ends between your thumb and first 
finger.  Take one single thread end and pull on it.  You can wind this onto a 
card.  The other threads tend to bunch up under your closed hand and 
occasionally you will need to straighten it out.  Once you have done one thread 
you can continue to do as many as you need for your purposes.

Janice


Janice Blair
Crystal Lake, 50 miles northwest of Chicago, Illinois, USA
www.jblace.com
http://www.lacemakersofillinois.org/
www.landoflincolnlacemakers.com  Check convention news here for daily 
teacher/class info updates!!

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Re: [lace] separating embroidery thread

2008-02-19 Thread bevw
I use this method but only for the length of strand that I'm going to use -
because I only do bobbin lace with embroidery floss, linen and/or cotton
(never embroidery, I don't like it), I cut off a generous 2-armslength 6-ply
strand, isolate one ply and gentle tug it from the mass, allowing the other
5 strands to bunch in a loose rosette, and yes, like Janice mentioned,
within the closed hand. I stop from time to time to straighten the rosette
or else I'll get knots. Repeat for the remaining strands. I learned the hard
way that pulling two strands together almost always results in knots and a
frayed temper (mine), so best when wanting two plies to recombine them
afterwards. I store the separated strands in small ziplock bags if they
aren't going onto bobbins right away.

The DMC mouliné metallise skeins separate almost willingly into strands. I
tie a small firm overhand knot at the ends of the strands asap, to prevent
the single strand from coming apart.

On Feb 19, 2008 11:55 AM, Janice Blair [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:

 I was taught to separate six stranded embroidery thread the following way:

 Unwind the skein along the floor, or down a staircase, or in my case, hang
 it over the second floor balcony in my family room.  Hold one end of the
 skein loosely in the palm of your hand  with the ends between your thumb
and
 first finger.  Take one single thread end and pull on it.  You can wind
this
 onto a card.  The other threads tend to bunch up under your closed hand and
 occasionally you will need to straighten it out.  Once you have done one
 thread you can continue to do as many as you need for your purposes.


--
Bev  (near Sooke, BC on beautiful Vancouver Island, west coast of Canada)

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[lace] Re: Holding short threads

2008-02-19 Thread Clive Betty Rice
Gentle Spiders,

I have just returned from Radio Shack.  The name of the small clips we have 
discussed to hold short ends of thread is: (Drum roll, Please)

Mini Test Clip Adapters  For testing miniature components. Fits over standard 
test clips.
Item no. 270-334B  Pkg. of 2   $3.49

Happy Lacemaking,
Betty Ann in Roanoke, Virginia USA

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Re: [lace] Re: Holding short threads

2008-02-19 Thread bevw
Thank you for the research in the field.
Adapters as shown here?
http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2062221cp

On Feb 19, 2008 1:10 PM, Clive  Betty Rice [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:

 Gentle Spiders,

 I have just returned from Radio Shack.  The name of the small clips we
 have discussed to hold short ends of thread is: (Drum roll, Please)

 Mini Test Clip Adapters  For testing miniature components. Fits over
 standard test clips.
 Item no. 270-334B  Pkg. of 2   $3.49


-- 
Bev  (near Sooke, BC on beautiful Vancouver Island, west coast of Canada)

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[lace] lace Lace tools

2008-02-19 Thread Daphne Martin
Hello
I have remembered another useful tool.
Tiny butterfly clips for your hair. Very good for holding metallic threads on
bobbins. DaphneNorfolk England
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Re: [lace] Re: Holding short threads

2008-02-19 Thread clayblackwell
Yep!  They're the ones!

Clay

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From: bevw [EMAIL PROTECTED] 

 Thank you for the research in the field. 
 Adapters as shown here? 
 http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2062221cp 
 
 On Feb 19, 2008 1:10 PM, Clive  Betty Rice wrote: 
 
  Gentle Spiders, 
  
  I have just returned from Radio Shack. The name of the small clips we 
  have discussed to hold short ends of thread is: (Drum roll, Please) 
  
  Mini Test Clip Adapters For testing miniature components. Fits over 
  standard test clips. 
  Item no. 270-334B Pkg. of 2 $3.49 
  
  
 -- 
 Bev (near Sooke, BC on beautiful Vancouver Island, west coast of Canada) 
 
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[lace] Re: Holding short threads

2008-02-19 Thread Clive Betty Rice
You got it!  Thats what we've been talking about.

