Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
Let me share my thoughts as a growing adult on the issue of sighted vs. blind. Choosing a blind partner: Many of us do have these doubts as to whether a blind partner would be better than a sighted partner or not. To my mind, the difference is in the fact that having a blind partner would make things easy to the extent of your understanding of the issues concerning the blindness. So, in case of a sighted person you may need to work with them for example to not to change the place of the things frequently as that may cause a little discomfort in your daily work. And the disability related issues will need to be explained to him. Which are not required to be done in case of a blind partner at that basic level. But that does not mean that you will have a better compatebility. That has got nothing to do with disability per se. It also depends how well you can play your role in that other partner's life. I have seen many blind people arguing for a sighted partner just because they think that their challenges of life will be over. That type of dependence to my mind is not good for a married life. Remember, he is your companion not a servant or assistant. Choosing a Sighted: Many sighted do not give a deep thought on the issues concerning marrying a blind partner of course when that initial resistance of others is over once they decide that they themselves have no mental blocks in getting a blind partner. Its only at the later stage when people realize that its a lifetime battle as regards the answering the society, or anything else for that matter. At that stage both need to act sensibally. For example, I would never like to listen if my wife happens to be sighted at a later stage in life that she made a mistake by choosing a blind partner. That can only happen if I continue to play my active role, and I am not over dependent on her. The only consequence of having a blind partner which to my mind is that how can you as a male partner ensure her safety and security. And I am not saying that all blind females who have blind husbands are unsafe or unsecured. Its just offering that comfort. And of course some additional challenges like teaching your kids subjects like Science where you yourself have the weak background, which may need to be tackled appropriately. Now as far as convincing a sighted partner is concerned: First and foremost, I am of the opinion that do not try everyone and anyone. Spend proper time, and then understand really is it what you are looking for? Forget be it blind or sighted. Second, I quite agree with Rajesh sir and Shadab bhaiya's views of being yourself and having your other qualities at its best which can then open a window for detailed and deep discussion. Disability related challenges need to be discussed not only between the individuals but also at the family level to avoid complications if any. If you have a decent earning prospects and a decent life wherein you are capable of upbringing your family well, then it is not as big problem as we see getting a sighted partner also. Again to emphasise, the only important aspect is to discuss the disability related challenges at the beginning itself to avoid issues in future. Nikita diii is just one exceptional example. maintaining yourself as a girl of that kind despite blindness also is a big thing to happen! But of course city, education, family and all plays a big role in that personality with which one comes out as an individual. Regards, -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
Great example Bhawani sir. How did your brother handle the education part? I think socialization is also an important factor. Not many blind people socialize also beyond their community of course. Anyways these are just my concerns. Regards, -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
Friends When the issue of compatibility is considered key in creating conducive climate for couple's career, better professional background should be given the utmost priority while finding partner. It can work well in arrange marages, but in love? nothing can be surmised and all happens at one go. either you swim or you sink... but Ideally, we blind people should also seek partners from the same professional background. For example, I'd be glad to live my marital life with someone who should also belong to academics and preferably from disability studies. So my disability issues will be taken care of before hand... On 7/1/14, Amar Jain amarjain2...@gmail.com wrote: Let me share my thoughts as a growing adult on the issue of sighted vs. blind. Choosing a blind partner: Many of us do have these doubts as to whether a blind partner would be better than a sighted partner or not. To my mind, the difference is in the fact that having a blind partner would make things easy to the extent of your understanding of the issues concerning the blindness. So, in case of a sighted person you may need to work with them for example to not to change the place of the things frequently as that may cause a little discomfort in your daily work. And the disability related issues will need to be explained to him. Which are not required to be done in case of a blind partner at that basic level. But that does not mean that you will have a better compatebility. That has got nothing to do with disability per se. It also depends how well you can play your role in that other partner's life. I have