Thanks Doc - that was nice. But FFL - really? :-).
Anyway Doc - it's a fool's errand hence the cop out - Perhaps I evoked
the feelings of pity and sympathy for my naivete, my hopeless idealism,
romanticism?
As far as I can see the women who are my core, target audience - the sweet,
kind, loving, liberal yet tortured women are quite happy numbing their
pain, indulging in fantasies - their fantasies on being healers,
therapists. Others fantasizing on global peace, age of enlightenment, many
on Gandhi, Teresa, Dalai Lama, Divine Mothers, Yogis, Babas, Avatars. They
want to avoid conflict, drama at all cost, they are attending classes on
Non-Violent Communication.
I was just inspired to pen my thoughts - looking back it's just a
distilled, secular, modern slant of my life and my experiences - devoid of
any religious, Hindu jargon. Hope my old man read it and hope he liked it
:-). I figured I paid for a 6 month subscription on match, completely
impulsive, so I might as well sell my philosophy to whoever dares to wander
to my profile, likely every one will cop out. I'm not going to do a damn
thing messaging anyone - it's just a waste of my time. I will when I feel
like it - click on random profiles of women who I take fancy to and then
they will read what I have to say.
I recall reading Vigyan Bhairav Tantra long time back and Devi asking Shiva
- Oh Lord, What is your reality? What is this wonder-filled Universe. What
constitutes seed? Who centers the universal wheel? What is this life beyond
form pervading forms? How may we enter it fully, above space and time,
names and descriptions? Let my doubts be cleared. and Shiva just starts
talking about various techniques. I personally think they are pretty
outdated.
On Mon, May 13, 2013 at 5:10 AM, doctordumb...@rocketmail.com
no_re...@yahoogroups.com wrote:
**
Here's hoping you find someone, Ravi - Perhaps invite them to join FFL, as
a first or second date?? Outwit, outplay, outlast, Survivor.
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Ravi Chivukula chivukula.ravi@...
wrote:
​​I was inspired to revisit match dot com today, I don't expect
anything
out of it nor have too much emotional investment in it but I loved
articulating myself on what I would want. So FWIW - enjoy !!!
--
OK I have revamped my profile and hope to make hay (find love) while the
sun shines (my subscription stays current).
The foremost quality that I would like in my partner is one who is on a
journey to self-knowledge. Someone who is always willing to examine all
modalities - whether it be religion, science or psychology, willing to to
be on a quest for self-inquiry, self-discovery, self-exploration.
Willing to go as far as the intellect can go, yet retain the love, sense
of
joy and wonder, curiosity about life. Not let any belief - be it religion
or science constrain their self-expression, self-freedom and deprive
themselves from this wonder, awe and innocence. Understands the paradox
of
the guilt, the burden a loving, creative person feels, this existential
despair yet retaining the love, the joy, the vulnerability.
Didn't Jesus say - the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to the childlike? I'm
sure
that's what he was referring to. Didn't Einstein regret spending his
whole
life trying to de-mystify the Universe?
Someone who strives to be emotionally, psychologically intelligent, to
achieve emotional, psychological sophistication.
Understands that life is too dynamic, truth is dynamic to be wrapped into
beliefs even it be values such as peace, non-violence, humility not that
they wouldn't be peaceful or humble. An authentic expression of anger,
especially in a woman, is more beautiful than an inauthentic laugh,
authentic arrogance more beautiful than pseudo humility. Understands that
conflict leads to growth and is not conflict-averse.
Someone who is socially very liberal, reaches out to others with love and
compassion and understands the values of responsibility and
accountability
for oneself, morality, ethics for oneself not as a curve-ball, fastball
to
judge, condemn others or wallow in hatred like conservatives.
Someone who is an INFJ or even ISFJ on Myers-Brigss Type Indicator and
has
lots of 6's and 9's on the Enneagram.
Perhaps what I have said finds an intuitive resonance with you? You find
this journey as I do? As exciting as a trip to Peru? Or Paris? Or the
cruise to Bahamas?
If not I hope I have at least entertained you. Perhaps I evoked the
feelings of pity and sympathy for my naivete, my hopeless idealism,
romanticism? Perhaps foreseeing a life of loneliness for me? No worries
- I
may be a hopeless romantic, my heart may have deceived me several times
in
the past but I have learned the art of indulging in the fantasies fueled
by
my hopeless romanticism yet not let myself veer too far away from
reality.
I am a laid-back,