Betty Ann

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From: bevw [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Thank you for the research in the field.
Adapters as shown here?
http://www.radioshack.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2062221cp

On Feb 19, 2008 1:10 PM, Clive  Betty Rice [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote:
Gentle Spiders,

I have just returned from Radio Shack.  The name of the small clips we have 
discussed to hold short ends of thread is: (Drum roll, Please)

Mini Test Clip Adapters  For testing miniature components. Fits over standard 
test clips.
Item no. 270-334B  Pkg. of 2   $3.49

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Re: [lace] separating embroidery thread

2008-02-19 Thread Dora Smith
Not quite following; does there have to be one proper way to separate 
embroidery floss?


To be honest, I always cut it first, then separate it - far easier that way. 
You have to hold it up so that it can unwind as it pulls apart.   If you 
just yank on it you end up with a bunched tangle halfway through.


Besides, what if you separate the whole skein, and then find out that the 
number of strands you need per stitch changes?


Yours,
Dora Smith
Austin, TX
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Subject: [lace] separating embroidery thread



I was taught to separate six stranded embroidery thread the following way:

Unwind the skein along the floor, or down a staircase, or in my case, hang 
it over the second floor balcony in my family room.  Hold one end of the 
skein loosely in the palm of your hand  with the ends between your thumb 
and first finger.  Take one single thread end and pull on it.  You can 
wind this onto a card.  The other threads tend to bunch up under your 
closed hand and occasionally you will need to straighten it out.  Once you 
have done one thread you can continue to do as many as you need for your 
purposes.


Janice


Janice Blair
Crystal Lake, 50 miles 




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[lace] Dancing bobbinlacers on You Tube

2008-02-19 Thread Hendrika van Kooten
After seeing the grand's of Anneke Reijs doing the Bobbinlace pajama dance on
You tube I decided to share  a little lace
story with the list
For 11 years I attended International Lacecamp  on Manitoulin Island Canada
,which is  a good six hours + drive from where I live
( or alteratively four hours driving and two on a ferryboat )
In 2002 Several Lacemakers who also regularly attend International  Lacecamp,
and who live within a reasonable distance from myself,  decided to get
together for Lacemaking ,other than once a year at International Lacecamp
,this resulted  in the formation of the Simcoe County Lacemakers,and therefor
I sign off my Arachne postings  Member of Simcoe County Lacemakers Simcoe
County township of Springwater Canada
In 2006 an e-mail arrived from Anneke Reijs who lives in the province of
Limburg in the Nethelands, inquiring if I lived near a town where she and her
DH intended to spend the summer, which we do.
Soon more e-mails were exchanged and when   Anneke and her husb.came to spend
the summer in  Simcoe County we enjoyed a most pleasant visit,
Anneke is  a  student  and friend of sister Judith de Kreijger and   the
author of the Sluis Withof  Duchesse Lace Manuals,
b.t.w. Anneke's DH told methat in the days  Anneke was writing the
manuals she spend so much time wtth sister Judith for to gather material for
the manuals, he began to wonder if  Anneke had entered the convent. g
It  is of note  that Sister Judith celebrated her  92 nd birthday   in 2007
 Anneke's webpage and information on the Sluis Withof Duchesse manuals can be
found at  http://www.lokk.nl   click on links  andWebsites van LOKK
kringen / Leden
While vacationing in Ontario Canada in 2006, Anneke attended the Simcoe County
Lacemakers Laceday   and gave a very informative talk on Sluis Withof Duchese
Laces ,and in  2007 while in Canada,she attended another Simcoe County
Lacemakers Laceday , held to celebrate the 5th anneversary of the Simcoe
County Lacemakers .
How nice that being on Arachne has woven a web of friendship between Anneke
Reijs in the Netherlands and the Simcoe  County  Lacemakers in Ontario Canada
Hoping to see you at Laceday again Anneke,  meanwhile whenever possible, keep
those grandchildren , bobbinlacing and dancing .

