BISMILLAH-I-RAHMAN-I-RAHEEM
Assalaam u Alaikum All,
Can anyone guide me how to get the text of Dua that is recited after prayer. I
am looking for this specific Dua that conatains teh words " Ilahi Qalbi
Mahjoor, Wa Aqli Maghloob ...." or something in that sense.
Allah Hafiz
Syed Faraaz Mahdi
Subject: [Shia Group] How An Ideal Husband FW: FRIDAY SUPPLEMENT -
27th March
Date: Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:05:56 +0000
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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
27th March
2009
29th Rabi ul awwal 1430
FRIDAY SUPPLEMENT
How An Ideal Husband
Most
Muslim men would like to be ideal husbands. And most Muslim women would, no
doubt, like to be married to one. But, for some reason, the men are not ideal
husbands, and the women will almost surely admit that they didn't marry one.
So, why the discrepancy between our sincere aspirations and reality? Is it an
inability on the part of the man, an impossible goal; or is it perhaps that we
do not even know what an ideal Muslim husband is?
Wrong Concept of an Ideal Husband
Muslim men looking for wives advertise themselves as
doctors, engineers, and financially secure. Muslim women appear to be on the
lookout for an established professional or more likely a handsome MD. Rarely do
Muslim men and women even mention character, religious convictions, and
attitudes as a priority. At most, they might be mentioned as a sidebar. It
seems that many of us believe that a man is an ideal Muslim husband if he is
handsome, makes a lot of money, and comes from an influential family. And the
divorce rate among Muslims continues to rise.
As Muslims, we must base our judgment on what makes an ideal Muslim husband on
the guidance of Allah (swt) and the example of Prophet Muhammad (SAWS), not on
the standards of a TV sitcom, the culture in which we were born, or our own
materialistic mentality. In fact being an ideal Muslim husband has very little
or nothing to do with the amount of money one has, physical beauty, or the
prestige of one's job. Rather, it has to do with one's commitment to Allah
(swt), one's knowledge of and willingness to follow the guidance of Allah (swt)
and the Prophet's example, and one's commitment to do righteousness even in
difficult situations. The ideal Muslim husband should be humble, gentle, kind,
considerate, caring, loving, open to good advice, willing to cooperate with
others in the family rather than dictate rules, helpful in the house, involved
in raising the children, and never abusive either physically or mentally.
First
Characteristic of an
Un-Ideal Husband: Hot Temper
A major problem in some Muslim marriages
unfortunately is the husband's hot temper and harsh behavior. Some even go so
far as to abuse their wives. There should be no violence between husband and
wife and Muslim men should not be the kind of tyrannical fathers whose children
run away and hide when their father comes home. We have to separate our
non-Islamic cultures from Islam. The ideal Muslim husband will base his
behavior on Islam, not on his Arab, American, or Pakistani culture.
Second Characteristic of an
Un-Ideal Husband: Egoistic.
Another major problem in Muslim marriages is the
husband's failure to consider his wife's opinions. In fact, the failure of the
Muslim Ummah as a whole has to do with our failure in practicing the concept of
Shura (consultation). People think that they are right and others are wrong. We
will do much better if we consider the opinions of others and let them feel
that they are a part of the decision-making process. Along the same lines,if a
woman makes a true (haqq) point, the husband should submit to it. He should in
no way reject a point just because it comes from a woman. Demonstrating the
huge difference between the way the Prophet (SAWS) dealt with his wives and the
way Muslim men deal with their wives today,there was the time when Prophet
Muhammad (SAWS) was sleeping under one cover with his wife Ayesha, and he asked
her permission to get up to pray.
Third Characteristic of an
Un-Ideal Husband: Unhelpful
The failure to help in the house and to help with the
raising of the children are well-known weaknesses of husbands. It’s clear from
the ahadith that Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) helped in the house, and Abdul Malik
Mujahid says that a man cannot be an ideal Muslim husband, or even close to a
good husband, if he leaves the responsibility of children completely to the
mother. Khadija Haffagee tells the story of a father who took a three-month-old
infant to pray with him and after the prayer did the 'tasbih" on the
child's hand. This, she said, was training by the father. When training our
children, we should be careful not to raise sons with a double standard where
they have no household responsibilities. If we do, they will likely grow up
with the attitude that they don't need to do this kind of work --- that they
are above it.
Prophet: An Ideal Father
As a beautiful example of a healthy
father-child relationship,is the story of how the Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) used
to stand up for his daughter Fatima, kiss her, and give her his seat when she
came to him. This was in an age when people preferred sons and looked down on
having daughters. With this simple act, the Prophet (SAWS) showed us how to
express love and affection for our children --- an essential quality for an
ideal Muslim husband.
An Ideal Ex-Husband
Being an ideal Muslim husband, however,
goes even farther than the marriage. Even after a divorce, a Muslim husband
must strive to be the best ex-husband. A husband shouldn't be Mr. Kindness in
marriage and then treat his wife badly in divorce. He must divorce her in the
best manner with good treatment.
Source: video by sound vision: “The Ideal husband”
Tabligh Sub Committee -
KSI Jamaat, DSM
P. O. Box 233, Dar-es-Salaam,
Tanzania
Tel.:+255 22 2115119 / Fax.: +255 22
2127555
Website: www.dartabligh.org,
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