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Just found a new company. Well, don't know how new they really are but I never heard of them. Very specific guidelines, scientific approach. May take an hour to fill out questionnaire. I do not agree with their assessment of me, makes me sound like a milksop, which I'm not. But some things are right on, which is obvious from some of the questions. Since it's free right now couples could fill it out and view each others profiles. http://www.eharmony.com Kevin T. - VRWC ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Kevin Tarr wrote: Just found a new company. Well, don't know how new they really are but I never heard of them. Very specific guidelines, scientific approach. May take an hour to fill out questionnaire. I do not agree with their assessment of me, makes me sound like a milksop, which I'm not. But some things are right on, which is obvious from some of the questions. Since it's free right now couples could fill it out and view each others profiles. http://www.eharmony.com They advertise on Dr. Laura. The ad I've heard had 3 different women talking about how they found their husbands there. How did they make you sound like a milksop? I don't think I have time to fill out the questionnaire any time this week if it's going to take that long. What does obstreperousness mean? Oh, wait, I found it in the dictionary Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 06:40 PM 2/11/2003 -0600, you wrote: Kevin Tarr wrote: Just found a new company. Well, don't know how new they really are but I never heard of them. Very specific guidelines, scientific approach. May take an hour to fill out questionnaire. I do not agree with their assessment of me, makes me sound like a milksop, which I'm not. But some things are right on, which is obvious from some of the questions. Since it's free right now couples could fill it out and view each others profiles. http://www.eharmony.com They advertise on Dr. Laura. The ad I've heard had 3 different women talking about how they found their husbands there. How did they make you sound like a milksop? I don't think I have time to fill out the questionnaire any time this week if it's going to take that long. What does obstreperousness mean? Oh, wait, I found it in the dictionary Julia Damn you Julia! (Massively joking). I reexamined my profile and found it was mostly on. The two or three I don't like are more true than I want to admit. It really is a good profile. I'm just wondering what others think, if it matches their ideas of themselves. I heard the commercial on a different show. Would you say it's targeted towards women or men?* If towards women, is it because they need to compel women to join, while men will automatically, they need the women to make it even? If the commercial had three guys saying they found their wives, would it appeal to you more or less? *It could work on two levels, it would appeal directly to women, while a man can hear it and think 'I'll join because there will be women joining' Kevin T. - VRWC Psychology and sociology were my third favorite subjects. A quick look at starting wages changed that. ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Kevin Tarr wrote: Damn you Julia! (Massively joking). I reexamined my profile and found it was mostly on. The two or three I don't like are more true than I want to admit. It really is a good profile. I'm just wondering what others think, if it matches their ideas of themselves. Maybe if I get some time later this week, or sometime next week, I'll take it and see what I think of it. I heard the commercial on a different show. Would you say it's targeted towards women or men?* If towards women, is it because they need to compel women to join, while men will automatically, they need the women to make it even? If the commercial had three guys saying they found their wives, would it appeal to you more or less? *It could work on two levels, it would appeal directly to women, while a man can hear it and think 'I'll join because there will be women joining' I don't know who the target is, but using women is probably more effective in targeting both genders than using men would be. Women are probably more attracted to women talking about how they found this great guy than hearing a guy talk about how he found this great woman (more likely to trust the woman). I don't know how using men vs. using women would work for men. You tell me, you're more of an expert there. :) Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Jose J. Ortiz-Carlo wrote: On a final note, one of my closest, highly specific and discerning friends finally went looking online last fall, and after only 10 minutes at a christian dating site she found her man (who ironically is someone I knew through work). They're getting married next month! Ticia ',:) -- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Which site? Enquiring minds... ;-) JJ Some Dutch Christian forum. Ticia ',:) -- [EMAIL PROTECTED] ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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On a final note, one of my closest, highly specific and discerning friends finally went looking online last fall, and after only 10 minutes at a christian dating site she found her