Hendrika
Member Simcoe County Lacemakers township of Springwater
Ontario Canada

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[lace-chat] seat belts

2008-02-19 Thread Sue
I am thanking god that my daughter in law is so strict about my three
grandchildren 7,4 and 19months being on their booster seats and baby
chair and securely strapped in because on Saturday they were in a
horrific car smash and got knocked across the road into a lampost. Donna
her mum and the three children got minor cuts and have quite severe
bruising of the face and body but they are alive and well but very
shocked.  The air ambulance, ambulance and hospital were all marvellous
and we thank them all. 
 
Count your blessings, I just have
 
Sue M Harvey
Norfolk UK

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Re: [lace-chat] seat belts

2008-02-19 Thread Beth Schoenberg
It's amazing how suddenly these things happen.  Your family are very lucky!

When my nephew was barely 2, in the bad old days before seat-belt laws 
and child-safety seats, he was riding on his mother's lap in the back 
seat of their sedan when the car was hit in a side-on collision.  No-one 
was hurt beyond bruises, thankfully, but Raymond can still tell us about 
the time the car goes boom.  And he's always been a very careful 
driver in his adult life.

I taught my own children, from the time when their little hands could 
manage the hardware, to buckle themselves in to their seats properly, 
and  I double-checked them on every trip until they were about 5 or 6.  
My sons took to it beautifully, and I never had a problem -- I think it 
gave them a sense of power and grown-up-ness to comply.  My daughter, 
however, was made in a different mould (she still is...!), and saw it as 
excessive authoritarianism, and fought the seat-belt from the day she 
could squirm.  One day, when she was 3, I got a phone call from school 
-- my little kindergartener was sick and needed to come home. Anxious, 
distracted, I put DD and her baby brother in the car, clipped the baby 
in and didn't check *her* belt -- zipped out of the driveway and up the 
hill to discover she was unbelted.   And the argument began.  By then, 
we were on a narrow country road, no shoulders or turn-offs, and I was 
racking my brain trying to think of a place I could safely pull over, 
when I realized that I'd reached the T intersection that led to the 
school:  there was a stop-sign there, and a little slope down to it.  So 
I let the car go a little faster than I should have, then jammed on the 
brakes.  She had been in her seat but unbelted, and she, with her seat 
and all, went tumbling into the back of my seat.  No hurt at all, not 
even a bruise, but the scream of outrage from her almost made me laugh.  
I was able to pull over shortly after the turn, and belted her in with a 
*huge* scold, as logical as I could make it in her terms.

I think this might have been the first time I told any of my kids 
something that their father and I repeated many times in the years to 
come:  The rules are there for a REASON.  You may not like the rules, 
but if you have problem with them, ask what the reason for them is 
before you go breaking them! You just might decide it's better to obey 
the rules instead!  As they got older, we added more details to this 
maxim, suitable for their ages, but the basic message now gets repeated 
back to us!

But my daughter always buckled her belt, and correctly, after that.  
These days, at age 22, she still doesn't drive. I do hope there's no 
connection!  (sigh)

We were very lucky that it only needed a simple lesson like this to 
teach them well.  I can only imagine and sympathize with what you and 
your son and DIL are feeling right now.  Ah, well, every family needs 
its stories, and this one could have been so much worse.  Best wishes 
for you all!

Beth Schoenberg
--- in sunny and warm downtown Kambah, Canberra


Sue wrote:
 I am thanking god that my daughter in law is so strict about my three 
 grandchildren 7, 4 and 19 months being on their booster seats and baby
 chair and securely strapped in because on Saturday they were in a horrific 
 car smash and got knocked across the road into a lampost. Donna
 her mum and the three children got minor cuts and have quite severe bruising 
 of the face and body but they are alive and well but very
 shocked.  The air ambulance, ambulance and hospital were all marvellous and 
 we thank them all. 
  
 Count your blessings, I just have.
  
 Sue M Harvey, Norfolk UK

   

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