Re: [QUAD-L] No Respect
Excellent -- thank you, Dan. That's the kind of input I need. I'll get on that right now. I couldn't agree more. Thanks again! Nick
Re: [QUAD-L] No Respect
The words. To find out how YOU can make lots of money always point me to the exit - fast. Those words have been misused and associated to MLMs and pyramids for lots of years. AZDAVE In a message dated 6/6/2010 11:15:41 A.M. US Mountain Standard Time, dangerwo...@san.rr.com writes: Does this sound better? Welcome to... DANGERWOOD'S CLASSIFIED ADS AVAILABLE IMMEDIATELY! TWO JOBS AVAILABLE. JOB NUMBER ONE GREAT OPPORTUNITY! MAN or STRONG WOMAN or couple to help take care of paralyzed (quadriplegic) man, 53, in San Diego (Rancho Bernardo) home on golf course in great neighborhood. WILL TRAIN. I AM AN UPBEAT, ENTERTAINING FORMER COMEDIAN/BARTENDER. SALARY PAID BY IHSS. MUST QUALIFY FOR IHSS TO RECEIVE SALARY. CAREGIVER POSITION INCLUDES LOTS OF BENEFITS! REQUIREMENTS: • PATIENCE, PATIENCE AND MORE PATIENCE. • POSITIVE ATTITUDE • NO CRIMINAL BACKGROUNDS. • CLEAN DMV. • MUST OWN VEHICLE! • GOOD REFERENCES. • MUST SPEAK FLUENT ENGLISH. • NO LAZY PEOPLE!!! JOB NUMBER TWO ALSO, WELL-PAYING MARKETING JOB AVAILABLE SELLING ADVERTISING SPACE WWW.SURVIVINGPARALYSIS.COM DURING YOUR SPARE TIME. GREAT POTENTIAL FOR EXTRA INCOME. To find out how YOU can make lots of money selling advertising space, e-mail dangerwo...@san.rr.com. In the subject column, write MARKETING JOB. E-MAIL FOR DETAILS: dangerwo...@san.rr.com • SERIOUS APPLICANTS ONLY! - Original Message - From: _Dan_ (mailto:d...@unh.edu) To: _quad-l...@eskimo.com_ (mailto:quad-list@eskimo.com) Sent: Saturday, June 05, 2010 2:24 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] No Respect Hi Nick, Right off the bat, I would say your ad is way too long and -- more importantly -- your ad is mostly about perks. It's sort of like giving a dog a treat before he does the trick. And I always keep my ads very short and to the point. My ad goes something like this: male quadriplegic looking for assistance with daily needs. No experience required. Salary is X dollars per hour. Free rent a possibility. When I read your ad, all I could think about were the perks. To me this is a sure way to get deadbeats. Also, I would have a separate ad for the moneymaking aspect, i.e. working for your website. To be frank, and I know it isn't, but that part of your ad sounds like a money making scheme. And, unless your agency requires it, I would leave out the age range. I've hired people that were 18 and were great PCA's. Or you might want someone recently retired. That way, you know they at least have a work ethic. Finally, salary is the key. Everything else is secondary. Once you set up an interview and you like the person or persons, then you can mention the perks. Also, I would not push the moneymaking part. I would only mention this part after they were hired and working for awhile. One very wise person told me when I was first hiring PCA's that never hire someone that wants to help you out -- always hire someone that really needs the money. Over the last 30 years, I've found that to be very true. So that's my $25. Hope some of it might be worth thinking about. Dan At 04:15 PM 6/5/2010, Steve Crowder said something that elicited my response: [See the attached file] ?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office / I haven't been here in a while because I'm always so busy, but I always come back when I am in dire need of answers -- Mike I am right now. All my caregivers treat me like shit -- I mean horribly -- because they know I can't get anybody else in here right away. I don't understand it. Please read my ad and tell me what I'm doing wrong. I put a link to it on my website, so you only need to go here: _http://www.survivingparalysis.com/contentpage.php?content_id=79_ (http://www.survivingparalysis.com/contentpage.php?content_id=79) . I don't know where else to go. Does anyone have any advice for me? Do you go through this yourself with your caregivers? I'm high maintenance because I have scoliosis and have to get rolled a lot, but other than that, I am one of the nicest guys around. I have a great home, cable -- you name it, I've got it -- everything short of a swimming pool. By the way, I'm looking for writers for my magazine if anyone's interested. The address is: _Www.SurvivingParalysis.com_ (http://www.survivingparalysis.com/) . Should I be advertising in any different publications or areas? It's never been IT'S difficult to find you are Thanks, Nick Danger _Www.SurvivingParalysis.com_ (http://www.survivingparalysis.com/)
Re: [QUAD-L] No Respect
