[FairfieldLife] Judy says: Drop the hypocritical smile (was Re: 7750 people learned TM...)
--- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Michael Dean Goodman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > authfriend <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Michael Dean Goodman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > >> Vaj I say to you, with a big smile on my face: > > [huge snip] > > > Ya know, Michael, you really could stand to drop the > > "big smile" thing when you know you're about to tear > > somebody (albeit deservedly) into little shreds, at > > least unless you make it clear it isn't a *friendly* > > smile but one of anticipation, i.e., that you're > > looking forward to the tearing process. > > > > Otherwise it makes you look very unpleasantly > > hypocritical, which rather tends to detract from the > > effectiveness of your tirade. > My smile was actually none of your business, Judy (I don't mean > that rudely - just literally). It was between Vaj and myself. Well, actually, Michael, anything you post on a forum such as this becomes the business of anyone who reads it. > I know that you feel an irresistible compulsion to point out > and "correct" situations that appear, to you, to be dishonest or > hypocritical - but what you perceived here was simply a mis- > perception by you, a mistake. There was NO dishonesty or > hypocrisy. Now that you know that, You mean, now that I know that's how you want to portray it. > I'd suggest two actions would be in order: > > a. An apology to me - for shooting from the hip before you actually > inquired into and understood what was really going on. I might consider apologizing if I found your explanations convincing, but I don't. > b. A vow from you to direct your anti-dishonesty compulsion > elsewhere. > > Don't start with me! You've only done that one time, years ago, > and got smashed. Remember, she who attacks first is guaranteed > to lose. Michael, remember, you don't intimidate me in the slightest. When you get into nuclear-attack mode and attempt to pull rank, you don't "smash" anybody, you just make yourself look overwrought. And putting a "smile" on your attacks, however you choose to rationalize it, makes you look insincere as well, as if you didn't even have the courage of your convictions. This feeble behavior is in such stark contrast to the wisdom you're capable of conveying when you're calm and collected that it tends to destroy any confidence one might have had in the wisdom to start with. That's what I was attempting to point out to you. You had a terrific case that Vaj had made an utter fool of himself. All you needed to do was set out the facts, and finish up with the bit of dead-on analysis of Vaj's posts that I complimented you on in another post. The "smile" bit and the superfluous flailing around--not to mention the ridiculous posturing in *this* post--just ruins the effect. Ask your editor what s/he thinks. If s/he's any good, I suspect s/he'll agree. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
[FairfieldLife] Judy says: Drop the hypocritical smile (was Re: 7750 people learned TM...)
HAHAHA. Thats one of the best parodies I have ever read Michael. Kudos. You captured the bombasic volcanic ego-type perfectly. So nanced with subtle detail of those global-sized egos, totally devoid of self-reflection, taking themselves so so seriously. Really marvelous work. And that on top of the earlier hugely funny parody of the hyper-obsessive types that feel the need to respond in huge torrents of mind-numbing excessive detail to defend even the slightest transgressions on their fragile egos - which are usually mostly in their own mind to begin with -- oblivious to all traces of social gracefulness. Great work. --- In FairfieldLife@yahoogroups.com, Michael Dean Goodman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > authfriend <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Michael Dean Goodman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > >> Vaj I say to you, with a big smile on my face: > > [huge snip] > > > Ya know, Michael, you really could stand to drop the > > "big smile" thing when you know you're about to tear > > somebody (albeit deservedly) into little shreds, at > > least unless you make it clear it isn't a *friendly* > > smile but one of anticipation, i.e., that you're > > looking forward to the tearing process. > > > > Otherwise it makes you look very unpleasantly > > hypocritical, which rather tends to detract from the > > effectiveness of your tirade. To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
[FairfieldLife] Judy says: Drop the hypocritical smile (was Re: 7750 people learned TM...)