man (who ironically is someone I knew through work). They're getting married next month! Ticia ',:) -- [EMAIL PROTECTED] Which site? Enquiring minds... ;-) JJ _ Protect your PC - get McAfee.com VirusScan Online http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963 ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Jon Gabriel wrote: From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] On Behalf Of Jean-Louis Couturier At 23:31 2003-01-28 -0500, Damon wrote: I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Damon. Félicitations! Welcome to the club : we're having a blast. Jean-Louis Hey! Congratulations Damon Welcome to the Fellowship of the Ring. :) Been married 10 months and couldn't be happier. :-) Jon Us too! Around valentine's it'll be 9 months, and we couldn't be happier either. :)) What distinguished my man from others was his non-flirty approach, he was genuinely interested in me and shared stories of his family, his background, etc. We started out as friends and once we met offline had so much fun together we ended up falling in love anyway. And ironically his approach seemed to work in the write-back stakes, he got a 90% response whereas others on the same site complained of barely getting 5%. But there's something to be said for the flirty approach as well. It can get very interesting. ;) I actually have quite a bit of experience with online dating, just not much time to write it all up for you right now. The key is to be discerning, always remain friendly/ polite, and *persevere*. See the form-posting and online sifting procedures as just another way of separating corn from the flour (is that the expression?), to get to that starting point of seeing whether you get along mentally and physically (= attraction). Most couples (on of offline) form on the basis of two items: attraction and availability. So there's nothing wrong with starting with your basics all matched up: availability, location, height, equal attraction level (looks and earnings), religion, procreational wishes, smoking/ drinking, and family background. You'll have a way higher chance of hitting your jackpot than approaching a random stranger on the street/ at a bar/ party/ whatever. And if you subscribe to a serious e-dating agency, filled with people genuinely looking for a life partner, then the positive intent and attitude will be there, as well. You have to remain careful fo course, but you won't likely be stuck with a rebound / unready/ emotionally screwed up lover. And you'll have pre-selected all the issues that seem important to you, and if you're wise also a location near you. LDR's (long distance relationships) are *very* hard to maintain. If at all possible, avoid them. There's plenty of fish in the sea near you. :) On a final note, one of my closest, highly specific and discerning friends finally went looking online last fall, and after only 10 minutes at a christian dating site she found her man (who ironically is someone I knew through work). They're getting married next month! Ticia ',:) -- [EMAIL PROTECTED] ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 01:46 AM 2/6/2003 -0500, you wrote: Can I add some experience, which has nothing to do with dating but the process? I'm logged onto two internet sites. The one site is popular, but some of the things I want to limit, don't limit my search options. I have a number one criteria, which it does limit by, yet I've been contacted by women whose answers didn't meet this limit, or worse lied and then admitted to me the truth after a few e-mails. I will say for my number two criteria, I listed what I am, but didn't limit my search to it because I don't care about that quality in them as long as they can accept my point of view. Ok here's a question...how on earth did you get contacted when the ONLY contact I EVER got was someone saying my ad was very nice (and she still wasn't interested in getting to know me...). I had ads on EVERY major dating server, complete with picture and very detailed description. I NEVER got replies (except for the one above)!?! It came to a point where I thought the only way I could get a date was by being a cocky d***head, like the many other guys I see with women. I'm glad that fate and fortune dictated otherwise... Damon, catching up on e-mail... There's so many reasons. It could be age, geographical, what my profile said. Kevin T. ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Ticia wrote: I actually have quite a bit of experience with online dating, just not much time to write it all up for you right now. The key is to be discerning, always remain friendly/ polite, and *persevere*. See the form-posting and online sifting procedures as just another way of separating corn from the flour (is that the expression?), Do you mean separating the wheat from the chaff? :) Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Ticia wrote: May be due to what you write them. Do you come on too strong? Tell too much about yourself? (I once got this huge bio of a man who claimed it was for sifting purposes. Not one word about my profile or why he had chosen me to write to. And really, you don't want to know every detail and insecurity about a person before you've even met them). I heard about a guy who met a woman briefly one