I hope I'm not the only one offering suggestions. This one is much better. However, if possible I would completely separate the two jobs. Instead of saying job number one and job number two, I would just state them separately. Is there a reason why you need a strong person? How do you transfer? If you transfer with a lift you really need a strong person? I always state the pay rate in my ads. I'd pay fairly well so that in itself is an incentive. I don't know what your finances are put in the state only pays minimum wage if possible you might want to add a few dollars more an hour. I've made some comments in your requirements section. Also, here is a copy of one of my ads. HELP WANTED: Helper for disabled person. $X per hour. Full or part-time. No experience needed. Easy work. Great boss :) For more information call Dan @ . At 02:14 PM 6/6/2010, Steve Crowder said something that elicited my response: Does this sound better? Welcome to... DANGERWOOD'S CLASSIFIED ADS AVAILABLE IMMEDIATELY! TWO JOBS AVAILABLE.?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office / JOB NUMBER ONE GREAT OPPORTUNITY! MAN or STRONG WOMAN or couple to help take care of paralyzed (quadriplegic) man, 53, in San Diego (Rancho Bernardo) home on golf course in great neighborhood. WILL TRAIN. I AM AN UPBEAT, ENTERTAINING FORMER COMEDIAN/BARTENDER. SALARY PAID BY IHSS. MUST QUALIFY FOR IHSS TO RECEIVE SALARY. CAREGIVER POSITION INCLUDES LOTS OF BENEFITS! (This line might be confusing to some people. Thinking benefits might mean: medical insurance, paid leave, holiday pay, etc. if it was me, I would leave it out.) REQUIREMENTS: PATIENCE, PATIENCE AND MORE PATIENCE. I would replace this with: A good sense of humor. POSITIVE ATTITUDE Everyone thinks they have a positive attitude! NO CRIMINAL BACKGROUNDS. CLEAN DMV. Aren't these two covered by IHSS? MUST OWN VEHICLE! GOOD REFERENCES. MUST SPEAK FLUENT ENGLISH. I'm on the fence with this one. I know what you mean. I've had people call answering my ad and I can barely understand them. So that's when I tell them the jobs already been taken. I just think it sounds kind of harsh especially when it's all caps. NO LAZY PEOPLE!!! And nobody, even the laziest, think they are lazy. JOB NUMBER TWO ALSO, WELL-PAYING MARKETING JOB AVAILABLE SELLING ADVERTISING SPACE WWW.SURVIVINGPARALYSIS.COM DURING YOUR SPARE TIME. GREAT POTENTIAL FOR EXTRA INCOME. To find out how YOU can make lots of money selling advertising space, e-mail dangerwo...@san.rr.com. In the subject column, write MARKETING JOB. E-MAIL FOR DETAILS: dangerwo...@san.rr.com SERIOUS APPLICANTS ONLY! I think Dave nailed this one. So, what do the rest of you guys think? Dan - Original Message - From: mailto:d...@unh.eduDan To: mailto:quad-list@eskimo.comquad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Saturday, June 05, 2010 2:24 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] No Respect Hi Nick, Right off the bat, I would say your ad is way too long and -- more importantly -- your ad is mostly about perks. It's sort of like giving a dog a treat before he does the trick. And I always keep my ads very short and to the point. My ad goes something like this: male quadriplegic looking for assistance with daily needs. No experience required. Salary is X dollars per hour. Free rent a possibility. When I read your ad, all I could think about were the perks. To me this is a sure way to get deadbeats. Also, I would have a separate ad for the moneymaking aspect, i.e. working for your website. To be frank, and I know it isn't, but that part of your ad sounds like a money making scheme. And, unless your agency requires it, I would leave out the age range. I've hired people that were 18 and were great PCA's. Or you might want someone recently retired. That way, you know they at least have a work ethic. Finally, salary is the key. Everything else is secondary. Once you set up an interview and you like the person or persons, then you can mention the perks. Also, I would not push the moneymaking part. I would only mention this part after they were hired and working for awhile. One very wise person told me when I was first hiring PCA's that never hire someone that wants to help you out -- always hire someone that really needs the money. Over the last 30 years, I've found that to be very true. So that's my $25. Hope some of it might be worth thinking about. Dan At 04:15 PM 6/5/2010, Steve Crowder said something that elicited my response: [] [] ?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office / I haven't been here in a while because I'm always so busy, but I always come back when I am in dire need of answers -- Mike I am right now. All my caregivers treat me like shit -- I mean horribly -- because they know I can't get anybody else in here right away. I don't understand it. Please read my ad and tell me what I'm
[QUAD-L] Quad Belly
My quad belly seems to be growing no matter what I do. It looks like if you poked me I would pop. I'm not over weight, fairly skinny arms and legs. I've been working out and watching what I eat. I feel like I'm pushing my stomach out trying to make myself look pregnant. But my belly is getting uncomfortable, when I try to bend forward, etc. I wish those Ab Belts that shock your muscles to tighten would work, but I heard they don't. It would be great if a doc could just go in there and tie every thing back up. I feel like all my inside stuff is lowering out of place. Even my abdomen binder does not help hold things in place. Greg
