On Tue, Apr 21, 2009 at 8:59 PM, . <[email protected]> wrote:

> On Tue, Apr 21, 2009 at 3:01 PM, Zainab Bawa <[email protected]>
> wrote:
> > Not really so. In Bangalore, a Belgian friend of mine was told that she
> > would be allowed to take up the place only if she promised to stay
> > vegetarian. Another American friend in Mumbai, married and with kids, was
> > refused housing on grounds of vegetarianism.
>
> Assuming that your Belgian and American friends are not Muslim, the
> claim that its a plot to keep out the whole Muslim community does not
> stand. It seems like an individual's bias about who should live in his
> private property.  Should he be hauled to jail for that? I dont think
> so. He is just yet another narrow-minded person I'd would rather avoid
> even if the property was rent-free.  Its also a misnomer that "all
> Hindus are vegetarian" which is more of individual choice or a
> family's choice in some cases, but definitely not a religious one.
> Religion per se is not evil, rather its the people who use (any)
> religion to control and grab power or dictate terms to others that are
> the root of the problem.  What happened to your friends (and you) are
> an individual's bias and by stretching that line of logic I can think
> of gazillion personal instances when I have been discriminated against
> on the basis of my gender, age, nationality, skin color, religion,
> ....  I happen to know a Sikh family who are staunch vegetarians and
> would not wish to mingle or marry a person different from them.  I
> also know Jains who eat meat outside the house but toe the line and
> would not dare risk offending the better half (or his parents) by even
> mentioning "chicken tikka or kebab" at home.
>
> And yet, stretching that line of reasoning and argument is a scary
> double-edged sword, as in, any women could easily take offence at any
> matrimonial sites because they encourage Indian men to advertise for a
> bride thus : "Male, 31 yrs, 5'10" very fair (brown-skin is so not
> metro-sexual when you have skin-whitening products for men modeled by
> the Badshah of Bollywood himself), handsome, highly educated
> Phd/Engineer/Doctor/add education, add religion (category, subcaste no
> bar.  Wow, a broad-minded bloke !) seeks a mutually compatible
> accomplished (read, willing to be my lifelong unpaid housemaid who
> will provide sex-at-my-command) educated/working (another unsaid
> euphemism for dowry in monthly installments) bride.  The opposite is
> also true but they dont sound very logical to me.  Would it be
> illogical and unfair to label every Indian male who advertises his
> personal preferences as a racist and chauvinistic pig or claim that
> "ALL men are rapists" because the proportion of men who rape is more
> than the opposite ; which does seem like stretching logic a wee bit
> too much for half the world's population being discriminated against,
> if numbers count.
>
> Does'nt discrimination start the moment we divide, classify and
> sub-classify things, people, animals, [add your poison of choice],
> along various criteria?  Being "different" is a form of discrimination
> too but the last I heard, the politically correct name was
> "diversity". In a biological sense, each of us is uniquely different,
> if DNA matters.
>
> --
> .
>
> And also, I am not an advocate of regulations to curb discrimination. As
has been pointed out in some of the postings, biases and prejudices are very
deep seated. Applying regulations can be counter-productive in the sense of
increasing the antagonism. Neither do I believe that the market will solve
the problem. Some pretty radical dislocations are required i.e. traditions
and paradigms that challenge the hegemonic beliefs of religion, identity and
property.


-- 
Zainab Bawa
Ph.D. Student and Independent Researcher

Between Places ...
http://zainab.freecrow.org

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