evening; e-mail addresses were exchanged. He was looking for a partner, but not in a terribly effective way. Early in the e-mail exchange (or late, depending on how you look at it!), the woman asked him the simple question, What is your name? because he hadn't given it when they met, and *still* hadn't given it. Instead of an, Oops, sorry, it's John or whatever, he wrote something like 2 screens of tirade about how it was this asking about *petty* details that was going to leave her partner-less, that he didn't have *time* for that sort of trivia. (But apparently he had time to write 2 screens worth of lambasting.) That was pretty much the end of it. As far as RL stuff goes, the same source told me about being hit upon by the same guy in different incidents 6 months apart. Both times his pick-up line was, Wanna go out for some coffee? (So she referred to him as Mr. Coffee when relating the tale.) The second time he tried this on her, it was at a party at her boyfriend's house, and he had no memory of the first incident. *Not* the way to impress that particular person. :P Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Julia Thompson wrote: Ticia wrote: I actually have quite a bit of experience with online dating, just not much time to write it all up for you right now. The key is to be discerning, always remain friendly/ polite, and *persevere*. See the form-posting and online sifting procedures as just another way of separating corn from the flour (is that the expression?), Do you mean separating the wheat from the chaff? :) Yeah, what she said. :) Talking of dating sites, there happens to be an article about them in this month's InStyle magazine, they recommend the following: - flirt.com (not very relationship-minded), - hypermatch.com (matches using algorythms, charts compatibilities), - lavalife.com (hip), - match.com (4 million profiles, largest of its kind), - matchmaker.com (detailed essays, onsite mailbox), - ecrush.com (for posting secret crushes), - yournovel.com (alternative to dating, you can cast yourself in a personalized romance novel). Ticia ',:) -- [EMAIL PROTECTED] ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Can I add some experience, which has nothing to do with dating but the process? I'm logged onto two internet sites. The one site is popular, but some of the things I want to limit, don't limit my search options. I have a number one criteria, which it does limit by, yet I've been contacted by women whose answers didn't meet this limit, or worse lied and then admitted to me the truth after a few e-mails. I will say for my number two criteria, I listed what I am, but didn't limit my search to it because I don't care about that quality in them as long as they can accept my point of view. Ok here's a question...how on earth did you get contacted when the ONLY contact I EVER got was someone saying my ad was very nice (and she still wasn't interested in getting to know me...). I had ads on EVERY major dating server, complete with picture and very detailed description. I NEVER got replies (except for the one above)!?! It came to a point where I thought the only way I could get a date was by being a cocky d***head, like the many other guys I see with women. I'm glad that fate and fortune dictated otherwise... Damon, catching up on e-mail... Damon Agretto [EMAIL PROTECTED] Qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum. http://www.geocities.com/garrand.geo/index.html Now Building: Revell's Tiger Ausf. H ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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In a message dated 1/30/2003 12:25:31 AM Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: I wonder who is the longest married on the list? I'm guessing it might be Jo Anne or Zimmy. Jo Anne? I thought my wife was Ellen and we have been married for 33 years ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 12:59 PM 1/30/2003 +, you wrote: From: Reggie Bautista [EMAIL PROTECTED] Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Date: Wed, 29 Jan 2003 21:48:54 -0600 JJ wrote some stuff about being stalked in Puerto Rico, and at the end of the email: This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net :-) Coqui as in the coqui frog? What a great name for a server! Yep!! I'm surprised that someone on the list knows about the coquis. (Pronounced co-kee). For the uninitiated, the coqui is a little frog, no bigger than half a thumb (scientific name: eleuteriodactylus portoricensis). I have a friend born in Puerto Rico and another who spent a lot of her growing-up years there. The second friend brought me back a pair of coqui earrings on one of her trips back when her parents were still living there. The card with the earrings say that they're life-sized representations; those are nicely tiny frogs. :) Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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From: Julia [EMAIL PROTECTED] Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Date: Fri, 31 Jan 2003 15:24:02 -0600 At 12:59 PM 1/30/2003 +, you wrote: From: Reggie Bautista [EMAIL PROTECTED] Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Date: Wed, 29 Jan 2003 21:48:54 -0600 JJ wrote some stuff about being stalked in Puerto Rico, and at the end