seen many blind people arguing for a sighted partner just because they think that their challenges of life will be over. That type of dependence to my mind is not good for a married life. Remember, he is your companion not a servant or assistant. Choosing a Sighted: Many sighted do not give a deep thought on the issues concerning marrying a blind partner of course when that initial resistance of others is over once they decide that they themselves have no mental blocks in getting a blind partner. Its only at the later stage when people realize that its a lifetime battle as regards the answering the society, or anything else for that matter. At that stage both need to act sensibally. For example, I would never like to listen if my wife happens to be sighted at a later stage in life that she made a mistake by choosing a blind partner. That can only happen if I continue to play my active role, and I am not over dependent on her. The only consequence of having a blind partner which to my mind is that how can you as a male partner ensure her safety and security. And I am not saying that all blind females who have blind husbands are unsafe or unsecured. Its just offering that comfort. And of course some additional challenges like teaching your kids subjects like Science where you yourself have the weak background, which may need to be tackled appropriately. Now as far as convincing a sighted partner is concerned: First and foremost, I am of the opinion that do not try everyone and anyone. Spend proper time, and then understand really is it what you are looking for? Forget be it blind or sighted. Second, I quite agree with Rajesh sir and Shadab bhaiya's views of being yourself and having your other qualities at its best which can then open a window for detailed and deep discussion. Disability related challenges need to be discussed not only between the individuals but also at the family level to avoid complications if any. If you have a decent earning prospects and a decent life wherein you are capable of upbringing your family well, then it is not as big problem as we see getting a sighted partner also. Again to emphasise, the only important aspect is to discuss the disability related challenges at the beginning itself to avoid issues in future. Nikita diii is just one exceptional example. maintaining yourself as a girl of that kind despite blindness also is a big thing to happen! But of course city, education, family and all plays a big role in that personality with which one comes out as an individual. Regards, -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
My idea of asking was never to convey that all parents who are blind their children would become criminal. I just wanted to understand as too how do parents with blindness deal with such challenges. I have also seen cases where because of blindness one parent is considered less important in house after a point of time. And I have also seen cases where both blind parents have not been able to give adequate education to their children. But of course, that is not to say that all do the same. So if you and others can come out of their instant emotional reactions, then I can get a proper answer. The idea is not to defame anyone. Its just to understand the technicalities. Regards, -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
Also a good idea I think. But there should a few more thoughts on this one, like matching values! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of avinash shahi Sent: Tuesday, July 01, 2014 9:32 PM To: AccessIndia: a list for discussing accessibility and issues concerning the disabled. Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners Friends When the issue of compatibility is considered key in creating conducive climate for couple's career, better professional background should be given the utmost priority while finding partner. It can work well in arrange marages, but in love? nothing can be surmised and all happens at one go. either you swim or you sink... but Ideally, we blind people should also seek partners from the same professional background. For example, I'd be glad to live my marital life with someone who should also belong to academics and preferably from disability studies. So my disability issues will be taken care of before hand... On 7/1/14, Amar Jain amarjain2...@gmail.com wrote: Let me share my thoughts as a growing adult on the issue of sighted vs. blind. Choosing a blind partner: Many of us do have these doubts as to whether a blind partner would be better than a sighted partner or not. To my mind, the difference is in the fact that having a blind partner would make things easy to the extent of your understanding of the issues concerning the blindness. So, in case of a sighted person you may need to work with them for example to not to change the place of the things frequently as that may cause a little discomfort in your daily work. And the disability related issues will need to be explained to him. Which are not required to be done in case of a blind partner at that basic level. But that does not mean that you will have a better compatebility. That has got nothing to do with disability per se. It also depends how well you can play your role in that other partner's life. I have seen many blind people arguing for a sighted partner just because they think that their challenges of life will be over. That type of dependence to my mind is not good for a married