> authfriend <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Michael Dean Goodman <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: >> Vaj I say to you, with a big smile on my face: [huge snip] > Ya know, Michael, you really could stand to drop the > "big smile" thing when you know you're about to tear > somebody (albeit deservedly) into little shreds, at > least unless you make it clear it isn't a *friendly* > smile but one of anticipation, i.e., that you're > looking forward to the tearing process. > > Otherwise it makes you look very unpleasantly > hypocritical, which rather tends to detract from the > effectiveness of your tirade. Judy, There is a principle in the martial arts, that whoever strikes first loses. Because to strike at another takes you off your center, re- your imbalance, and opens you up. The impulse that pushes you to take action, to strike out at another, takes you down the path of a specific energy, a specific possibility - and takes you out of the place of all possibilities. A master warrior knows that as soon as you feel that desire come up, and then yield to it and let it turn into action, you've already lost. I DID have a big smile on my face when I wrote that line to Vaj. I wasn't being hypocritical in the slightest. Nor was the smile either "friendly" or "one of anticipation...of looking forward to the tearing process". Those are your words, reflecting the options that you con- ceive of having in that situation. Your choice of words reflects a lot about your inner state. But I wasn't feeling either of those. I was feeling very centered, and enjoying the cosmic inevitability of it all. Vaj chose, foolishly, to play his game with me. He's never done that before. In all these years, he's never directly responded to any post of mine, never really commented on one, except obliquely. But yesterday he did, for the first time, directly engage me. And so, like a samurai sword master feels when some challenger steps out of their own center and takes a few impotent swipes at him with their sword, and the samurai master witnesses the inevitability of his own oncoming response, the fo- cused slash of his own sword reflecting the karma of the foolish attacker right back at him, and the master smiles at both his own centeredness, and his opponent's blatant uncenteredness, and at the cosmic humor of the laws of nature involved - in that way I smiled as I found myself starting to reply to Vaj. Try to understand that kind of smile. My smile was actually none of your business, Judy (I don't mean that rude- ly - just literally). It was between Vaj and myself. Vaj gets a rush out of knocking people off their center, out of making people feel "not-OK", out of intimidating people. He knew what my words "with a big smile on my face" really meant. They meant, to him, that he was not successful, that I didn't feel off-center, or not-OK, or intimidated. They meant, to him, that he was not successful, and that I was not going to engage him from that weakened position that he likes to put people in. My smile meant, to him, that I accepted his challenge, and since he stepped off center to challenge me first, since he yielded to his own deep needs and constrictions, he was going to get whooped. And Judy, I don't remember asking you for coaching on my writing style. I already have a wonderful editor, and use him extensively. I know that you feel an irresistible compulsion to point out and "cor- rect" situations that appear, to you, to be dishonest or hypocritical - but what you perceived here was simply a mis-perception by you, a mis- take. There was NO dishonesty or hypocrisy. Now that you know that, I'd suggest two actions would be in order: a. An apology to me - for shooting from the hip before you actually inquired into and understood what was really going on. b. A vow from you to direct your anti-dishonesty compulsion elsewhere. Don't start with me! You've only done that one time, years ago, and got smashed. Remember, she who attacks first is guaranteed to lose. Sincere questions are welcome; commentary on the substantive content of my posts is welcome; non-consensual attempts to bring me into alignment with your conception of honesty and non-hypocrisy are NOT welcome. Be forewarned - I have no patience for that. Namaste, Michael PARA - THE CENTER FOR REALIZATION Michael Dean Goodman, Ph.D., D.D., Director Boca Raton (Palm Beach County) Florida 561-350-3930 (messages received 24 hours a day) * [EMAIL PROTECTED] Spiritual guide (ashtanga yoga/meditation, tantra, vedanta, ayur veda...) Counselor * Author * Speaker/Educator Satsang * Workshops & Retreats * Classes * Private Educational Sessions Clients and programs throughout the United States, Europe, and India Working in person or by phone Free initial consultation to discuss your needs and goals To subscribe, send a message to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Or go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/FairfieldLife/ and click 'Join This Group!' Ya