of the email: This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net :-) Coqui as in the coqui frog? What a great name for a server! Yep!! I'm surprised that someone on the list knows about the coquis. (Pronounced co-kee). For the uninitiated, the coqui is a little frog, no bigger than half a thumb (scientific name: eleuteriodactylus portoricensis). I have a friend born in Puerto Rico and another who spent a lot of her growing-up years there. The second friend brought me back a pair of coqui earrings on one of her trips back when her parents were still living there. The card with the earrings say that they're life-sized representations; those are nicely tiny frogs. :) Julia Hey, Julia! Nice to know u know coquis.. I forgot to mention this last night. There is a kinda funny story regarding the coqui. Some hawaiians came to Puerto Rico on vacation (why people who live in an island VISIT a tropical island to go on vacation is beyond me, but..) and they took two coquis back to Hawaii. How they got them to pass through Fed customs, I have no idea. To make a long story short, out of the blue, the Honolulu countryside started to feel the effects of a plague of coquis. They multiplied like bunny-wabbits. The noise, for them, was impossible to bear. Last I heard, citizens of Honolulu were going berserk, trying to exterminate the plague of coquis, which were causing some type of ecological damage there. That incident somewhat reminds me of the great tribble hunt quoted by Odo in Tribble-ations. Another case of life imitating scifi.. ;-) JJ Mendicant XSysop _ The new MSN 8: smart spam protection and 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 03:24 PM 1/31/03 -0600, Julia wrote: I have a friend born in Puerto Rico and another who spent a lot of her growing-up years there. The second friend brought me back a pair of coqui earrings on one of her trips back when her parents were still living there. The card with the earrings say that they're life-sized representations; those are nicely tiny frogs. :) Then there's the version you can buy in Arkansas, with a life-size bullfrog on each earring . . . --Ronn! :) I always knew that I would see the first man on the Moon. I never dreamed that I would see the last. --Dr. Jerry Pournelle ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Can I add some experience, which has nothing to do with dating but the process? I'm logged onto two internet sites. The one site is popular, but some of the things I want to limit, don't limit my search options. I have a number one criteria, which it does limit by, yet I've been contacted by women whose answers didn't meet this limit, or worse lied and then admitted to me the truth after a few e-mails. I will say for my number two criteria, I listed what I am, but didn't limit my search to it because I don't care about that quality in them as long as they can accept my point of view. Let's say this site has a four step process. You can do a general search to gather likely candidates, then look closer at an individual, then contact them, and they contact you. I'd like site statistics to be available to show if anyone looked at me individually, but didn't send a message. I mean, if no one is looking at me then why bother? If I'm getting a lot of looks, but no messages, then I need to change my info. (I want to say that I'm honest, maybe a little too honest. After reading the stuff on Salon maybe I should lie to at least get the contact started.)(There was a women who practically described herself as a goddess. Not earth goddess but model type beauty goddess. And she only wanted a man who would match her in looks and intelligence. Now this may be my own insecurities talking, but if you are 24 and look that good, you shouldn't need the internet to find a date.) The few women that I have contacted first, I never got a reply from. Which is fine, but I made sure to reply to any messages I got, even to nicely say 'I'm flattered by the attention, but I'm not interested for this reason' Lastly for the popular site, it's funny the things that get messed up. For some reason I was matched with a women in Pakistan and another in California. For the non-popular site, it was specifically limited to a certain type of person. And none of them live near me, the closest being 200 miles away. Which I know isn't huge, but a little depressing. I think this dating service needs to get it's message out there. It was only by dumb luck that I found them. Summary: so far the farthest I got was five e-mails. But I have not contacted many myself. It has been football season. Kevin T. Four weeks until spring training! ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Jon Gabriel wrote: Please help the language-impoverished what does namoro mean? I'm guessing it's probably 'being in love'? It's the generic genderless term for boyfriendhood and girlfriendhood. I don't know an English translation GSV Refraining from Smart Ass Comments. Don't evil grin Alberto Monteiro ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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From: Reggie Bautista [EMAIL PROTECTED] Reply-To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Date: Wed, 29 Jan 2003 21:48:54 -0600 JJ wrote some stuff about being stalked in Puerto Rico, and at the end of the email: This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net :-) Coqui as in the coqui frog? What a great name for a server! Yep!! I'm surprised that someone on the list knows about the coquis. (Pronounced co-kee). For the uninitiated, the coqui is a little frog, no bigger than half a thumb (scientific name: eleuteriodactylus portoricensis). It's indigenous to Puerto Rico. They exist in really large numbers. The only problem with them, as Reggie mentions, is that at night they sing in unison. The noise they make is by no means no louder than a cricket's; it's actually quite soothing. Well, after you get used to it. ;-) I'm really happy the coquis here never saw the Budweiser frogs commercial. Then they would really get annoying. Whenever I leave P.R., the first thing I notice is the silence at nights. We're so used to the singing of the frogs, that the wall of silence is odd to us. And whenever I talk on the phone with someone from the States, one of the first things they ask is, what's that weird sound?. The noise of the coquis really leaks thru the phone call. :-) I come from a traditional Mexican Roman Catholic family, and one of my sisters was a Sister (nun) from the Sisters, Servants of Mary. She made her final vows at a convent in Puerto Rico in... um... maybe in Mayaguez? Yep. Mayaguez alright. The west coast of the island is very colorful, and the beaches are great. JJ Mendicant XSysop _ Tired of spam? Get advanced junk mail protection with MSN 8. http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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- Original Message - From: Alberto Monteiro [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, January 30, 2003 5:24 AM Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Jon Gabriel wrote: Please help the language-impoverished what does namoro mean? I'm guessing it's probably 'being in love'? It's the generic genderless term for boyfriendhood and girlfriendhood. I don't know an English translation Its roughly equivilent to lover or paramour. xponent Sugarpie Honeybunch Maru rob You are a fluke of the universe. You have no right to be here. And whether you can hear it or not, the universe is laughing behind your back. ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Doug Pensinger wrote: 5 years yesterday. 8^) Awesome! Congratulations. You do anything special? Jim ___ font size=2 face=genevabJoin Excite! - a href=http://www.excite.com target=_blankhttp://www.excite.com/a/b The most personalized portal on the Web!/font ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Jim Sharkey wrote: Doug Pensinger wrote: 25 years yesterday. 8^) Awesome! Congratulations. You do anything special? Thanks! We just had dinner out, but we have a special trip planned for when the weather is more cooperative. Doug ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 11:31 PM 1/28/2003 -0500 Damon wrote: I'd say John's figures are a little skewed IME. I used to do some net dating when I got tired of being desperately lonely. I'd say of all the contacts I made, perhaps 10% actually wrote back, I'm sure that this figure is highly dependent upon how quickly the dating service cleans out inactive profiles. JDG ___ John D. Giorgis - [EMAIL PROTECTED] The liberty we prize is not America's gift to the world, it is God's gift to humanity. - George W. Bush 1/29/03 ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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on 28/1/03 9:10 pm, Alberto Monteiro at [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: I teach a Computer Science course, and I'm asking my students to research on the topic of The Pros and Cons of Online Dating. You mean, pros are the professionals, and cons are the convicts? LOL! I think that about sums it up, Alberto :) -- William T Goodall Mail : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Web : http://www.wtgab.demon.co.uk Blog : http://radio.weblogs.com/0111221/ A bad thing done for a good cause is still a bad thing. It's why so few people slap their political opponents. That, and because slapping looks so silly. - Randy Cohen. ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 23:31 2003-01-28 -0500, Damon wrote: Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Damon. Félicitations! Welcome to the club : we're having a blast. Jean-Louis ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Damon wrote: Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Congratulations, and best of luck. Reggie Bautista 3 1/2 years of marriage as of next week, and counting... :-) _ Help STOP SPAM with the new MSN 8 and get 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] On Behalf Of Jean-Louis Couturier Sent: Wednesday, January 29, 2003 4:17 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... At 23:31 2003-01-28 -0500, Damon wrote: Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Damon. Félicitations! Welcome to the club : we're having a blast. Jean-Louis Hey! Congratulations Damon Welcome to the Fellowship of the Ring. :) Been married 10 months and couldn't be happier. :-) Jon ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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- Original Message - From: Reggie Bautista [EMAIL PROTECTED] To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Wednesday, January 29, 2003 3:36 PM Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Damon wrote: Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Congratulations, and best of luck. Reggie Bautista 3 1/2 years of marriage as of next week, and counting... :-) I wonder who is the longest married on the list? I'm guessing it might be Jo Anne or Zimmy. Teri and I have been married just under 25 years. Dan M. ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Reggie Bautista wrote: 3 1/2 years of marriage as of next week, and counting... :-) Teenager :-) Alberto Monteiro, _14_ years of marriage and 18 years of namoro a few days ago ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Quoting Julia Thompson [EMAIL PROTECTED]: Julia who's never done online dating and not terribly likely to any time in the future, because hey, she found the love of her life in the co-ed college dorm and spent an awful lot of time in his room initially to get away from a somewhat inconsiderate roommate (as opposed to the extremely inconsiderate roommate) Dates in the real world?!?!?! What an alien concept. :-) JJ - This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Alberto, Please help the language-impoverished what does namoro mean? I'm guessing it's probably 'being in love'? Jon GSV Refraining from Smart Ass Comments. -Original Message- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] On Behalf Of Alberto Monteiro Sent: Wednesday, January 29, 2003 5:48 PM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Reggie Bautista wrote: 3 1/2 years of marriage as of next week, and counting... :-) Teenager :-) Alberto Monteiro, _14_ years of marriage and 18 years of namoro a few days ago ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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JJ wrote some stuff about being stalked in Puerto Rico, and at the end of the email: This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net :-) Coqui as in the coqui frog? What a great name for a server! I come from a traditional Mexican Roman Catholic family, and one of my sisters was a Sister (nun) from the Sisters, Servants of Mary. She made her final vows at a convent in Puerto Rico in... um... maybe in Mayaguez? Aguada? I don't remember for sure, but definitely somewhere on the west coast of Puerto Rico. At any rate, my parents and I spent a week there when I was about 12, and we had real trouble sleeping through the night the first couple of nights there because of the coqui frogs. They may be tiny, but in large numbers, they are *loud*. Anyway, thanks for spurring the memory. I hadn't thought about that trip in a long time. :-) Reggie Bautista _ STOP MORE SPAM with the new MSN 8 and get 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 09:56 PM 1/28/2003 -0600 Julia Thompson wrote: Why don't you order chicken wings on a date? Not something I would do anyway (not that fond of wings, but will assist in ordering eating if enough other people at the table want them). Well, for one they are ridiculously unhealthy - and especially if you are quite overweight, it just sets a bad impression on a first date anyways. But the most important reason is simply that they are messy as all heck. The leave sauce all over your fingers, you show a lot of teeth trying to pick the meat off the bones, and the smells hang on your breath. Thus, its just not a way to make yourself as attractive as possible in a first impression. JDG ___ John D. Giorgis - [EMAIL PROTECTED] The liberty we prize is not America's gift to the world, it is God's gift to humanity. - George W. Bush 1/29/03 ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Dan Minette wrote: I wonder who is the longest married on the list? I'm guessing it might be Jo Anne or Zimmy. Teri and I have been married just under 25 years. 25 years yesterday. 8^) Doug ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Hi Jose and welcome to the list. I'm not eligible for your project, but can suggest a possible helpful column. Salon.com recently started a feature called 'match made in heaven, match made in hell' which posts submitted letters on online dating experiences. http://dir.salon.com/topics/match_made_in_heaven_match_made_in_hell/ Jon -Original Message- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED]] On Behalf Of [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Tuesday, January 28, 2003 4:31 AM To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: We Want Your Online Dating Stories... Hi, gang!! Given the mixed nature of the topics in this List, and the possible cumulative knowledge of the members of this list, I thought I'd like to start the following thread... ;-) I teach a Computer Science course, and I'm asking my students to research on the topic of The Pros and Cons of Online Dating. What does that have to do with Computer Science? Well, I like to keep the topics in my class fresh and up-to-date. I like to bring in, from time to time, unusual stuff that you probably can't find in a textbook, but which constitutes an essential part of day-to-day computing. Anyway, this is where I'm going to... * Did you found the love of your life online? Or.. * Do you have an online dating horror story you wish to