Re: [QUAD-L] My Dilemma
Glenn Henry, thank you for replying to my question. I really appreciate you dissecting my e-mail and answering in portions. That helped me a great deal. I have decided not to have the surgery. It is too invasive for me. As of the present. I am not having any major health issues, and I would like to keep it that way. I feel that, if I have this surgery. I'll just have all types of problems afterwards. It's not like it's reversible, and I can just change it back. if I start having a problem. Forty-four years with an indwelling catheter is a long time. That's the longest I've ever heard of anyone keeping a catheter. I'm sure you must have been devastated, when the doctor told you, you had cancer. Thank God for His interventions. I am so glad that you did not have cancer, and that you decided to get a second opinion. If I was still thinking about having the surgery, I would have gotten a second opinion, also. Thanks again for replying. Glenn Henry, thank you for replying to my question. I really appreciate you dissecting my e-mail and answering in portions. That helped me a great deal. I have decided not to have the surgery. It is too invasive for me. As of the present. I am not having any major health issues, and I would like to keep it that way. I feel that, if I have this surgery. I'll just have all types of problems afterwards. It's not like it's reversible, and I can just change it back. if I start having a problem. Forty-four years with an indwelling catheter is a long time. That's the longest I've ever heard of anyone keeping a catheter. I'm sure you must have been devastated, when the doctor told you, you had cancer. Thank God for His interventions. I am so glad that you did not have cancer, and that you decided to get a second opinion. If I was still thinking about having the surgery, I would have gotten a second opinion, also. Thanks again for replying. Naomi. C-4 quad due to Transverse Myelitis since July 2, 2005 -Original Message- From: gah17...@aol.com To: ladyno...@aol.com; quad-list@eskimo.com Sent: Wed, Jun 2, 2010 2:44 pm Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] My Dilemma In a message dated 5/17/2010 6:31:56 P.M. Central Daylight Time, ladyno...@aol.com writes: I am a C-4 quad with an indwelling Foley catheter. I have had an indwelling catheter for 44 years. In the 1960s it was the only way to go. I am a male, and my urethra has eroded severely. My urologist says that my urethra is eroding, and suggests I have a procedure called a urostomy. . I would do a lot of research before I make any decisions. Five years ago I went to a urologist, he was smart and cocky and told me that he knew that he would find tumors and bladder cancer. People just don't live 47 years with out big problems. Well, needless to say after he examined me one of the areas biopsied came back low malignancy potential and he informed me that I had cancer. We were scared, but God intervened and I feel my life was saved. He wanted me to have a urostomy and my bladder was to be removed. The next day I got very ill, he wanted to speed things along, but I felt that my symptoms were that of AD. He said there was no way and I immediately started to see red flags. I called for a second opinion, the urologist said there was no hurry and that I should go to John Hopkins urology department. That is exactly what I did. After meeting with the number two man in the department, he recommended viewing the biopsy slides and we were to return in three weeks. I returned and the first thing he said is I have good news, you do not have cancer. He saw no reason for me to not use the catheter. He performed a procedure called Urodynamic, which measures the amount of urine your bladder can hold. Mine is holding less than an ounce of urine.. Mine holds about the same. So now he wants to remove my bladder, and make me a new one using part of my small intestine. During this procedure, both ureters are relocated, a new bladder is made, and urine as directed from the body through a stoma in the abdomen, which connects to a bag that adheres to the skin. I am going to the hospital on Tuesday to have an MRI, to make sure that it's safe for me to have this procedure because I also have Crohn's disease and disturbing my small intestine, may cause my Crohn's to flareup (which is a very terrible thing). . One Big issue is UTI's and with this procedure name may be more prevalent. My dilemma is this: I have to choose between having this very invasive surgery, and all of that may come after it including infection from many sources, including the new bladder, ureter relocation, the stoma, and skin irritation from the adhesive for the bag, and not to mention the Crohn's flareup Or. I can wear incontinent briefs. I also had problems getting wet when I went to the hospital. Since I has gone to using 2 ditropan 5mg each day morning and evening, and started to take two tablets