life. Remember, he is your companion not a servant or assistant. Choosing a Sighted: Many sighted do not give a deep thought on the issues concerning marrying a blind partner of course when that initial resistance of others is over once they decide that they themselves have no mental blocks in getting a blind partner. Its only at the later stage when people realize that its a lifetime battle as regards the answering the society, or anything else for that matter. At that stage both need to act sensibally. For example, I would never like to listen if my wife happens to be sighted at a later stage in life that she made a mistake by choosing a blind partner. That can only happen if I continue to play my active role, and I am not over dependent on her. The only consequence of having a blind partner which to my mind is that how can you as a male partner ensure her safety and security. And I am not saying that all blind females who have blind husbands are unsafe or unsecured. Its just offering that comfort. And of course some additional challenges like teaching your kids subjects like Science where you yourself have the weak background, which may need to be tackled appropriately. Now as far as convincing a sighted partner is concerned: First and foremost, I am of the opinion that do not try everyone and anyone. Spend proper time, and then understand really is it what you are looking for? Forget be it blind or sighted. Second, I quite agree with Rajesh sir and Shadab bhaiya's views of being yourself and having your other qualities at its best which can then open a window for detailed and deep discussion. Disability related challenges need to be discussed not only between the individuals but also at the family level to avoid complications if any. If you have a decent earning prospects and a decent life wherein you are capable of upbringing your family well, then it is not as big problem as we see getting a sighted partner also. Again to emphasise, the only important aspect is to discuss the disability related challenges at the beginning itself to avoid issues
Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners
Please remember the answer that I found, if you have read my last posting, is Lead by Example! If you can diligently do that properly and honestly, then there is absolutely no problem. Incidentally, I am the blind parent, and my children even today, know that it is the mom they need to keep in good humer and all will be well! So don't worry, children are the true reflection of what we have made of them by setting examples! Usually, we have all the lecturing and correcting for our children, when in the true sense, we are doing exactly the opposite in our own actions! Then, we are sending out completely conflicting messages to them. And mind you, this holds true for even toddlers and very small children. We feel they dont understand, but it is the exact opposite! Preeti Preeti Monga Director Mobile: +91 9871701646 Landline: 011 22781446 E-mail: preeti.mo...@silver-linings.co.in Website: www.silver-linings.co.in ; www.silver-linings.org Our Services: Executive Search - Specializing in Head Hunting. Training Motivation; Stress Management; Soft Skill; Behavioral. Gifting Corporate ; Promotional; Events. End to end CSR Advisory; including demystifying workshops and counseling. Printing Solutions, Incentive Travel and Marketing Data Mining / Refining.. We assure high quality service marked with excellence and complete customer centricity, forming Synergies as we go along. -Original Message- From: AccessIndia [mailto:accessindia-boun...@accessindia.org.in] On Behalf Of Amar Jain Sent: Wednesday, July 02, 2014 10:31 AM To: accessindia Subject: Re: [AI] my quriyocity are normelpeople interested in marrying blind partners My idea of asking was never to convey that all parents who are blind their children would become criminal. I just wanted to understand as too how do parents with blindness deal with such challenges. I have also seen cases where because of blindness one parent is considered less important in house after a point of time. And I have also seen cases where both blind parents have not been able to give adequate education to their children. But of course, that is not to say that all do the same. So if you and others can come out of their instant emotional reactions, then I can get a proper answer. The idea is not to defame anyone. Its just to understand the technicalities. Regards, -- Amar Jain. Website: www.amarjain.com Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessind ia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list.. Register at the dedicated AccessIndia list for discussing accessibility of mobile phones / Tabs on: http://mail.accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/mobile.accessindia_accessindia.org.in Search for old postings at: http://www.mail-archive.com/accessindia@accessindia.org.in/ To unsubscribe send a message to accessindia-requ...@accessindia.org.in with the subject unsubscribe. To change your subscription to digest mode or make any other changes, please visit the list home page at http://accessindia.org.in/mailman/listinfo/accessindia_accessindia.org.in Disclaimer: 1. Contents of the mails, factual, or otherwise, reflect the thinking of the person sending the mail and AI in no way relates itself to its veracity; 2. AI cannot be held liable for any commission/omission based on the mails sent through this mailing list..