share? * Do you have advice that you would like to give those poor, young souls that are venturing into the wild frontier of the Internet dating sites? * Have you heard a story and you think it's relevant? Then, by all mean, sound off. I want to be able to share them with my kids. They're High School Seniors. They can handle almost anything. * Incidentally, if anyone out there knows of any particular website that may have information on how Online Dating got started (a history of sorts), I'll appreciate it. My kids and I thank you in advance. JJ Proud Member, Order of the Mendicant X-Sysops - This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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JJ said: * Did you found the love of your life online? Or.. * Do you have an online dating horror story you wish to share? Salon.com have been running several stories like this every week in their Match Made in Heaven, Match Made in Hell series on online dating: http://dir.salon.com/topics/heaven_and_hell/index.html Rich GCU Funny And Touching ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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JJ wrote: I teach a Computer Science course, and I'm asking my students to research on the topic of The Pros and Cons of Online Dating. [snip] * Have you heard a story and you think it's relevant? Then, by all mean, sound off. I had a friend in college who was dating a guy online. She seemed to have a lot of fun with the relationship, and at one point he sent her his picture. It was an almost Hollywood-cute guy. She seemed really excited. I asked her if she though it was really him. She said, I don't really care. It's just an online relationship, I'll never really meet him. Actually, she and I were in a choir together, and our choir did a little tour of the midwest (Kansas, Missouri, Nebraska, Wyoming, and Colorado). At one point on the tour, everyone was supposed to write a limerick about someone else in the choir. Mine was: There was an anonymous female who met her boyfriend via email. A picture he sent, more crazy she went, but was it his? A minor detail. Reggie Bautista _ MSN 8 helps eliminate e-mail viruses. Get 2 months FREE*. http://join.msn.com/?page=features/virus ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Quoting Richard Baker [EMAIL PROTECTED]: JJ said: * Did you found the love of your life online? Or.. * Do you have an online dating horror story you wish to share? Salon.com have been running several stories like this every week in their Match Made in Heaven, Match Made in Hell series on online dating: http://dir.salon.com/topics/heaven_and_hell/index.html Rich GCU Funny And Touching Thanks, Rich and Jon !! I appreciate the note. My kids thank you. Anyone else? ;-) JJ Mendicant XSysop - This mail sent through : http://webmail.coqui.net ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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I teach a Computer Science course, and I'm asking my students to research on the topic of The Pros and Cons of Online Dating. You mean, pros are the professionals, and cons are the convicts? Alberto Monteiro ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Alberto Monteiro wrote: I teach a Computer Science course, and I'm asking my students to research on the topic of The Pros and Cons of Online Dating. You mean, pros are the professionals, and cons are the convicts? That's an amusing way of looking at it. I'm sure he meant reasons for and reasons against, but I like your interpretation a lot, Alberto. Julia ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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At 01:31 PM 1/28/2003 +0400 [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: * Did you found the love of your life online? Or.. Since I'm single, I guess that that's a No. * Do you have an online dating horror story you wish to share? Met a girl OnLine in real life after only a few letters and one phone call. We got together, and she literally was almost incapable of holding a conversation. We stopped for Lunch after seeing a Smithsonian together, and she ordered chicken wings!Now, I'm from Buffalo and was raised on wings, but even I know not to order chicken wings on a date, let alone a first date!Its the only date that I ever waited to mercifully end. * Do you have advice that you would like to give those poor, young souls that are venturing into the wild frontier of the Internet dating sites? For most things, be as honest and up-front as possible. If you deliberate create a misconception in the mind of your date, your chances of your relationship going somewhere are slim. That, and meet in real-life as quickly as possible. Quite simple, there is no substitute for real-life interactions, that use of telecommunications just can't match. Also, make sure you learn from the process. Think about those profiles that seem interesting to you, and make you want to start writing, and then think about your own profile and how to make yourself seem interesting to those types of people. Lastly, don't get frustrated. Probably 1 out of 3 people you write on the 'Net won't write back, and of those, maybe 1 out of 3 won't write to you for more than a couple weeks. And then, once you get to a first meeting, 1 out 4 or so will end after that first meeting.In other words, internet dating isn't a direct path to a dating relationship, let alone marital bliss, but it can definitely help expose you to a far larger pool of individuals than you might meet otherwise. * Incidentally, if anyone out there knows of any particular website that may have information on how Online Dating got started (a history of sorts), I'll appreciate it. Most dating sites have a list of success stories that are often mildly interesting. JDG ___ John D. Giorgis - [EMAIL PROTECTED] People everywhere want to say what they think; choose who will govern them; worship as they please; educate their children -- male and female; own property; and enjoy the benefits of their labor. These values of freedom are right and true for every person, in every society -- and the duty of protecting these values against their enemies is the common calling of freedom-loving people across the globe and across the ages. -US National Security Policy, 2002 ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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John D. Giorgis wrote: At 01:31 PM 1/28/2003 +0400 [EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: * Did you found the love of your life online? Or.. Since I'm single, I guess that that's a No. * Do you have an online dating horror story you wish to share? Met a girl OnLine in real life after only a few letters and one phone call. We got together, and she literally was almost incapable of holding a conversation. We stopped for Lunch after seeing a Smithsonian together, and she ordered chicken wings!Now, I'm from Buffalo and was raised on wings, but even I know not to order chicken wings on a date, let alone a first date!Its the only date that I ever waited to mercifully end. Why don't you order chicken wings on a date? Not something I would do anyway (not that fond of wings, but will assist in ordering eating if enough other people at the table want them). Would it be a bad thing to order a cheeseburger on a date? Bad to keep the onions on the burger? Is there some Tex-Mex specialty dish that ought to be avoided at all costs? If so, what? Some sushi that would be bad as first-date food? Is it impolite to bum wasabi if you're allergic to fish and hence not eating sushi, but eating at the sushi place to be polite, and also because they have some good non-sushi things that you *can* eat in most sushi places, including wasabi? I know you have to be careful when you're out with someone who cannot stand the thought of anyone actually eating a pickle when you yourself like them. (At an agreed-upon moment, the other person looks the other way while you chow down every pickle on the table. You don't exactly get to savor them, but at least they're not in the way of the other person's enjoyment after that.) Julia who's never done online dating and not terribly likely to any time in the future, because hey, she found the love of her life in the co-ed college dorm and spent an awful lot of time in his room initially to get away from a somewhat inconsiderate roommate (as opposed to the extremely inconsiderate roommate) ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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I'd say John's figures are a little skewed IME. I used to do some net dating when I got tired of being desperately lonely. I'd say of all the contacts I made, perhaps 10% actually wrote back, and about half to a quarter were interested enough to date. One thing to keep in mind is that pictures CAN lie. I dated about 3 girls that I felt looked ok on a net picture, but in person was less so. Also once you move from e-mail to phone, don't let success there create too much expectation. One time, I had met this girl O-L. We hit it off on the phone...remarkably so. We were chatty, witty, fun and intellectually stimulating. And there was a little sexual innuendo too. At one point she said she was amazed at how well things were going and that I was a real catch (yes I was impressed and a little flattered). Finally she asked me to dinner. I had seen a picture of her before, but felt she was acceptably attractive (a little big but I like my women with curves rather than bones so I gave her the benefit of the doubt). When we finally met in person I was wholly and utterly un attracted to her. Furthermore, our conversations became awkward when things weren't working out...especially after all of the romantic and sexual tension that inadvertently built up in our phone conversations. So don't let unrealistic expectations build up. Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Damon. Damon Agretto [EMAIL PROTECTED] Qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum. http://www.geocities.com/garrand.geo/index.html Now Building: Revell's Tiger Ausf. H ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
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Damon wrote: Thankfully, after dozens of dates and other duds (one claimed she had sex with 30+ guys by our second date) I finally met someone I fell in love with. We're looking to get married sometime this summer... Very cool, congratulations Damon, and best of luck! GSV Happily Ever After ___ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
